I feel like an outcast

[Cdra]

I know I'm doing the best for my lo by nursing. I just feel like an outcast. I'm never invited anywhere because people just assume I won't go because I bf. I never see my friends. Dh's family acts like I'm nuts for nursing this long (only 6months mind you) and most people feel sorry for me. Really? I wasn't sentenced to life! I'm nursing my 6 month old. I know I can't be away from her too long (she won't take a bottle) but that doesn't mean I'm on house arrest. Dh went out with friends tonight and once again I'm home alone with my lo and toddler. I don't regret nursing and am not going to stop anytime soon. I know ill look back one day and be so glad i stuck it out for her. I just wish people wouldn't act this way. I don't even know how to act in social settings anymore because I'm always alone with my kids.

I'm just venting. I don't know anyone who nursed their lo and this is the only place I can vent. No one else understands. Thanks and sorry to anyone who took the time to read this :)

[jeanalamae]

I have a 1 year old that we have never even offered a bottle. I take her everywhere with me and nurse her everywhere I go but when you choose these things you have to be super comfortable and sound in your decision and I find people just stop caring! You chose it mama so rock it!!!

[clothdipesrcool]

Way to go Mama, do whats right for you and your family. I get looks all the time for nursing my almost 3 year old. Many blessings to you!

[TwinMommaplus2]

Its hard, it is.
I felt like I couldnt do those things with my oldest, and I just choose to be a part of those things or sacrafice and not go, due to the extra work it seems to be (for me)

((hugs))

[lilmomma83]

Sorry mama. :-(

I bottlefed my middle child and still took him every where...babies are so portable! Could you maybe talk about how easy out is for you to get out with your baby, I mean, with a breastfed baby, half the time I just tuck a sposie in my back pocket and run out the door...maybe they just don't think you even want to get out..maybe you can invite them?

[ALNaturMom]

Have you tried going to nursing groups in your area? I once found a great group of new moms on Meetups, and through LLL. I had t make new friends. We'd meet up at coffee shops, restaurants, sports bars, for walking, and at each others houses.

[tibeca]

Have you tried going to nursing groups in your area? I once found a great group of new moms on Meetups, and through LLL. I had t make new friends. We'd meet up at coffee shops, restaurants, sports bars, for walking, and at each others houses.

This! Motherhood often involves reevaluating the friendships you have. Find friends that you can get along with. LLL is a great place to start. Being a breastfeeding mom doesn't mean you can't get out and have a good time. But it does mean making a few adjustments (including the kind of people you can be around).

[mysticmomma1879]

This! Motherhood often involves reevaluating the friendships you have. Find friends that you can get along with. LLL is a great place to start. Being a breastfeeding mom doesn't mean you can't get out and have a good time. But it does mean making a few adjustments (including the kind of people you can be around).

Are you baltap tibeca?

[Cdra]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I do think I need a new circle of friends that I may have more in common with. I have no problem nursing anywhere I go. It just sucks not being able to go places that are not baby friendly. Maybe it won't be so hard in me if I find more adults like me. Im planning on going to a play date at a local park this Tuesday. It's a baby wearing international meetup. I'm sure I'll make some friends.

[juliasmom]

How ridiculous! Dont they know boobs and babies are portable! New friends would help, but you need to empower yourself. Interject yourself into the outing once or twice and maybe your friends and family will see that you are willing and abpe to go where ever they can.