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[shell62995]

ok, i dont know how many of you remember a post i made a while back about my great neice who is now 10 mths only having 2 bottles of milk a day. Her mom switched her to cows milk to save $$$. Then she started to deliute the milk w/ water to save more money. Now she has done away w/ milk all together and only gives her kool-aide. She is only 10 mths!!!!!!!:yuck:
I mean what the h*ll is she thinking? I know I am pretty picky about what I feed my kids but hamburger helper, veinna sausages, and canned veggies w/ kool aide is not a healthy diet for a 10mth old. I'm I right or crazy? she has money for video games and cigerettes. What do you think?:headscratch:

[zosiasmama]

That poor little girl. My god she shouldn't even have had cow's milk till after a year and she is having kool-aid. I am really picky, my 15 month old DD only has a bit of cow's milk and water, no juice and no other colored junk.

I really feel for you. it must be so hard to sit on the side lines and watch that happen.

[foodie.yarnie.mommie.]

:( :( that is sad and makes me angry, poor baby.

[Cristina]

:puke: poor baby :(

[SMKelley]

If you do the math, I'm fairly certain that formula actually costs less.

Anyway, tell the woman to get on WIC or just give her daughter water.

[crittercrazy3]

holy smokes!!! now i'm a pretty laid back mama and all. but that is WAY past the line of sense. I have stomach cramps now :yuck: can something be done?

[Jamie]

Honestly, I would call CPS. That's neglect.

[I Smile Because Of Them]

Yup I would also call child services. That is just so wrong on so many levels.

[crittercrazy3]

Honestly, I would call CPS. That's neglect.

absolutely what i was thinking.

[greenMImama]

I 4ht that motion

[heluvsme]

It's your neice? I would try to get custody. If the mama is that broke she could get WIC for pete's sake, but even if she got WIC, what kind of a mom would neglect her lo like that?

[greenMImama]

If you do the math, I'm fairly certain that formula actually costs less.

Anyway, tell the woman to get on WIC or just give her daughter water.

I don't want anybody to give their child Kool Aid but how in the world could Formula e cheaper than Kool Aid? Our store brand formula is the same price as organic cows milk, around $7/gal, I guess I haven't bought KA in a long time, or did you mean all the other crappy foods the mama was also feeding her child?

[jjaelovesenglish]

I am not really one for calling CPS, but this can really stunt her growth because she NEEDS the casein or whatever it is called for health brain development which is in whole milk or formula or breast milk until she is two. NOT koolaide. My two year old has never even tasted kool aide and I can't even fathom giving it to a 10 month old. To each their own, but this is now serious to her health. You need to seriously talk to this woman or get someone in authority to do it and scare the crap out of her so she can do the right thing and the baby can at least get the nutrition she needs.

[Apathy]

WTF? Now, I've been known to give my little ones sips of soda and koolaid but damn. Just damn. :headscratch:

[Diaper Change]

:yuck: That's crazy! Poor Baby!!

[dlangeweg]

My ped said babies need the nutrients & fat in whole milk/breast milk/formula until they are two for brain developement. This could cause a serious problem for your niece. Dd is 18mos on solids, and still takes 2-3 cups of milk a day. I would def. talk to her or try to get someone to step in. Just my :2cents: .

Denise

[House of Blue]

Without question call CPS. This is by no means a case where you have to worry about them stomping in and removing the baby but they will go in and teach her what to feed her baby and point her in the direction of financial assistance so she can get proper food. It's obvious she's struggling and may not fully understand the danger she's putting her child in... Maybe she needs someone to intervene and show her what to do, she may even be really receptive to some help and guidance. Seriously, I know she's family but don't feel guilty about calling CPS. When you call, just be clear about everything, that it's not an "abusive" situation but more of a neglect by lac of education but still it's rather urgent they make a home visit (A child that age could have some serious and immediate health problems from such a diet). Tell them that you think she needs a home visit so someone can give her the tools she needs to raise a happy and healthy baby/child.

[kaspears17]

Honestly, I would call CPS. That's neglect.

Yeah, ME TOO. that's awful. The baby needs milk. What a horrible mother. Can't afford milk/formula, but can afford cigarettes. WTF????

