DH and I are planning on TTC starting next month. Our original plan was to wait till DS was 2 before we started thinking about TTC. I started wanting to try sooner, and DH wasn't sure, but we've talked about it, and are both on board. DH's big thing was wanting to spend time and enjoy DS, which I obviously want to do the same thing. DS is 16 months now and has always been such a good baby/toddler. DH tried bargaining with me last month when I was asking if I had to go get my BCP :giggle: He kept throwing out months for me to go off the pill, but they all seemed so far away. So he said "take this month, and then we won't refill it.". I was/am ecstatic! But, I do sometimes worry that it's too soon. Not for us in any way, we're financially able and have all the love in the world! I think the problem is that we don't totally agree on how many kids we want. We had always said 2 (1 boy and 1 girl). I started thinking 3 wouldn't be bad, but DH is pretty set on 2. I would love another boy, but I would still want to try for a girl I think. So I think part of my wanting to start TTC now would be if we did have a third. But if we are only having 2, I might not mind waiting. I know we won't know about a third till we have a 2nd though, ha!
I think I'm just nervous...more nervous about trying for baby #1. This would make them a little over 2 years apart. I want them close in age though. I have all these pictures in my head of them being buddies, and doing all sorts of fun/cute things together.
SO...how did you know when you were ready for #2? What things did you factor in? I'm excited about trying and super nervous. Our little boy is my whole world, and I want him to have a sibling(s) to share his life with!
02-08-2012, 02:06 PM
I factor in finances, temperament of current children, birthdays not being too close together, how far apart I want them to be at least, and how old I want to be when the last one goes to college. ;) DD1 and DD2 are 21 months apart (we were aiming for 2 years, expecting that we wouldn't get pregnant the first time trying, won't make that mistake again :) ). DD2 is now 13 months, and we plan on trying again in another 2-4 months. My brother and I were about 2 years apart, and my husband and his 4 brothers were all 1.5-2.5 years apart, so we like that spread. :)
02-08-2012, 02:26 PM
:wave: I know where you are coming from! DS is 15 months now, when he turned 9 months old, I was ready for another, it was like the flip of a switch where I suddenly want nothing more than to TTC #2. DH and I have always discussed having #1 and #2 3 years apart, which means TTC next fall... I have to admit, that is what we want and what works best for money reasons and schedules... but oh it is so hard to wait! :hugs: mama and good luck with whatever you decide!
02-08-2012, 05:04 PM
My LO (only child so far) is 8 months and I am already feeling the itch haha. We do want as many kids as possible but I am over 30 now and also missing a fallopian tube, so I worry it could take awhile and want to start soon!!! DH is up for anything and our finances are good... however, I am breastfeeding a lot still, I believe they call it ecological breastfeeding... I am with her 24/7, feed on demand even at night, etc. I have not had a PP AF and from what I read, I shouldn't expect one (or my fertility to return) until 15 months or so. That seems soooooo far away!!!
However I have been reflecting on it and I think it is nature's way of keeping an appropriate birth interval. For my sake and hers. So we are basically NTNP but I do not expect much to happen anytime soon... as she seems ready I will just up her solids, start doing regular meals as she eats more food, let nature take its course regarding gradual weaning and gradual return of fertility...
02-21-2012, 09:56 AM
I have two teenage sons that are 17 months apart. DS2 was a "surprise" so I didn't feel "ready" but he was a very welcomed surprise. Fast forward 13 years to the birth of DD (4.5 months old). DH wants to TTC now. I'm not ready....at all. I'm 37 (38 in April) and realize that my time is limited but I'm still getting into my baby groove with DD. If it were up to him we'd have 2 more. If it were up to me I'd be done, lol. I'm willing to compromise and have one more. No part of me is ready right now. Back when my DSs were babies I wasn't exactly ready for DS2 but I wasn't totally against it either like I am now. I'm thinking more, let's TTC when DD is a year old.