Not planning on finding out the sex?

[pearryandbellasmama]

I know it's really early to be thinking about it (well not really :giggle: ) but is anyone else not planning on finding out the sex of the baby?

And for those who haven't in the past, how did you go about planning? I'm a huge planner, and not sure what to do. We're not doing a nursery or anything like that since we cosleep and are planning on it with this one, so no need for that. But clothing, diapers etc??

Thanks :goodvibes:

[nannersmama]

I dont' think I am going to this go around! I want all the suprise when the baby is born.

how to plan..well I have several of each sex so honestly it is no biggie. BUT
with myfirst I didn't find out and I planned a GN bedroom and bought GN clothes. It is easy actually and still a ton of fun.

[sheets332]

i am planning on finding out what we are having i am already chomping at the bit wish i knew right now!
my ds was born the same time of year so if we have a boy we are set, if its a girl then i am assuming i will be broke the rest of my life and should get a jump start on it!

i would just get as much gn stuff you can for right now and then as soon as the baby is born then you can go from there and get all the specifics that you need

[keysersoze]

We're still undecided. I want to be surprised and my wife is on the fence (i think she's leaning towards wanting to know). We found out with DS, and even though we didn't tell anyone his name until after he was born, I think there was less anticipation around his birth 'cause everyone already knew he was a he. Since this may be our last one, (wife's age, struggled with infertility to get this far) I'd like the experience of not knowing, of having the doctor announce, "it's a ..."

We're Jewish, and don't buy anything before the child is born (except for a carseat), so i don't have any experience planning stuff when you don't know the sex. But, since we don't have any nb fitteds and wool, i'll probably make some once DW's in the 2nd tri (in GN colors).

[momto3girls]

We're going to find out the sex. I'm a need to know kind of person.

[katengrace]

I can't wait to find out...we did with both our girls. I'm a serious planner!

[Sarahb44]

I'd love to know HOW one waits....I have ZERO patience for surprises!

BUT DH says no, I say yes....I am hoping he will cave by u/s time :giggle:

[kateri25]

I like the idea of a surprise. I have friends who have done it and there is still plenty to get before they are born. However that being said hubby is a planner!!! He told me he "needs to find out" so he can plan better. I say whatever let's have fun this time around.

That being said U/S time we will probably find out.

[lilobee]

We didn't find out with our first (DD Edie, 2 yrs) and we won't be finding out with this one. It was very exciting to find out right when she was born that "it was a girl". Funny story though, my husband actually said it was a boy at first and the doctor was like "umm, better look again". I guess a combination of excitment, exhaustion, the fact that the baby's genitals are so swollen at birth and the umbilibal cord being in the way, he just thought it was a penis he was seeing! :giggle2: I love that story! I have a big stash of baby girl clothes from the last go round, and my best friend has 3 boys so she is going to pass down the infant stuff that I can have on hand so I'll be ready for both. I don't think I'll do a nursery this time since I'm sure the baby will sleep with us or at least in our room. I bought way to much last time and actually I'm currently working on taking down the previous nursery stuff to make a big girl room for my dd. This time round I just want to splurge on an awsome stash of cds. I sold my last batch, I wasn't thrilled with the system I had, and my daughter was seriously one of the fatest (I know thats a terrible word, but the truth is there) babies you'll ever see. So she grew out of them fast and because they were very bulky I was having a hard time finding clothes to fit her at all, let alone fit her and a bulky cd. Wow I'm long winded today! Sorry! :blush:

[sarichnboys]

I'm not sure. I would lie a surprise but I have three boys and if it is a girl I would love to buy pink!

[lilobee]

I hear you on that sarichnboys, pink is REALLY fun. Not that it isn't great to buy little guy stuff.... I don't know, maybe its cause we're girls that we like to buy pink and bows and girly stuff.

[ambered]

Not here! This is baby #4, and the last. DD (13) was a surprise, and an emergncy- under general- c/s, so I didn't know till I woke up. I did find out with ds1 (11) and wish I hadn't. Ds2 (20 months) was a home vba2c, and I got to announce it was a boy- wonderful experience!!! I want this one to be the same... a surprise announcement by me at home that is (but a girl this time would be nice!):goodvibes:

[cereal527]

We definitely DO NOT want to know. We didn't find out with our first two, and with our third we said we didn't want to know, and the ultrasound tech forgot and told us anyway. No big deal since it was our third, and I knew it was a girl without being told, but it is still way better finding out right when they are born.