[mama2jack]

:( :( that is sad and makes me angry, poor baby.
:yeahthat:

[shell62995]

I was thinking of calling cps. she has moved out of state w/ her boyfriend so I need her new addy. The grandmother has talked to her w/no avail. How to I go about calling cps and what do i do if they know it was me? I would love to take the little girl but i don't think she woud let me. she had her dd so someone would love her. all her life that is all she talked about .
The little girl is my great neice. the mother is my dh neice. maybe I shoud send her an email w/ great links on nutruition? anyone have some?
She hasent gotten wic because she is too lazy to go down there. all her life someone has done things for her. so now that she is in another state w/out her family around her she has just stalled out. and she's not alittle kid. she is 25 yrs. old! I think she isn't all there thou. It is very sad. I pray about the little girl all the time. I wake up thinking of her in the middle of the night.

[House of Blue]

I would look on line on how to contact your local CPS (I wish I could help you with links but I'm not familiar with the US CPS system). Seriously, don't be afraid to call! Tell them the situation and give as many details as possible and let them know that b/c this is family it's better that your name not be disclosed.

I think a lot of people fear CPS b/c they think they are nothing but baby snatchers... But they can actually be a fabulous resource for a mom in that situation. I REALLY think she could benefit from their service. They will not only visit her in her home but they will give her the drive she needs to do what she has to for her daughter. Sounds like she needs to be pushed into a mothering state of mind. It's sometimes really difficult for new or young moms to let go of their completely independent and free lifestyle and learn to give of herself to another person, to make someone else their priority. I think once she gets into the "groove" of things it will be OK... But if she never finds her place as an attentive mother CPS will be there to make sure the baby is taken care of.

[lilyfish]

Ew. No offense, but that girl's mama is just trashy and has NO PLACE being a parent. She could afford to feed her child milk if she stopped buying cigarettes and videogames, I reckon.

Kool-Aid? Ugh. I'm just.. wow. Words fail me!

[SMKelley]

I don't want anybody to give their child Kool Aid but how in the world could Formula e cheaper than Kool Aid? Our store brand formula is the same price as organic cows milk, around $7/gal, I guess I haven't bought KA in a long time, or did you mean all the other crappy foods the mama was also feeding her child?

I actually meant that Formula would be cheaper than Milk.

[SunkenShip]

Jesus, how can you give a 10-month-old KOOL AID? Unfathomable. :banghead:

[hippydippymama]

You can make an anonymous report to CPS, I believe.

Please, please, do something. I felt sick just reading this post. That poor little girl is goign to wind up nutritionally deficient, and if her mom neglects her in this way, I'm sure she's neglecting her in other ways as well.

Kool-Aid at 10 months. I just can't believe it. DH loves to drink Kool-Aid but I didn't start giving it to DS until about 18 months, and even then I watered it down so far that it was only about 1/5 Kool-Aid and 4/5 water, just for flavor. I'm not going to hand my kid a cupful of sugar water, thanks! :yuck:

[iris0110]

Wow, that is just aweful. That poor baby could have all kinds of problems if she doesn't get adequate nutrition. Honestly though, she could suffer from failure to thrive and die. I know it's worst case scenario, but it can and does happen. In my opinion the nieces mother should be doing something about this. How can she watch this happen to her own granddaughter? Some one needs to call cps for this poor baby. And I hate cps.

[CrunchyMama0607]

so sad :sadno: :sadno: please keep us posted & take some kind of action to help the LO :hugs:

[boriquaqueen]

that's horrible make an annonomys call to cps. a baby shouldnt have to be put through that malnutrition. if she really wanted to save cash she should have bf"ed the baby. 2nd hand smoke is also horrible for kids. she needs a wake up call or somebody to slap some sense into her!!!!!

[october05mom]

i completely agree with trying to get her some help when it comes to being educated and motivated to get financial help. this is just so sad and if all she talks about is her DD, then she should love her enough NOT to just give her kool-aid. i am sure CPS would be very discreet if you were to call and tell them the situation. a PP said something about making it clear that you did not feel this was abuse, but she just needed some education and help finding financial support. if that doesn't work, i would seriously consider finding out if you could get custody. that is just so so sad!

