Remember, your previous posts as well as your feedback (who you left feedback for, who left for you, etc) follows you around in every post. These are simple tools to use to find who or what transaction you are referring to. If you cannot find a way to word this without giving it up, feel free to PM a mod.
When posting your first post about the issue in question, please post in such a way that the person you are speaking of will not be insulted. Even though its not posted publicly, they DO get defensive and will out themself. So PLEASE, post your orignal post in such a way that it is not offensive to the other person.
Oh, and please do not share names through PM. Obviously we can't enforce this, and we aren't going to try. But if you insist on negating the anonymity of the forum, refrain from posting about it publicly (for example, "Can you PM me who you are talking about?").
Thanks.
Bare Bottom Gear
02-19-2007, 10:26 PM
Felt the need to bump this since there has been a higher than normal amount of people outing themselves here.
If you see this happening please report the thread with the triangle and exclamation sign in the upper right hand corner of the post.
Looks like this: http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/images/buttons/report.gif
cowmommy
05-28-2008, 01:26 PM
I'm new and confused. What does "outing oneself" refer to? Thanks
making it known who the other person in the transaction is:thumbsup:
cowmommy
05-31-2008, 07:20 AM
It has been brought to our attention that people are using this to get threads deleted from this forum that are about them :sadno: From this point on we are going to hand out strikes for outing yourself in this forum. After three strikes for this, you will have a six month ban. Any more after you come back an it will be permanent.
So, If you out yourself in this forum or any other forum on DS intentionally, you will receive a strike.
Harmony96
05-31-2008, 12:14 PM
forgive my ignorance, what does "outing yourself" mean? I can only think of one meaning that doesn't have anything to do with a CD firum.
If someone posts a question about a transaction, and you happen to be the other party in the transaction, and you come into that thread and post that, then THAT is "outing" yourself.
Happygrl6
05-31-2008, 02:53 PM
What about when the OP basically outs someone with the very detailed info they gave? Sometimes it takes all of two seconds to figure out exactly who someone is talking about. Is that okay since its coming from the OP and not the other person or is the rule about any outing at all?
beautiful8
05-31-2008, 02:56 PM
i don't think it can be helped sometimes, I think the rule is to use caution so as not to make it blantantly obvious......but otherwise have at it, amiright?
Harmony96
05-31-2008, 03:28 PM
What about when the OP basically outs someone with the very detailed info they gave? Sometimes it takes all of two seconds to figure out exactly who someone is talking about. Is that okay since its coming from the OP and not the other person or is the rule about any outing at all?
If an OP posts about a transaction and gives a bunch of details so that even a newbie can figure out who is being talked about, that's wrong and the post will be deleted. If the OP goes out of their way to just give their question and leaves all details out of it, but a handful of people still figure it out, then we'd kindly ask that handful to be mum about it so the OP can get their question answered, b/c the OP wasn't trying to be "outful" for lack of a better word. :giggle:
naivete
05-31-2008, 10:02 PM
I figure it's because if someone outs themselves and tells their side of the story, it can leave room for drama or arguing, and mediation should only be done through the mods and not in public.
annikas_mommy
06-11-2008, 11:13 PM
:confused: I'm lost too...
The whole reason this "Transaction and Feedback Discussion" sub-forum was created was so that mamas could come to discuss the finer details of transactions that have gone wrong. For example, Mama Z might write, "I sent a diaper to Mama X last week without Delivery Confirmation and now she says she never received it and wants her money back. What do I do?"
However, the rule in this sub-forum is that no one can be mentioned by name (screen name or real name) in any post. If they are, the thread gets deleted.
The problem recently is that when Mama Z comes to discuss a matter here and Mama X sees the thread, Mama X "outs" herself by posting about the matter and naming herself, then by the rule, the thread must be deleted and thereby, Mama X has erased the possibility that someone might see a complaint raised about her - whether the complaint is right or wrong.
Hope that helps!
beenwaitingalongtime
06-12-2008, 01:56 PM
I guess the part that had me confused was in the OP it said something about not doing this here, or in any other forum.
This means you're not permitted to run to a different forum saying 'Mama Z's talking smack about me because I sold her a diaper w/ poo in it!'
Keep it here. Keep it discreet.
This is the only way to get unbiased answers to your questions. Otherwise it turns into an episode of the Jerry Springer show & nothing's accomplished. People come here w/ issues because many times talking w/ the buyer/seller is going nowhere. No point in dragging it to the public eye.
luvlyhappyheart
02-22-2009, 08:10 PM
I am new also, am I not supposed to put my name at the end of a PM then? Won't they get my name when I pay?
cowmommy
02-22-2009, 08:23 PM
I am new also, am I not supposed to put my name at the end of a PM then? Won't they get my name when I pay?
:hugs: This is for the transaction and feedback forum, for transactions gone bad. We don't allow one sided bashing because there are always 2 sides to every story
Michelle_M
03-23-2009, 02:25 PM
It has been brought to our attention that people are using this to get threads deleted from this forum that are about them :sadno: From this point on we are going to hand out strikes for outing yourself in this forum. After three strikes for this, you will have a six month ban. Any more after you come back an it will be permanent.
So, If you out yourself in this forum or any other forum on DS intentionally, you will receive a strike.
I don't understand what this means. Will someone please clarify?
Thanks
God bless,
Michelle
mommyshanti
06-06-2009, 07:43 PM
thanks just found out was "outing" was today:blush:
~mypreciousbabies~
06-15-2009, 04:51 PM
Yeah, that is a good rule. That happened to me a while ago and really ticked me off. Thanks for reminding people. :blush:
Shawnah
06-25-2009, 05:21 PM
I am so sorry, but I am new to all this. What does PM mean? Thanks!
PM stands for "private message" you can find that in the upper right hand corner where is says Welcome, _________ (insert your name) :goodvibes:
ClothDiaperMePlease
11-09-2009, 10:38 PM
:bump:
ClothDiaperMePlease
11-10-2009, 05:58 AM
:bump: Please note post #1 and #4. Apparently people don't remember the rule or haven't read it :)
Sweet_Fantasy_Fox
02-01-2010, 05:40 PM
Once you leave feedback for the other party, let us know as the thread posted In T&F needs to be removed. :thumbsup:
