grrrnaymom
04-25-2008, 09:20 AM
You would think that having been through this, I would know what to do....
I hope it is ok to ask this here since the subtitle is support.
If it is wrong just let me know and I will remove fast.....
We had fertility issues for 3 years. (Did not get married until I was 35 - so felt we were also running out of time) 2 m/c in a row before DD (clomid/progesterone baby) made it. She just turned 2. DS came along as a surprise and without assistance other than progest. when I had threatend m/c.
Our dear friends across the street have had problems for 2 years as well. They are much younger than us. They just had failed IVF 2 weeks ago. 2 failed to impant and the other 12 embryos did not make it to the point where they could be frozen. (Seems fishy to me as they were all doing well on day 5...)
I try hard not to say the stupid things people said to me.... They are so good with our children, and they love seeing them.
My quandry is this. With the "holiday" coming up .... I used to just hate it. I would leave the room anytime it was mentioned. Barely managed to get a card off to my own Mother.
I just love this girl across the street and want to some how let her know we are thinking about her on this day. Is that a mistake? I was thinking we would maybe make her something the Sat. before- like cupcakes? Is that a bad idea...
I just hate feeling so clueless because I want to make her feel better. When it was me, nothing made me feel better......
Grateful for any advice.
I hope it is ok to ask this here since the subtitle is support.
If it is wrong just let me know and I will remove fast.....
We had fertility issues for 3 years. (Did not get married until I was 35 - so felt we were also running out of time) 2 m/c in a row before DD (clomid/progesterone baby) made it. She just turned 2. DS came along as a surprise and without assistance other than progest. when I had threatend m/c.
Our dear friends across the street have had problems for 2 years as well. They are much younger than us. They just had failed IVF 2 weeks ago. 2 failed to impant and the other 12 embryos did not make it to the point where they could be frozen. (Seems fishy to me as they were all doing well on day 5...)
I try hard not to say the stupid things people said to me.... They are so good with our children, and they love seeing them.
My quandry is this. With the "holiday" coming up .... I used to just hate it. I would leave the room anytime it was mentioned. Barely managed to get a card off to my own Mother.
I just love this girl across the street and want to some how let her know we are thinking about her on this day. Is that a mistake? I was thinking we would maybe make her something the Sat. before- like cupcakes? Is that a bad idea...
I just hate feeling so clueless because I want to make her feel better. When it was me, nothing made me feel better......
Grateful for any advice.