[Sweet_Fantasy_Fox]

thats terrible! i would make the anon call to cps, that baby does not need to be neglected this way.:(

[ForCryingOutLoud]

Way back when I was a social worker! So this is what I think :blush:
I agree it is terrible, but it is only neglect if she knows she is neglecting her. KWIM? She may not know the harmful effects, so it can't be neglect. If you would call they would investigate and mostly likely get them a case worker and put the mom in parenting classes and get them on WIC. Which help greatly! If she knows and still doesn't care then that is neglect.

[lisaaag]

Poor baby :cry:

[Terra]

:cry: If that baby doesn't get some proper nutriton she is going to have some serious health issues!!

I agree, call CPS, they won't take the baby...but they'll help mom to become more educated on how important it is to properly care for her baby!

[Korbins Mommy]

That just makes me sick. I can't even wrap my head around that. Give me her address and I think I'll drive over to smack her.

[Tiffer23]

I would try to call CPS or someone as well. That baby needs someone to watch out for her. :(

[connorsmama]

that makes me want to cry. poor kid is going to be malnourished!!

[tinyblackdot]

send her the link to WIC

http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/

[urchin_grey]

OMG that's horrible! Poor baby, I can just hear the points falling off her IQ as we speak. o.O

ITA on the CPS thing... and I normally hate CPS.

[calideedle]

WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is insane!

Could you maybe buy some formula for her? I would! I would be very worries about her health!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Meg678]

I made an anonymous call to CPS once....

My neighbor's 6 month old only weighed 9 lbs and she weighed 8lbs at birth. I found out she was left her in the crib all day while the mom played Final Fantasy XI. She got NOTHING all day long and was literally like a zombie. I called CPS and told them everything I knew, but they didn't remove her from their care and even now she is still in their home even though her mom still sits on the computer all day.

CPS usually will only do something if they're getting beat up or raped everyday I guess....

I would try it though. Call CPS and tell them what's going on, that's just sickening.

[Distinctive Decals]

I made an anonymous call to CPS once....

My neighbor's 6 month old only weighed 9 lbs and she weighed 8lbs at birth. I found out she was left her in the crib all day while the mom played Final Fantasy XI. She got NOTHING all day long and was literally like a zombie. I called CPS and told them everything I knew, but they didn't remove her from their care and even now she is still in their home even though her mom still sits on the computer all day.



Oh, that's just so sad! :cry: Makes me want to run and hug my two fat babes right now.

[soygurl]

I made an anonymous call to CPS once....

My neighbor's 6 month old only weighed 9 lbs and she weighed 8lbs at birth. I found out she was left her in the crib all day while the mom played Final Fantasy XI. She got NOTHING all day long and was literally like a zombie. I called CPS and told them everything I knew, but they didn't remove her from their care and even now she is still in their home even though her mom still sits on the computer all day.

CPS usually will only do something if they're getting beat up or raped everyday I guess....

I would try it though. Call CPS and tell them what's going on, that's just sickening.

Keep making reports! Make a report EVERY TIME you see or hear about something happening. It know it makes you want to :banghead: but really, sometimes they just don't have enough evidence. The more reports you make, the more evidence they have to open a case, the sooner somethings happens. :goodvibes:

I think the OP should call CPS too... make an anonymous tip if that makes you feel more comfortable, just do it!

[jenn5388]

Holy cow! I couldn't Imagine giving a 10 month old koolaid. Miranda drinks crystal light (no sugar, thank you very much. lol) and had only had koolaid once in her life. (at a playdate, I was told juice, ended up being koolaid) my child was boucing off the walls the rest of the night and I was just steaming.

I'd call CPS. maybe they can Help her.. Since apparently she's not listening to Common sense here. Yeah, formula is Expendsive, been there done that.. but you need to have your child on it until they are a year old, then with any luck.. milk.. I got lucky soy formula. and soy milk for a year. you think normal cow's milk is pricey, try soy milk on for size, and on top of it we still had to buy cows milk for the rest of the family. lol

maybe if she quits buying the video games and ciggerettes she would be able to Afford the milk.. I mean, Common sense tells ya if you can't afford food for your 10 month old, then you need to cut something else out of the budget, not remove the food. lol duh.

[frogandtoad]

You can make an anonymous report to CPS, I believe.

I think this is true also. You could always call and ask without giving your information. Or, check online. There may be info online about your/her state's CPS department.

I don't think sending "information" is going to get this person to *do* anything. An intervention is necessary for the sake of the child.

[Guardandolaluna]

that makes me very sad. I am amazed by the things that some people do and how things like that aren't considered abusive by places like CPS:(

[Pookamama]

ok, i dont know how many of you remember a post i made a while back about my great neice who is now 10 mths only having 2 bottles of milk a day. Her mom switched her to cows milk to save $$$. Then she started to deliute the milk w/ water to save more money. Now she has done away w/ milk all together and only gives her kool-aide. She is only 10 mths!!!!!!!:yuck:
I mean what the h*ll is she thinking? I know I am pretty picky about what I feed my kids but hamburger helper, veinna sausages, and canned veggies w/ kool aide is not a healthy diet for a 10mth old. I'm I right or crazy? she has money for video games and cigerettes. What do you think?:headscratch:

That's very sad. It's weird to think that a mother would put her daughter's need for good nutrition below her own fancies.

[diaperbaby]

That really makes me sad. I have met people that don't necessarily pay quite enough attention to their children (imo) but when it comes to their health there is no excuse. I don't think that being young has anything to do with it. I was 20 when DS was born and I made an effort to read up on baby care and to look for as much support and programs to teach me how to be as good of a parent as possible. I asked lots of questions to the health nurse and the doctor to make sure I was doing things right. There is no reason for someone to be that ignorant about their baby's health by 10 months old. Not only is milk or formula absolutely necessary to healthy development at that age, kool-aid is horrible for the baby's growing teeth. She may become malnurished and she could have horrible early tooth decay as well that would make her not able to eat solid foods well in the future, making things worse. Somebody needs to intervene.

[RoxyRocks]

I dont allow my almost 7 year old to drink Kool-aid:yuck: BUT I do let him have sugar free fruit punch mix stuff BUT I would nver even think about giving it too a infant!!! Not to mention you shouldnt even have cows milk till atleast 12 months ATLEAST!!!:cry:

[L2S2C]

you know youre right and not crazy, unfortunatly it doesnt really matter what you or I think about her parenting skills. Poor baby.

[vkier]

ok, i dont know how many of you remember a post i made a while back about my great neice who is now 10 mths only having 2 bottles of milk a day. Her mom switched her to cows milk to save $$$. Then she started to deliute the milk w/ water to save more money. Now she has done away w/ milk all together and only gives her kool-aide. She is only 10 mths!!!!!!!:yuck:
I mean what the h*ll is she thinking? I know I am pretty picky about what I feed my kids but hamburger helper, veinna sausages, and canned veggies w/ kool aide is not a healthy diet for a 10mth old. I'm I right or crazy? she has money for video games and cigerettes. What do you think?:headscratch:

:cry: I knew a lady that gave her kids sweet tea in bottles and sippies since before 10 months... (They did get formula, but still...)
My mom wouldn't even let my sis and I drink Kool-Aid when we were teenagers. I can't imagine letting a 10-month-old. But substituting it for milk? Sounds like abuse to me - and I second what a pp said - if she's watering down milk to save money to buy cigarettes to pollute her kids' air, no telling how else she's neglecting her LO. The reference to video games just sickened me, too, since the whole situation reminds me of that couple in the news over the summer that neglected their babies while they played away... :cry:

[alisha_roseleip]

This is aweful!! When I worked at a coffee shop in college we had a lady come through the drive thru and order a double latte and a cup of ice. She would then take several of the ice cubes and then put them in the bottle and add coffee for her daughter who could not have been possibly a year!!:banghead: It got to the point I could not stand serving her anymore!!:yuck:

[Terra]