[Sophiasmomma]

we are not going to find out for this baby.. This is definitly our last and we knew by 16ish weeks with both of our children what they were so I always promised DH that IF we had a 3rd we could let it be a suprise. PLUS we have 1 of each so I feel no pressure to have one or the other sex:giggle:

[daisysock]

We are not finding out this time. We let it be a surprise with ds1 and it was awesome for dh to tell me that he was definately a boy(though we both had a strong feeling) We did find out with ds2 as dh really wanted to know so we had a 3-d u/s and I let dh find out as an anniversary present(I wanted to be surprised but he didn't) So with this one, we are praying for a girl and if I found out it was a boy(since this is our last) I don't want to feel disappointed.....so we will save the surprise for the birth when we are so excited for the baby in general.

We bought lots of GN the first time around and then got more boyish stuff after he was born. We just had more blue when ds2 got here since we knew. All our other stuff is GN anyway so it didn't matter(which I recommend) it makes it easier to sell or to give away when it is GN.

[AmyCivic80]

With my daughter we didn't find out her sex and it was amazing. I loved having everyone try to guess what I was having and hearing why they thought so. Also, nothing beat having my husband announce in the delivery room, "It's a girl!" It was an awesome feeling.

As far as being able to plan for baby, I found that it was really easy. We just bought all the newborn clothes in gender neutral colors and bought a gender neutral bedding set for the nursery. When my daughter was born everyone was so excited about finding out she was a girl that they all ran out and bought pink dresses and pink stuffed animals and pink EVERYTHING. There was definitely not a lack of pink stuff at our house. (I was actually VERY pleased that I had some of that gender neutral stuff to dilute all of that pink!)

If you really want the nursery to be gender specific, you could just wait until after baby is born to decorate. I don't know about anyone else, but my daughter slept in the bassinet in our room (or in our bed with us) for a while so it didn't even matter what color her room was because she was never in it anyway. Lol. She actually didn't even have any furniture in her room until she was like 2 months old (it was on backorder).

With this baby we also plan on not finding out the sex. We already have all the gender neutral stuff from our daughter so we will have very little to buy when the time comes (so that will be GREAT on our wallets :mrgreen:). I can't wait to relive the exciting moment after the birth of the baby while I wait for my husband to announce, "It's a _______!"

[ThatLinGirl]

We're not going to find out. We also cosleep, etc, so there's no decorating issues. I have no qualms about putting a boy in a pink diaper or a girl in a more "boyish" one, so I'll probably just buy a mix of what I like.

[andi2284]

I found out with DD, but I decided I didn't want to know this time. Everytime someone I know has left it as a suprise, I felt like it added so much to the birth.
We have most everything we'll need for another baby. All of our baby gear is GN, so there's no worry there. I have all of DD's clothes in the basement, and can easily pull them out if this one is a girl. I plan to buy some boy items, like sleepers, onesies, blankets (whatever we don't have in neutral colors) right before my due date and keep it together with reciepts. That way, we are prepared with some items for the baby if it's a boy. We can shop after the baby is born and I'm sure my family will have a blast buying boy items, since there are very few boys on both sides. I'll also pick out the crib bedding and room decoration, and since I plan to keep the baby in our room for at least a few months, there is no hurry on that. I'm a huge planner, but the idea of not knowing, even just once, is so exciting. I'll have so much fun watching people guess and getting to announce the sex of the baby when he/she is born.
DH is still a little on the fence, but I think he sees it from my point of view and has agreed.

[Noss Galen Baby]

I'm not sure yet. At first, I didn't want to with Dax but then changed my mind. At this point, I have no need to the know the gender of this baby but I don't know how I'll feel in the months ahead.

With my first, there was no question that I wanted to know the sex. I had Paul calling the u/s office every couple of days to see if an appointment would open up so we could get in earlier. :)

[MarcieLynne]

We didn't find out with dd (now 2). I wasn't about to ruin one of life's greatest surprises!! And then, I had an extremely fast labor complicated (sort of) by meconium and some decelerations, and no one even announced her sex! I had to ask, "So, is it a boy or a girl?" as she was taken by the neonatal team for assessment. But, we're excited that we did it that way.

