My husband and I have been separated since June. When dd was 3 months he decided he wasn't happy and I found out he cheated. He since has has multiple gfs that he introduced his 2 other children to. Since November he hasn't paid child support so I went to court last week.
I had the sheriffs dept try to serve him but he is out of the country indefinitely. I called his boss bit he won't tell me if he's still employee there.
I'm so frustrated and sad. We both had been married before with children from our previous marriage so he knew what he was getting into. My dd is now 13 months and my other dd is 12 years old. I have nothing! I couldn't even do Christmas for them. I'm collecting food stamps which I hate doing but I can't get by otherwise. I'm a certified teacher but left my Jon to be a stay at home mom. Now I can't find a job! And he's living on a 6 figure + salary. And unfortunately because I can't serve him because he's out of the country the judge prey much said I'm SOL.
Thanks for listening.... I needed to vent.
01-22-2012, 04:53 PM
Can't they put a default order in?
They *have* to be able to do something...can you mail the letter to his old address?
01-22-2012, 05:03 PM
you might get more advice if you post this in off topic, as this section doesn't seem to get many views. hugs to you.
01-22-2012, 06:59 PM
The sheriff and a private process server tried at his house. The judge wants personal service so it can't be a nail and mail (post on his door and also mail a copy). I am hoping the judge will grant me a default order.... But then I still have the issue of getting the support.... It all takes time, which would be fine if there was money but its hard to be patient when ur trying to decide on sneakers that my dd needs or rent.
Where is the off topic board? Thanks!
01-22-2012, 09:09 PM
I feel ya. I ha not gotten any money since October and my soon to be ex is in the military! I was calling them monthly since September. I finally got in touch with the right person and was able to get $500. Luckily he is in country and my lawyer got a temporary support hearing scheduled for the 2nd. I am sorry you are going through this. It sucks, I know.
01-22-2012, 10:37 PM
I'm so sorry. I don't get anything from ex either. I really hope they can figure something out, is he employeed here?
02-02-2012, 04:09 PM
I don't know if he's still employed here... His boss won't speak with me. But um assuming he is because his other two children from a previous marriage are getting their support . Thanks for the prayers and hugs everyone.... Definitely not in a good place right now. :-(
02-02-2012, 04:24 PM
It sounds as though someone is not doing their job, I'm sorry. Have you checked local resources or even online for someone who could help you? There are websites like supportkids.com or nationalchildsupport.com - maybe at least look into the sites or give them a call for more information or resources. Also, do you have a Love Inc in the area? They help people in need in a lot of circumstances and often they can link you up with someone who can help you. I'm sorry, hope you can get a resolution.
02-02-2012, 11:32 PM
sorry mama, I just separated from my H a month back, I too am a SAHM and he makes the money, so far he has been good about still paying the bills, sorry you aren't able to find a job, with little ones daycare gets costly if you don't have a decent paying job, hopefully you can get a job next school year.