I keep reading all these threads about hormone levels, and ultrasounds, due dates and blah blah blah!!!! i feel kinda out of the loop cause i am planning on having my 3rd baby-second homebirth. And I won't even have my first midwife appt til i'm 6 months along:goodvibes: Personally i like being left alone with no one telling me to pee on this and that and taking my bloodpressure all the time. I was just wondering if there are any other mama's out there like me who are just lurking!!:lostit:
localuna
05-10-2008, 02:15 PM
Not a homebirther this time, but I haven't had an u/s yet. My first and only will be at 20 weeks. :)
kateri25
05-10-2008, 02:42 PM
I get limited care but that is not my choice, I am having a VERY different pregnancy than my first one so I have more questions so I need to get care to get all these questions answered but we are military and they tell me when and if I can be seen.
Malania
05-10-2008, 06:20 PM
I wish I could have limited care but I am at a high risk to have a 3rd miscarriage plus I have too many bleeding problems to not have u/s. I can't imagine going 6 months without being seen.
katengrace
05-10-2008, 08:10 PM
I wish I could have limited care but I am at a high risk to have a 3rd miscarriage plus I have too many bleeding problems to not have u/s. I can't imagine going 6 months without being seen.
Ditto...same thoughts, different risks. I like the reassurance of knowing everything is going the way it should be.
nannersmama
05-10-2008, 08:39 PM
I haven't even scheduled a doc appt yet. I am planning on talking to my doc about a home birth..there are no midwives in this area so I am hoping I can find something out so I can do what I want, but who knows. No need to lurk though..you can still share what you have going on with you :)
MyGlorylife
05-11-2008, 10:52 AM
with our last baby we went UC- I never saw a midwife or dr or anythng the entire pregnancy. And the one before that was extreamly limited- I think I went to 2 app. and that was it.
I never regretted being so low intervention. I treasure the fact that my little Josh was so completely natural:thumbsup:
Michellelg
05-11-2008, 11:58 AM
My pregnancy with my Sophi was very hands-off. Initially I went to a midwife in another town and only seen her a few times during the first.. oh.. 30 weeks? That didn't work out and I switched to an OB in my town. I went to several appointments and said YUCK.. no way. So I didn't go back, and had her at home with only my husband. :) It was SO amazing and now I wish I hadn't went to a midwife/doctor at all.
I can pretend to be pregnant and chit chat with you :) lol
M
Sophiasmomma
05-11-2008, 08:11 PM
wow 6 months!
Thats along time to not know if anything is wrong...
With my DD thank the lord I was under a Drs care becasue at almost 5 months along my cervix was shortening fast and the DR was able to tell me to get right off my feet! Had I not done strict bedrest I could have lost my DD by 20ish weeks..
There are many reasons to pee on this and take blood pressure etc... esp if theres GD , protein in your urine, infection, or like I had preeclampsia and didnt know it until the DR checked my blood work
I cant imagine not knowing if things are ok?
But I am open minded and Im sure you have your reasons:thumbsup:
mother_04_07
05-11-2008, 09:31 PM
I wish I could have limited care but I am at a high risk to have a 3rd miscarriage plus I have too many bleeding problems to not have u/s. I can't imagine going 6 months without being seen.
i wish i could have had limited care but I was high risk with both my sons ...due to meds in pill form of anticoagulants, put the baby at HIGH risk of defects or stillbirth..... I have blood clot issues ,which make me & baby dependent that i have anticoagulant injections:yuck:every 12hours:banghead: *i change to injection ASP soon as i find out i am prego*
for us not to have u/s... risk putting our baby thor a life with
a flattened nasal bridge
upper airway obstruction
blindness or optic atrphy
shortened fingers
short hands
dwarfing of the child body
bone & cartilage problems
developmental delays
seizures
scoliosis
deafness
congenital heart disease
fetal bleeding
central nervous system problems
IUGR ( low birth weight , simply the pleecta stops feeding the baby and the baby slows or stops growing )
stillborn
Its hard to believe something that helps keeps me alive could being so much harm & even KILL a fetus.:cry: :cry:
I can't imagine going 6 months without being seen.
I just would like to say that most people who go into childbirth low or no medical "stuff" do so because they already have a history of no problems.
I personally have currently 5 children. I have no known anything on either myside or hubbys side of the family with the exception of twins on my side not going full term (and on that note I have had 2 mc'd set of twins both by 12 weeks and I personally am a surviving twin- mytwin died before 12 weeks also) which is not something I need to see a dr for.
I have no pregnancy problems, infact if somethng came up I would probably figure it out before a dr would because I KNOW my body. I have had one all nat hospital birth 3 homebirths (the first was an unplanned unassisted) and the last was a planned un assisted at home.