And we don't plan to find out this time, either... We have lots of GN clothes and stuff from when dd was born. And, as the others have said, family and friends are quick to go on shopping sprees as soon as the baby's sex is announced at birth! There was plenty of pink in our house within a couple of days!

My only issue is that dd was born in April, when it was starting to get nice outside. This baby is due in December, so we'll need some warmer sleepers, etc. And this will be our first experience with CDs, so we get to start from scratch there! I'm not worried about colors since baby will likely grow out of all the nb/small sizes in a very short amount of time anyway. We'll get more gender specific with the medium sized dipes!

[krgolden]

I don't want to find out this time, but dh does. We're still discussing it! :giggle: We have a son now and I think that if I found out we were having another boy I would be a little disappointed. I don't want to feel like that! If we found out when I actually had the baby though I wouldn't care what it is. I would just be thankful that it's out and healthy, you know? I would love it no matter the gender, but I really want to wait this time.

[sbadger]

We are not finding out this time! I so want to know but I think that is helping this pg fly by as well! I have one of each so I have stuff either way. But if this is your first time the way they use to do it was buy a week or so of GN and then shop postbaby! MIL send it was to get you out of the house and help with ppd!!:roflmbo: it might work!

[chloecat]

not finding out here!! I hope it's a great suprise. We found out with both of the other 2 and it was nice knowing, but i would like this last one to be a suprise at birth.

[vinsmommy]

We found out with ds1 and are planning on finding out with this one too though I am starting to lean towards not finding out. Now just to convince DH to wait. :D

[DesertMomma]

I found out with my first 4 kids.. so this one.. I'm really looking forward to being surprised! I love neutral colors more than the typical blue/pink anyways, so it works! I still have all my sons baby clothes, so if it's a boy- he'll be all set. I'll be picking up neutral colored stuff, and besides girls can pull of boy clothes if they wear a pink headband LOL

[stinkysmom]

We've never found out with our kids, so we won't with this one, either. I don't open my Christmas presents in July, so I won't peek for this one.

We've got one of each, but we have no newborn winter stuff. We go with mint, yellow, tan, blue when we purchase (I, personally, detest pink).

It's easy to plan. You just pick out a GN theme for the baby's room, if it is to have a room. 20 years ago it was rare for people to know the gender, but somehow it all came together for them!

[*Snap*]

I am a single momma so it make it easier and cheaper to plan.

[carseatmommy]

We didn't find out with our first and we're not going to find out with this one either.

Going through IVF...there's not a lot of surprises...so we keep the sex a surprise.

I've been buying green and yellow things here and there. The nursery theme is Dr. Seuss characters although the crib will be in our room for at least the first 6 months. I just night nurse and diaper in the nursery.

Susan

[babyluvandkisses]

We are not finding out and I am so excited! :lostit: We found out with DD and DS and it worked out both times - I really wanted a girl first because I wasn't sure if I was going to have anymore (although I would have been happy either way), then we didn't really care, but were thrilled to find out we would have one of each. Now, I really don't care what the sex is and can't wait to be surprised. My brother-in-law and his wife just found out that they're having a girl and he really wanted a boy (because he has a girl already) - I just can't imagine setting yourself up for disappointment. It's a happy thing no matter what!

[Aleesh_Mom]

I did not want to find out the gender this time around, but DH was determined to know. It was causing a bit of a rift with our older girls (11 and 13) because they insist on knowing before the baby is born. We have a younger girl (18 months) that we found out for, and of course my older girls were in the room with the ultrasound tech and us when we found out. They just assumed it would be the same this time around. The only reason we found out last time was because DH insisted upon it. This time around I'm calling the shots! We were toying with the idea of DH knowing, but not anyone else, but the kids constantly nagging him has made him change his mind about it. (at least for now) We are at 16 weeks I think, so we haven't had our big ultrasound yet. DH wants to mentally prepare himself if this will be girl #4. I will be happy with a girl, and will be happy with a boy. It took us 12 months to conceive the toddler, and 9 months for this little bean, so I'm just happy to be pregnant!!!! (our older girls are my dh's bios, and my adopted children)