This is aweful!! When I worked at a coffee shop in college we had a lady come through the drive thru and order a double latte and a cup of ice. She would then take several of the ice cubes and then put them in the bottle and add coffee for her daughter who could not have been possibly a year!!:banghead: It got to the point I could not stand serving her anymore!!:yuck:

Geez, and these will be the same parents who will wonder why their child is too hyper or having issues with their immune system...probably because they're feeding them sugar and caffiene so young!!:banghead:

My family used to put Mt. Dew in the baby bottles!!!!!!!!!!!:cry:
Even let them sleep with it!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ughhhh

[tsk_mum]

Honestly, I would call CPS. That's neglect.
:yeahthat:
that is not proper nutrition for a 10 month old ... she needs to get on WIC!

[RockinClothBunz]

I'm sorry momma. Its so much harder when its in your family. Honestly, I would call cps and wouldn't care if they knew it was me. Or I would buy formula and mail it to her.

[House of Blue]

I saw a mom at a bus stop once who had a little girl with her that looked to be about 7 or 8 months old. The baby had a pink bottle with what I assumed was some kind of juice in it (which was bad enough IMO :laugh: ).... But nope! When the baby was done mom screwed the nipple off the bottle and topped it up with pink Tahiti Treat soft drink :yuck:

[litlepick]

I am a nutritionist,
In my professional opinion the baby is less likely to suffer health problems with drinking kool-aide than with cows milk. I'm more concerned with the amount she is drinking (it would be acceptable to give up to 4 oz/day of diluted koolaide or juice in a non-sippy cup) 16oz a day of junk food is way too much for a child under 2 years let alone a 10 month old.
You are welcome to quote me, her 10 month old should be eating a minimum of 80% calories from formula or breast milk with up to a few tablespoons of regular food (or infant food) a day. More than that is nutritionally inadequate continued longterm this will result in malnourishment, even if the child appears to be well.

Bottles should be used only for formula or breastmilk, sippy cups are designed to be used only with water, trainer cups (the kind that have a spout but are not spill-proof and do not require the child to suck) can be used with any drink.
the American dental association has sighted improper use of sippy cups to nursing bottle syndrome (see pic) which affects not only the baby teeth but the adult teeth and the jaw bones also:
http://www.zahndoktor.at/jodokmeier/news/Babys/images/nursing.jpg
http://www.zahndoktor.at/jodokmeier/news/Babys/images/nuckeln.jpg

seriously what parent would do this to there child?

I just read some of the other posts... I had at first read your post that the child was getting kool-aid in addition to normal eating behavior. Did you mean that she has replaced ALL formula in the child's diet with kool-aid? If thats the case than this child is in immediate danger and CPS needs to be contacted. If you are unwilling to do so, please send me the information, I am required by law to notify someone.

[TabbySanchez07]

Babies have to have LOTS of milk for their brain developement and so much more. You really should notify someone because that is so bad for her baby. Talk to her first and if something doesnt change you should contact someone higher up to help out. Its best for the baby to be somewhere with someone who will take care of her right and give her the nutrients that she needs!

[blissful_maia]

I personally don't think babies (or anyone for that matter) need cow's milk to be healthy, but KOOL-AID?!?! That is horrifying for that poor baby... and all the health problems her mama is setting her up for.

[snugglebutter]

Yikes, that is terrible! That poor baby.

Do you think that if a case of ready to feed formula showed up on her doorstep that she would give it to the baby? I'm just wondering if there are family members who could contribute and place an order thru Amazon etc...

[shell62995]

After talking to my mil more and telling her how I know that what her grand daughter is doing going to affect the baby longer that just the moment. We tried to send money for the baby and it doesnt get spent on the baby. I have offered to get formula and she doesnt think she will take it?! She did go to the store and buy soy chocolate milk for the baby. uhhhh. She also said she only has been feeding her mac and cheese and ready for this.......PEANUT butter and jelly. my dh has given me the ok to call cps as long as his brother (the baby's grandfather) doesnt find out. I wonder what thier house looks like. Last time she moved they had to leave the furniture behind because it was infested w/ bugs. yuk

[lisaaag]

Any updates???? I swear this little boy goes through my mind everyday, wondering if he's getting the help he needs :(

[mhaddon]

gosh and I just started giving my 101/2 month old DS juice yesterday...

