I'm just curious.
If you have a large family, is that what you've always wanted?
What it a decision made after you were married (or in your relationship)?
As a kid I can remember being the girl who's Barbie had the most kids and was always pregnant (I made "pregnant barbie" WAY before Matel did!).
I all I ever really wanted was to be a mom.
I got pregnant when I was 17y and was SOOOO excited. All my friends thought I was scared and going to ruin my life...ect. But I had another baby after her 19m later.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE it.
I love it every single day.
Even when they are on my nerves...I love them!!!
HeatherlovesCDs
10-05-2011, 01:06 PM
Nope. I wanted 3 or maybe 4. I currently have 5 and hope to have more. For us, we needed to do IVF to get pregnant. Before we went forward, we decided that we would transfer all embryos created though this process. We thought we would be luck to end up with 3 children. God had other plans. :D We were extremely successful doing it. We have had a single and 2 sets of twins and we still have 4 more embryos to transfer to me. We know it is unlikely, but we hope to have 5 more children. 4 from the embryos we still have and 1 homemade miracle baby.
Even though we didn't plan it this way, we LOVE it and wouldn't want it any other way.
Big family are awesome!! :yay:
Macyllehub
10-05-2011, 02:40 PM
No, I didn't want to get married and certainly did NOT want children when I was growing up. I was going to conquer the world or something of the sort..... I don't really remember.
Now I cannot imagine not conquering the world in this profound and amazing way. I love my life completely and love my family growing.
Radish4ever
10-05-2011, 03:12 PM
I think I just wanted one or two...
Then I surprised myself by wanting a #3..... and now we're surprised by our #4 (even though we weren't trying, weren't preventing for a few months) because the pregnancy and postpartum issues with #3 were horrendous.
I never saw myself with a bunch of kids..
tygr2410
10-05-2011, 05:29 PM
When I was 16, I remember a conversation with an adult friend at church. He was a friends dad and we were stuck in a van together for 3 hours traveling with no radio. At some point I declared I didn't want any kids...he (a father of 4) said "oh, you'll have 4 or 5!"....number four is due in may. Lol!
Sometime after that I ha changed my mind but didn't want kids as an older teen. I met and married my husband and remember saying to my best friends "I'm going to marry him, move to TX, an make babies with him!"
AcrossTheUniverse
10-05-2011, 05:34 PM
I have always known I wanted 6 kids. Growing up I told everyone I was going to have 6 kids and they all laughed. My ex-h new I wanted 6 kids but I think he might not have taken me seriously. After we had #2 he was done and I wanted another. #3 was an "accident" and our marriage ended shortly after. My current DH knew I was serious and didn't have any issues with it. He even jokes about getting a 12 passenger van and filling it up. :giggle: I had my first at 20 and am 25 now expecting #5. Most of my friends from highschool don't have kids at all yet and aren't even married or in serious relationships. I definitely want at least 1 more.
CherryPie
10-05-2011, 05:41 PM
I wanted 5 and I have four and we are undecided on a 5th but I'm pretty sure a 5th and possibly a 6th will happen before we are "done"
Mamata3
10-05-2011, 06:56 PM
I didnt want any kids when i was growing up. My first born(DD) was an opps and i thank God for her everyday! i then married My DH (her dad) and have a step son and 2 birth children by him. I couldnt even think what my life would be like if i have never had my babies!
fivetimemommy
10-06-2011, 08:39 AM
All my life I always wanted 4 kids. When I got pregnant with 5 I was terrified. Now, I want a 6th Lol. I love kids, have always wanted a big family and couldn't imagine not having one!
Momof6girlz
10-06-2011, 11:55 AM
I am an only child and hated not having a brother or sister. So I always said I would have at least 4. Now we have 5 and are going to start TTC #6 this month :)
Psychomom
10-06-2011, 12:43 PM
Before having children, I only wanted 2. After having my first, I still only wanted 2. It was after I had the second that I knew I wasn't done. I had the third and truly felt complete, but got that fourth one in spite of my husband already having his vasectomy scheduled. Oops! Best surprise ever...we often say our awesome our family dynamic is with the fourth and we can't believe we didn't plan to have him. :) We think our family is perfect for us.
My husband wanted 3 children prior to having any, but once we had our first he said he was done. Thankfully he's sensitive enough to take my needs and wants into consideration and agreed to the 2nd and 3rd kids. See above for the fourth. ;)
steph410
10-06-2011, 12:56 PM
i have 4 kids so far (not sure if it's a large fam or not). i didn't really think about having a big family. but after each baby i found myself thinking very strongly that i wanted another one. once we had 3, i started to say things like "i want to have a big family" to my husband. but it wasn't like something i always dreamed about.
I'm just curious.
If you have a large family, is that what you've always wanted?
What it a decision made after you were married (or in your relationship)?
As a kid I can remember being the girl who's Barbie had the most kids and was always pregnant (I made "pregnant barbie" WAY before Matel did!).
