I have 11yo DS. I always tell him he doesn't need to be like his friends. You know the old 'If your friend jumped off a bridge would you?' Just say no, avoid peer pressure. BUT, but, but, but....
I spent the first few years of his life teaching him the opposite! Look! Daddy poops on the potty! Can you poop on the potty like daddy? Mmmmm Mommy eats green beans. Are you going to eat green beans like mommy?
I don't know. Seems like I did something wrong.
Thoughts? Opinions?
kkbtoys
06-15-2007, 11:56 PM
What you are looking for now is discernment, I think. For him to know when it's a good idea to follow someone's lead & when it's not. You and your dh were your child's first teacher/mentors. As he's grown, I'm sure he has added more teachers & mentors in his life.
There is also good peer pressure vs. bad peer pressure. I can't remember any specifics but I know there have been times that my kids copied their friend's behavior & I was really pleased.
So I don't think you are changing the rules now, just clarifying them, kwim?
undrthtblndrumng
06-16-2007, 01:24 AM
I also think that following your parent's example is one thing, following peers is another. Good parents have been there and done that and know what's best for their child (generally) where as peers are kindof trial by error blind leading the blind. As for advice I can't really say but those are my thoughts on the matter. And no, you didn't do anything wrong when you taught your ds what is good for him
KatiesMom
06-16-2007, 07:35 AM
good points. Okay, I feel better now. :goodvibes:
tillers72
06-16-2007, 11:40 AM
i had never thought of it like that before....gl mama!
mommy2wyatt
06-16-2007, 08:46 PM
I also think that following your parent's example is one thing, following peers is another. Good parents have been there and done that and know what's best for their child (generally) where as peers are kindof trial by error blind leading the blind. As for advice I can't really say but those are my thoughts on the matter. And no, you didn't do anything wrong when you taught your ds what is good for him
I agree with this, he should know the difference between following your example, and his friends!
Denise