I do labor and delivery great, I still do check for tears- although with good positioning I never do (standing up) and I also keep on hand anything I might need for hemoraging (which I have never done)
I work out a good birth plan and always make sure that we have atleast 2 people- preferably one nursing- at hand just in case we need to go into emergency mode- which we have never had to do.
If at anytime my body felt wrong or God told me to seek help- I would. Everyone who has been posting has been very kind and this is not in defense to anyone- we have all been cheery:giggle:
I just wanted to shed some light to some of those out there that maybe do not quite understand how some moms can get to the point where they are not seeing traditional medical care.
Well when I had midwives asking me why I needed them- lol- I began to wonder myself.
Yes there are risks involved- there are also risk involved in getting seen (a friend of mine had 3 level 3 ultrasounds which said her baby had downs and was huge they induced her early which failed and they had to c-section her and the baby ended up perfectly normal and barely 7 pounds- he is now on the autism spectrum and his parents believe it may be inpart to his birth and vax'ing and she lives in a town where they do not do vbacs so if she wants another baby vbac'd she will have to travel 2 1/2 hours for it)
So, for some of us moms we know there is a history or preexisting medical condition and totaly going with dr's is the way to go. For some of us Moms we have the best scenarios all the way around and so not having dr's is a good and safe avenue for us.
And then there are lots that fall in the middle- they do not know or perhaps are worried or somethng comes up later on, or... or... or....
I think its awesome that we as Mom's can choose what we want done with our bodies and with our births. For some of us the right way is going with as much medical stuff as possible and for others its being as natural and untouched as possible. We are all still moms and our goals are the same- to have healthy births and baby's!:thumbsup:
Anyway I just wanted to share a little about myself personally and part of why we now go UC. :hugs:
AmyCivic80
05-12-2008, 08:28 AM
For me, personally, I could never go that long without being seen. I am a nurse and I am very medically-minded. I like peeing in a cup every appointment, knowing that my protein levels are fine. I like having my BP taken, knowing that I am not hypertensive. I was more than happy to drink the nasty sugary drink and having my blood taken every hour to make sure that I didn't have GD. I loved giving birth to my daughter in a hospital, knowing that if anything went wrong, I was in the exact place that I needed to be in order for my baby and I to have the best chance of pulling through.
That being said, every woman deserves to choose what she feels is best for her and her baby and each woman needs to decide what kind of prenatal care to receive.
I love my OB group and love the care and attention I receive at each of my visits. I actually look forward to going to my appointments and getting the reassurance that everything is okay.
chloecat
05-12-2008, 10:19 AM
i"m not trying to down ANYONE who chooses or NEEDS to have prenatal care. There are many reasons that moms and babies need doctors. Just as with my pregnancies (and other peoples I'm sure) there have been no risks no family medical disorders or so forth. One of the main reasons i don't worry about being seen is because if I feel fine and my body seems to be reacting normally than i am sure the baby is fine too. If i went for an ultrasound or a round of testing only to find out that i was going to have a baby with deformities or brain issues, i would still have the baby. I don't understand why it is so important to know and worry about it all 9 months of your pregnancy??
AmyCivic80
05-12-2008, 10:24 AM
I don't understand why it is so important to know and worry about it all 9 months of your pregnancy??
For me it wouldn't be to worry, it would be to plan and prepare.
chloecat
05-12-2008, 10:31 AM
Also--just to make it more clear... we are a very low low intervention family that does not seek medical assitance very often if at all. If something happened and i went into premature labor at 20 weeks, i would view it as something was wrong with the baby and there is nothing i can or should do about it. That baby just was not meant to be. In the same aspect, i know my body well enough to know if am getting preeclampia, gestational diabeties---etc, etc, etc. I have regular 1 month appts after 6 months pregnancy, and regular 2 week appts after 36 weeks pregnancy. My midwife comes to my home and has me "pee on a stick" for my protein and stuff but that is only after 36 weeks. Just to keep an eye on my levels. Before that is not done. Also, with a midwife since they only listen and feel for my baby via doppler or stethescope and her own hands, it is virtually impossible to even hear the baby before 4 months or more. So, since i pay out of pocket i don't feel like having someone drive the whole way to my house (2hrs out in the boonies) just to have a conversation with me and say "you sure look Pregnant" Cause that's about all she could do!!
big , big , big hugs to all you moms out there that deal with high risk pregnancies and difficulties with your own body. I am very glad i am not in that boat. Also, i am not trying to stir up dust---i just wanted to see if there were other mommas out there like me in this ddc, or if i am the only one!! thanks for the responses
meagan
cereal527
05-12-2008, 10:32 AM
I am just a worrier, so going to the doc is reassuring for me. I think it's great that there are moms, and their families, that can take such a hands off approach to such a natural thing, I just can't do it. I would make myself sick worrying about everything, and that would be worse for me and the baby.
jenn5388
05-12-2008, 10:59 AM
I think it's kinda nice to see someone who doesn't spend every moment at the doctors during pregnancy. I can't say the same for me. But with miranda it was Rough. (pre E I also lost ALOT of blood after her birth) I'm high risk because of those things, but also just because I'm overweight. lol
I can totally see why someone would have a birth this way. I would if it wasn't for my love of Epi's. lol (assuming it would be safe, and with my history, it wouldn't be) I assume people who choose this route have a history of safe normal pregnancy/births and they don't choose this with thier first Pregnancy. I hate how hospitals are with births. I hate how the first thing the baby gets is people sticking things in it's nose and mouth and eyes and giving it painful shots. How fun it must be. I also hate how doctors think they know what's best for everyone. I say there's been women out there giving birth for millions of years, before hospitals, before doctors, before thier tests and equipment, Why is it so strange to hear that someone would be wanting to go back to that time? I understand. :)
I can't wait to hear your birth story! I think it's going to be awesome!
AmyCivic80
05-12-2008, 01:01 PM
I say there's been women out there giving birth for millions of years, before hospitals, before doctors, before thier tests and equipment, Why is it so strange to hear that someone would be wanting to go back to that time? I understand. :)
I agree to a point. Sure, women have been giving birth to babies for a long time, but A LOT of women and babies used to die during childbirth. Now that there is improved prenatal care and improved interventions during childbirth and labor, hearing of mothers and babies dying during childbirth is rare.
I agree that some interventions may be unnecessary but most of what is done in a hospital is done for a reason.
However, I reiterate that every woman needs to choose what is best for her and her baby. For me, that involves getting the best prenatal care I can to give my baby the best start possible.
To each his own.
nannersmama
05-12-2008, 03:44 PM
With my first pregnancy I didn't see a doc until I was 6+ months along. Pregnancy was great..never had an US even after I went to the doc because we had no insurance. Everything proceeded as it should have with no complications. She was born with Down Syndrome, but becuase they never did an US they never saw that...they never did any blood tests beyond any to find out if I had AIDS or stuff like that. Would I change a thing about that pregnancy and the care I got...well yes..had I know that they would have treated me like my pregnancy was a problem they were helping me deal with, I would have never gone to a doc. It wouldnt' have changed the outcome..I still would have given birth to a perfect, gorgeous, beautiful, full term, healthy baby girl. I have had fully monitored pregnancies since then and I have learned that there is absoutely no need for medical intervention for me. Yes I like to be montiored just to make sure, but all these wasted trips into the doc to measure my belly and ask how everything is going just seems pointless.
chloecat
05-12-2008, 06:44 PM
I agree to a point. Sure, women have been giving birth to babies for a long time, but A LOT of women and babies used to die during childbirth. Now that there is improved prenatal care and improved interventions during childbirth and labor, hearing of mothers and babies dying during childbirth is rare.
I agree that some interventions may be unnecessary but most of what is done in a hospital is done for a reason.
However, I reiterate that every woman needs to choose what is best for her and her baby. For me, that involves getting the best prenatal care I can to give my baby the best start possible.
To each his own.
i hate to break it to you ----- but you should really check out this article. i also put a link below it to all of her notes and backup resources!!
notes to article
http://www.mothering.com/articles/pregnancy_birth/birth_preparation/masking-maternal-mortality-notes.html
The Maternal mortality rate in america is actually very very very high and is in fact worse than that of many 3rd world countries. I understand why you feel safer getting continuous care--but for me it is easier and much less complicated.....not to mention less stressful, to just stay home and birth how and when i am ready. NOT when my OB is ready ( or before he goes on vacation) :giggle2: my best friend had that happen--horrible doc!
here is another link to a page FULL of great birthing articles
I was very high risk with my first pregnancy since it was identical twins with twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome and maternal complications so I'll always get watched in pregnancy. I moved down from a perinatologist to an OB in the last pregnancy and even a midwife the last month so I'm very happy to at least make that step in the "right" direction. The last pregnancy went so well (41.6 weeks, VBAC, 9.9 lb baby) that I'm starting off with the midwives this time around and we'll hopefully stay low risk. Now, if I could just get past the pressure to induce at 42 weeks I'd be so happy!
I would love a homebirth but can't afford it and, I admit, I do like the postpartum days at the hospital when I get to rest away from the older kids. ;)
If your body carries babies well, low intervention is often the way to go.