That is neglect, period. Report her. Over and over until they are tired of you and at least look into it.

[*~Mindy~*]

crystal light (no sugar, thank you very much. lol) to some people, thats worse...

anyway, yeah, formula has a lot of sugar, but wow...
even if its not sugar, or just made without it, it doent have the nutrients that are needed, they dont need just something to drink, geez...

i can see why you wouldnt want to report it if you have just gotten her address, shed probably link it to you, but maybe MAIL her formula, or something? she cant spend that lol. i guess she could sell it to someone, but it would take a little more...

[tararaboomdeea]

Oh my. That poor baby's teeth are going to fall out by the time she is 3. :(

[greenpea]

I am so sickened by this post....I agree with the others YOU have a responsibility to this child. It is abuse. While I don't envy your position because I know it is tough......someone needs to help this poor child.

[logansmomma07]

This is just horrible and I am so sad for that poor baby. I do kinda understand how you feel though- I have a cousin who just had her second child. She is on lots of drugs and doesn't even have custody of her first because of her drug and alcohol abuse. The "father" of her first abuses this poor little girl, who is already showing signs of depression and suicidal thoughts at 7 years old. She only weighs 35lbs, and is losing her eyesight. (A symptom of fetal alcohol syndrome) Her "dad" will not take her to the doctor for checkups or when she is sick. They have a caseworker (who was chased down the street by this man's girlfriend with a knife) and yet this child is still in that house. With the new baby, my cousin went into preterm labor because she was on cocaine, not to mention other drugs. She did end up having her early, and at only a couple months old was feeding her juice, fruits, veggies and cereal. A PREEMIE. This baby is sick constantly, and is not taken care of or given any form of love. My mother is trying to get custody of the oldest, but doesnt want my cousin or the father to ever be allowed contact or be awarded custody in the future. I would LOVE to be able to take the baby, but I have no idea how to even go about doing that. Someone needs to take these children and the sooner the better. But it seems CPS doesn't give a crap about them. It totally sickens me that people like her can be parents when there are so many wonderful people who can't have children.

Sorry to steal your thread, it just reminded me of this and I had to share :)

[lisaaag]

am so sickened by this post....I agree with the others YOU have a responsibility to this child. It is abuse. While I don't envy your position because I know it is tough......someone needs to help this poor child.


I agree!! This baby needs someone to step up to the plate, this is a helpless, innocent baby who needs help now before it is too late.

[KPCox1016]

My dd's needs ALWAYS come before mine..especially when it comes to the "needs" in her life (shelter, food, clothing, education). I would sell everything I had to get her what she needed..so a story like this makes me:yuck:

[newphillymomma]

Way back when I was a social worker! So this is what I think :blush:
I agree it is terrible, but it is only neglect if she knows she is neglecting her. KWIM? She may not know the harmful effects, so it can't be neglect. If you would call they would investigate and mostly likely get them a case worker and put the mom in parenting classes and get them on WIC. Which help greatly! If she knows and still doesn't care then that is neglect.

Exactly.

[evamyster88]

Please tell us there is an update!!

[Toby_99833]

:puke: poor baby :(

:yeahthat:

[hmurrant]

Please tell us there is an update!!

:yeahthat:

[Arkaidy]

Yeah, I have pinned this thread because I want to know what's going on!

[FaeryGnomeHome]

I dont allow my almost 7 year old to drink Kool-aid:yuck: BUT I do let him have sugar free fruit punch mix stuff BUT I would nver even think about giving it too a infant!!! Not to mention you shouldnt even have cows milk till atleast 12 months ATLEAST!!!:cry:

My kids are nearly 3 and 7 1/2 and they absolutley do NOT get kool-aid. They unfortunately get capri sun at grandma's house but otherwise they are on 50/50 watered juice, cow's milk, and water. That's it! I definitely think the OP needs to make an anonymous call to cps. Even if they ask your information, just tell them that you wish to remain anonymous because you are family and too close to the situation. Keep calling unitl you get results. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. It takes a LOT for cps to remove a child from the parents, they really don't like to do it. It's a LOT of paperwork and it's difficult to PROVE without a doubt that a child is being abused. My mom is a teacher in a really icky section of town and she's called cps a handful of times in her career(she's been a teacher for 30years) when she was positive kids were being beaten, sexually abused, or just neglected and not fed or clothed properly(I personally remember at least one of each of these circumstances in my lifetime) and I have to say that I only remember her getting 2 children taken away successfully from bad situations. And she just doesn't call randomly. One child was beaten daily(fresh bruising DAILY that my mom documented that were all over her little tiny body, not just knees and elbows and legs like a clumsy kid would get) and it took nearly the entire school year to get her removed. So one call won't get this baby taken away. It might help the mom wake up and realize that this behavior is NOT safe for her child. And hopefully cps will force her to get thehelp she needs to feed her daughter properly. We aren't talking the difference between wheat bread and white bread here. We are talking serious nutritional deficiencies from this kid's diet.:yuck:

[KMsmomma]

Hopefully you are doing well with the decision you are processing right now and all these mamas here are helping you have the courage to step forward and give a voice to this little one who can't ask for the help and is trapped in this situation. It is neglect and it is abuse if it is as you have described. Hugs to you as you make your decision on this issue, keep us updated as there are lots of mamas here that are very concerned for this child.

[Crazy4Coffee]

PLEASE tell me you've made the call to CPS by now.

[hippydippymama]

Every time I see this thread bumped I hope it's an update. I really want to know how this poor little girl is doing!

[shell62995]

I am sorry mamas! I quess i've missed this being bumped up!
From my last update on her was from my mil last week.....
Supposedly the little girl weights 38 pnds. Is that possible for an 11 mth old? I think the mom is just nuts. And the dc's mom is excited because she thinks she might be preggers again and she will get food stamps if she has another dependent.
I quess I should call again.....
I think my bil knows. he was very rude when i bumped into him at the mall. The xmas dinner will be interesting to say the least.
Thank you all for caring!If your pray or send out good vibes please do for the lo. her name is dayla

[hippydippymama]

38 lbs?!?!? My 3 year old doesn't even weigh that much! That must be one SERIOUS chunk o' baby!

*sigh*

I know this is horrible, but I really hope she doesn't add another one to this mess...unless she somehow gets her priorities straight. Wanting food stamps is no reason to get pregnant. :banghead:

[shell62995]

38 lbs?!?!? My 3 year old doesn't even weigh that much! That must be one SERIOUS chunk

Yeah that's what I am thinking. I thought 38 pnds for a kindergardener not a baby. She has to be wrong!

[*~Mindy~*]

that would be huge. maybe she saw that story about the 9lb 13mo twins and went with what they mistakenly posted as a normal weight range for that age and picked it?
my 33mo is 42lbs, was 39 at 30mo and he wears a 5 or 6, and 8 in underwear(some reason teyre smaller in the waist?). most people think hes about to turn or is 4 because of his size. hes also 41inches, hes not fat at all anymore :giggle: his waist is bigger than my friend who wears a size 1. a 39lb 11mo would have a waist size able to wear like a 7 in juniors, seriously. my older son was 27lbs at 5mo, and his waist was a little bigger than i t is now, so that would be bigger...

[jennsmile]

No offense to the previous poster but you might be exaggerating just a tad.

My child will be 3 at the end of March he weighs 40 lbs. He wears a size 4 T and they fit just fine. He is not fat but he is a solid guy that is well porportioned for his size. We eat healthly food and he was breastfed.

I would be concerned over Koolaid and it contibuting to weight gain in the 11 month old and possible diabetes in her future. What is she doing for a carseat?

Jenn

[sadiekat]

Yeah that's what I am thinking. I thought 38 pnds for a kindergardener not a baby. She has to be wrong!

That would be a really big baby! My 3 year old only weighs 28 pounds!

[ncmurray512]

My 4 year old weighes 40 pounds even at her 4 year check up.