I all I ever really wanted was to be a mom.
I got pregnant when I was 17y and was SOOOO excited. All my friends thought I was scared and going to ruin my life...ect. But I had another baby after her 19m later.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE it.
I love it every single day.
Even when they are on my nerves...I love them!!!
ChelseaGirl7
10-06-2011, 01:19 PM
I'm due with #4 in about a month. I always wanted at least 4 kids, and honestly figured 5-8 sounded like a good number. We have no plans on being done after this one, and dh has always been on board with a big family, he is the second of 10 kids.
holl_ie
10-07-2011, 02:47 AM
I definitely thought I would have less than what I want now.We have 4 and I definitely want 2-3 more but we will have to go about it in a new way due to health problems.I can totally see myself on a farm with a passel of kids and animals.
MyCrazy8
10-07-2011, 05:27 AM
I always wanted a big family, and only ever wanted to be a mom. There were 7 kids in our family growing up, and I loved it because there was always someone to play with.
Megan22
10-07-2011, 05:50 AM
We had planned on only having our oldest DD. Then when she was 16 months old, found out we were expecting twins. We said we were done after them, but now I want one more.
mom2luke&jake
10-07-2011, 07:02 AM
I have wanted 6 kiddos since dh and I met. tygr said I just wanted to marry him and make babies with him! :giggle: But I think after this one Im done. Due to health purposes I dont think I could handle another pregnancy. Although if this one isnt a girl were gonna be adopting in the near future! :giggle:
trying4more
10-07-2011, 06:37 PM
That's neat. It seems that 4 is a stopping #, or you start thinking about more or not after #4.
I'm expecting #4 in Feb. We are NOT done. Although, we do believe God plans our family size.
I'm one of 9 and my DH is one of 15, so we've always been around big families!
I'm a SAHM and LOVE it. My sister thinks I'm stuck at home all day, but I honestly love being home and preparing my house for my kids and DH. I do school part time to be a RN but I've taken a few years off to keep up with the kids.
Some people that I'm old school and crazy, but I love it. I'm happy!
Fashionably Green Baby
10-07-2011, 07:01 PM
I don't feel our family qualifies at big yet but here is my story LOL
I went through a period around the beginning of high school where I did not want any children but only for 1 reason. I REALLY though I wanted to be a lawyer and live in the city (Manhattan or the like) and I am a workaholic at heart. Being around kids my entire life I know that kids need an exceptional amount of mommy time and with that career path I knew I would not be able to be the mom I would want to be as well as do the amount of work I would want to do. WELL fast forward to my senior year and my passion for art REALLY kicked into high gear. I decided I wanted to pursue art as a career and decided I would like 2 kids.
DH and I had DD and he said he could be done but I told him we had to have 1 more. When we got pregnant with DS we told everyone he was our last but the minute he was born I just KNEW I was not done. It was an unshakable feeling and I told DH. DD2 was a surprise baby but we only got pregnant with her a couple months before I wanted to start TTC. I thought surely I would feel done after her.....NOPE! I don't know if I will get another one but I sure do like to think I will LOL
Vivhop98
10-07-2011, 07:04 PM
I didn't even know if I wanted children. DS was a surprise 8 years ago and now we have three. I think we would have stopped at 2 if we weren't given the opportunity to adopt, so three is way more than I ever pictured for myself.
I wasn't the girl who liked dolls; I was more of a tomboy. I hung out with mostly guys until I became a mom!
mommmy
10-08-2011, 03:07 PM
I always thought I'd have 2 kids...I think our decision changed when I chose to become a stay at home mom after getting pregnant with our first. We will have 4 in December and plan on having a few more later on. I don't think I could have had 4+ kids and still juggle a career.
BackyardHerbalist
10-16-2011, 06:55 PM
I always wanted a big family, no specific number though. We're expecting our 10th and I only became QF a year ago, lol. I turned 41 today so we will possibly have a few more after this.
Pat899
10-17-2011, 10:57 AM
We both wanted 8. Now we have nine and DH wants another. I am coming around. :giggle2:
spencerrn
10-17-2011, 12:26 PM
My DH asked me on our very 1st date, "How many children do you want to have?". I said "5" He said "why not 6?" I said, "5 is all that will fit in a minivan with us". He said,"I will buy you a bigger car!!" We married 6 months after that 1st date. We now have 6 children and are open to many more. We've been married for almost 12 years.
blessedx8
10-19-2011, 10:00 AM
Lol! No, I only wanted 3. BUT that to me WAS a large family :roflmbo: Most of the people we knew only had 2 kids, very rarely did I see a family of even 3. You sound very much like me, though, I always wanted to be a mom so it just kind of evolved after I married dh. We finally turned our "family planning" over to the Lord 4 or so years ago and we've never looked back. Now we have a combined total of 11 and I'm 41 but we could still have a few more (hopefully!). People think I'm crazy but that's ok. :thumbsup:
