just curious. we're at 11 weeks now, but have had a 13 week m/c and a 20 weeks stillbirth so im still hesitant to say anything.....when do you announce to friends, family, etc?
12-03-2011, 06:10 AM
All of our losses have been before 8 weeks. I'm almost 12 weeks now, but we still haven't gone public yet. Part of it is a fear of jinxing ourselves and part of it is waiting to tell our extended family in person. By Christmas the world at large will know.
If I had a second trimester loss, I'd want the support of all of my loved ones to get me through, so that's my reasoning for going public.
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12-03-2011, 11:02 AM
We went to immediate family at 6 weeks, extended family and my work at 8. I wanted to wait on telling work, but the morning sickness was WAY to bad, so I had to tell them.
We have told our friends scattered in the middle there, but told them not to tell. We are just waiting to tell 2 more people before we make it "facebook official" but we haven't been able to meet up with them! We will probably do "Facebook official" come January just because Christmas is to crazy, it will get lost in the buzz.
12-03-2011, 07:32 PM
We told everyone right around thanksgiving, at 9 weeks.
12-03-2011, 07:36 PM
I was about 12 weeks, but people had already noticed my bump.
ETA: sorry for the DDC.
Don't worry, it's autocorrect, I know how to type in English. ;p
12-03-2011, 07:46 PM
I am about 14 weeks and haven't announced. Classes ended (I teach at a university) last week and do not resume until the second week in January, so basically right now I look like I have put on a little weight and will probably come back looking pregnant. At which point I will announce at work and on fb.
I haven't told friends IRL yet because to be completely honest, in my circle it is a super weird thing to have four kids. Five is going to be Duggar-esque to everyone, and I am not ready to deal with the jokes yet.
12-03-2011, 07:50 PM
We told DH's family at 6wks - but we always tell them fairly right away. We told our kids and close friends at 7.5wks, and DD told my parents on her birthday about a month ago - so 9-10wks?
As for everyone else, we haven't said anything. People can just figure it out as they notice the belly - the past couple weeks, everyone who has seen me has mentioned it :)
12-03-2011, 08:17 PM
Alot of people wait until after the first trimester when your change for a m/c drops.
I was so excited I told my family before I even missed my period( so like 3 1/2 weeks). I told my friends at work around 5 weeks.
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12-03-2011, 10:04 PM
We told the kids and our family right away and friends and Facebook at 7 weeks after my ultrasound. With our loss in August, we hadn't told anyone yet, but still told everyone after I started to miscarry because we needed the support. So really, there was no point in waiting for the risk of miscarriage to go down with this one.
12-04-2011, 09:21 AM
I'm coming up on 13 weeks, and have only told a few close friends. I don't plan on making the big Facebook announcement any time soon though. I only have a sister and DH's family to tell as far as family goes but overall I'm just not ready for all of the negative crap.
12-04-2011, 10:36 AM
11 weeks and 4 days and only 2 people that I know IRL are aware that I am pregnant. One is a friend that I have know forever and the other is my bio mom. She watched the girls for me the last appointment, so instead of lying about where I was going I told her. Bio mom has the attitude of I know nothing. My friend is so excited for me, she has known that we would be trying for another one some day. I am just not ready for the negative comments, so the girls do not even know because as soon as they do, everyone will know. We are planning on moving in Feb, so the main negative person will be an hour and a half away. She is one of the main reasons we are moving. Well, that and so that DH will be closer to work. Hoping that we can keep it secret after the 20 week ultrasound. Oldest DD birthday is when I will be 22 weeks and I thought it would be a cute idea if we put an ultrasound picture in a birthday card and if the ultrasound picture says "IT'S A BOY", I am sure you would be able to hear her scream with delight in the next county over.
12-05-2011, 08:23 AM
We have told a few people, but may not make a huge announcement at all. I have kind of been toying with the idea of puttng something about it on our Christmas cards, but I feel kind of ambivalent about it for some reason.