[FaeryGnomeHome]

Yeah I don't think that 11month old is 38lbs. Maybe 28 or 18 but not 38lbs. That's gotta be wrong. If it is correct(cause hey, it could be!) that is yet another reason that cps needs to get involved. Not just because of the child's weight(before I need to don my fire-proof suit), but because that weight is due to kool-aid instead of a healthy diet of bm or formula and a few solids. There are chunky kids in this world but a 38lb 10 month old is just not in the wide spectrum of a healthy NORMAL frame.

[*~Mindy~*]

No offense to the previous poster but you might be exaggerating just a tad.


about what exactly?
my friend wears a 1 and her waist is 24. my sons is a little more than 27 inches.

[logansmomma07]

HOLY COW. My son is 8 months and weighs (approx) 24lbs. I thought he was a little chunker! That is terrible, I feel so bad for that poor little baby, and the possible next one. People are PATHETIC having children just to get welfare. My cousin does that, besides the fact that she is a prostitute and on several different drugs. That is one thing that just gets under my skin... They need to GET A JOB and KEEP THEIR PANTS ON. :yuck: :yuck: :yuck: :yuck:

[homeschoolingmama]

Wow... dd is almost 4 and weighs about 37lbs... My 9 month old :bboy: is only about 25lbs....
And kool aid??? How awful is that... I don't let my 9 year old drink kool aid :yuck:
Poor baby..... :cry: I just can't stand the idea of people doing things like this to their babies.... It breaks my heart....

[Mom_of_2_Beauties]

Not just wic go to the local food bank... they have donated baby formula and baby food... they would just give you! Plus if you are that poor most states will give you food stamps, well at least for the first year or so of your childs life! I think that is one of the most horrible things i have ever heard! How could a mother do that to her child!

[stephas]

I know it's been said a few times, but if she won't go to WIC, you could send her some formula in the mail (or order it from Amazon/Target/etc). She'd have to go out of her way to sell the stuff and it'd be right there to give to the kiddo. Maybe put a toy or outfit in the package to make it seem more like a present and not a "you're raising your child wrong" handout. What is most important in this situation is that the Little One is getting adequate nutrition. If you make mom mad, she may not use the formula in spite. I don't know the family dynamics but maybe a nice, thoughtful note stating that you understand the tough times they are going through and you want to be of help somehow. It may or may not open a line of communication between you too and help the situation as a whole.

Times are tough around my house (we make about 500 a YEAR too much to qualify for WIC/other assistance) with student loans and other bills but we manage to get formula. We moved three states away in the hopes of better jobs and my mom/aunt/grandma send little care packages every now and then (an outfit or two, a small toy, sometimes a canister of formula, always accompanied by a handwritten note). It's just so great to be surprised and it's almost like Christmas. They are doing it b/c they miss us and are thinking of us all the time and want to be active in our lives (even at 13 hours away).

[mamavegan]

I am sorry mamas! I quess i've missed this being bumped up!
From my last update on her was from my mil last week.....
Supposedly the little girl weights 38 pnds. Is that possible for an 11 mth old? I think the mom is just nuts. And the dc's mom is excited because she thinks she might be preggers again and she will get food stamps if she has another dependent.
I quess I should call again.....
I think my bil knows. he was very rude when i bumped into him at the mall. The xmas dinner will be interesting to say the least.
Thank you all for caring!If your pray or send out good vibes please do for the lo. her name is dayla

I seriously doubt that the baby weighs 38 lbs. Please CALL CPS! It doesn't sound like you have much of an actual update at all. What's the worst that could happen, really? If everything is fine, then no big deal. If everything is Not fine, then the baby will get help. PLEASE CALL CPS!

[FaeryGnomeHome]

:banghead: Is there no one to help this poor baby?????????

[soygurl]

I seriously doubt that the baby weighs 38 lbs. Please CALL CPS! It doesn't sound like you have much of an actual update at all. What's the worst that could happen, really? If everything is fine, then no big deal. If everything is Not fine, then the baby will get help. PLEASE CALL CPS!
:yeahthat: :yeahthat: :yeahthat: :yeahthat:
PLEASE! This baby could suffer permanent damage from malnutrition! Call CPS and KEEP CALLING until something is done! :(