I love my dh and he is always very helpful. He is a really great guy. But whenever he is "watching the baby" he sits on the computer with the baby on his lap or sits and watches tv with the baby.
While I don't expect him to interact with the baby the entire time- I can't seem to get him to understand that it won't kill him to read a book, talk to ds, or play on the floor with him.
Tell me if I am just tired and being tempermental- I mean I sit and watch tv while I am nursing and stuff but I also spend a lot of time interacting with him...
kalebnlillismomma
08-04-2007, 10:34 PM
If you find out LMK too! DH is great, but this morning I came down do find DD clearing out the entire craft cupboard.
razz116
08-04-2007, 10:45 PM
My DH has done that since DS was born. I've just chaulked it up to being a "guy" thing.
RobynJ
08-04-2007, 11:41 PM
Sigh- maybe I am just expecting to much. Thanks for the responses ladies.
moni54
08-04-2007, 11:49 PM
Mine does that too. And I have to watch him close cuz I'll walk in sometimes to him watching youtube with DD and be watching something totally inappropriate...like violence! I get sooo ornery about that! She's too young to desensitize!
CrazyAZMom
08-05-2007, 12:13 AM
Just wanted to add that my DH is the same way! If you find a magic cure let me know!
RetroBaby
08-05-2007, 12:53 AM
Yep, I have one of those DHs too :banghead:
keikiko
08-05-2007, 12:59 AM
Mine is this way too... I do think it has a lot to do with how much their dads interacted with them. Things were certainly different a few generations ago.
I've ripped my DH a new one a few times for playing video games while "watching" the kids--who were really destroying something.
Have you had a heart to heart talk (not nagging) with your DH about it.
Now that my DD is almost 3 DH can do more things with her and that helps tons. It seems like many dad just don't know what to do with the little ones. :headscratch: Comes naturally to us I guess. :thumbsup:
:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: For your frustrations! You're not expecting too much your LOs need their DAD!
GracieGooseSC
08-05-2007, 01:03 AM
:giggle: This must be a common DH theme! lol I think a lot of dad's arent too sure what to do with little babies. My husband has a blast interacting with our 3 year old. I would just give it time! I know it can be fusterating though. But on the other hand daddy's and mommy's are supposed to be different, and your dh and ds will find great ways to interact with each other as time goes on, at least for now they are still having some daddy baby closeness! :goodvibes:
togg_mama
08-05-2007, 01:09 AM
My DH does this too and as far as DD is concerned, the sun rises and sets on daddy so I am not about to interfere. :goodvibes:
mistylaureena
08-05-2007, 01:18 AM
I truly think this is a guy thing ---A guys way of interacting. Obviously there will be exceptions for some guys but I think generally this is how guys *bond* or what they think is spending time with their kids. They relaly dont have to talk, they just like knowing they are hanging out together....Almost every guy I personally know is like this with their kids etc..
I mean if I really think about it, evrey one I know in general when they go to hang out with their dad ( ie fishing, watching the game, golfing) there truly isnt a ton of conversation but merely a gift of presence......I think guys just dont bond and intereact the same way as women....but thats just my :2cents:
I used to feel the same way about my dh but then I let it go and allow him to bond in any way he feels comfortbale with Mikey.... it works out much better for all of us:thumbsup:
amanda1188
08-05-2007, 02:09 PM
I'm glad to hear that my dh isn't the only one like this!
Mom2Gray
08-06-2007, 08:04 PM
Wow. Apparently my dh isn't just abnormally detached! He'll sit and completely ignore the baby until he starts to fuss...then he knows I'll hear and come running, so all the sudden he gets very involved. :banghead:
clarinetb
08-06-2007, 08:12 PM
How old is your little one? That likely makes a difference. As our little one gets older, my husband is getting more interested in showing her things, when she was really tiny, I think it was hard for him to know what to do.
Do you have toys that are 'fun' in the sense of amusing your or your husband? There are toys we have that I couldn't are less if we had, but my husband likes them and plays with them with our baby... maybe have some 'cool' toys :D