Sophiasmomma
05-12-2008, 08:50 PM
If something happened and i went into premature labor at 20 weeks, i would view it as something was wrong with the baby and there is nothing i can or should do about it. That baby just was not meant to be. In the same aspect, i know my body well enough to know if am getting preeclampia, gestational diabeties---etc, etc, etc.
I have to say I kind take offense to your comment
I did go into premature labor at 20 weeks with my DD and thats the thing because I did know I saved her life and there is nothing wrong with her.. I feel sorry for you because if that had happened to you- you would have missed out on a perfectly happy healthy Baby girl
chloecat
05-13-2008, 06:40 AM
no offense meant to you mama!! that is just my view of life in general. our family does not believe in life support, blood donation etc..... if there was a life treatening illness we would just pray and live as long as we are able.
I did not mean any offense to you-i was just trying to explain my views!!
MyGlorylife
05-13-2008, 07:16 AM
before this thread starts to get off topic- I just wanted to remind us all that each family, each person, each mother has different view points and beliefs. While we will not always agree with one another we can still be respectful and agree to disagree and we do not even have to do that verbally.
The OP is kind enough to share a little bit of herself with those of us on here and in return we also are sharing a bit of our ownselves. It is always interesting to learn about others and we are part of a great community here.
Its been fun reading different view points- and personally it is nice to see some other low/non- invasive mothers here.
I also respect the opinion of those that think/feel differently than I do. What I do for me is not the right way for everyone.
That is the overall thing here- what is right for the OP may not be right for others. So lets remember what that. She posted looking for others out there who are similar minded not to start a debate- of any sort.
Just wanted to throw this out :goodvibes: its always important when on these forums we remember our manners.
(i am not taking to or about anyone in general- just making a note since this thread has the potential to get snarky)
chloecat
05-13-2008, 09:39 AM
thank you mama!! that is my thought exactly. I aprreciate everyone and their posts. I did not mean to start a debate -- i posted solely to find other like minded people.
Same as if you use prefolds not aio's and wanted to talk to some other moms who also use prefolds. I don't mind that you do what you do--so please don't think i do!!
SativaStarr
05-13-2008, 02:03 PM
I just want to say, I envy you UCers/low intervention Mamas! Oh how I WISH I could do that, but alas, my body is defective and Ive yet to carry a baby past 35 weeks. I was really hoping for a midwife this time around, but no luck.. I have to see an OB at a hospital with a NICU.. due to my history (2 preemies/PTL, placental abruption, 2x HG, & a history of pulmonary emboli) Im high risk :cry:
AmyCivic80
05-13-2008, 02:36 PM
i hate to break it to you ----- but you should really check out this article. i also put a link below it to all of her notes and backup resources!!
notes to article
http://www.mothering.com/articles/pregnancy_birth/birth_preparation/masking-maternal-mortality-notes.html
The Maternal mortality rate in america is actually very very very high and is in fact worse than that of many 3rd world countries. I understand why you feel safer getting continuous care--but for me it is easier and much less complicated.....not to mention less stressful, to just stay home and birth how and when i am ready. NOT when my OB is ready ( or before he goes on vacation) :giggle2: my best friend had that happen--horrible doc!
here is another link to a page FULL of great birthing articles
I don't want to hijack this thread and take it over - but I feel the need to respond to this post. I did quickly read over the article you posted and I'm sorry to say that you didn't break anything to me. In fact, it seems that much of your article supports my statements:
"Each year, nearly 1,000 women die during pregnancy, during birth, or in the first week after giving birth. Nearly half of these deaths could have been prevented with better access to higher-quality maternity care."
"It cannot be overemphasized that American women's lack of access to quality, immediate obstetrical attention in the hospital is a major reason so many of them die unnecessarily during pregnancy and childbirth."
The article states that many of the unnecessary deaths during childbirth have to do with high-tech interventions such as labor induction, anesthesia, and c-sections. I doubt anyone would argue that standard prenatal care would lead to harm to the baby or the mother.
I could go on and on but I won't because this was not the reason the OP started the thread. I think that women today should feel lucky to have the choice between seeing a doctor on a regular basis or choosing to have a hands-off approach to pregnancy.
Good luck to all the December mamas out there. I look forward to hearing about everyone's experiences throughout this pregnancy.
Jesus_Freak_955
05-13-2008, 02:42 PM
I didn't go to a midwife until I was about 25 weeks along w/ both my kiddos and I never had an u/s or testing other than for infections (cuz I'm prone to those when preggo).
hobbsandbean
05-13-2008, 03:46 PM
I totally am in love with the *idea* of a homebirth. However, I seem to be two separate people living in the same body, and the other person in here is in love with epidurals and "just in case". :giggle:
So, I'm an OB-seeing, hospital-birth-having, test-rejecting, OB-maddening patient. I completely agree with whoever said the thing about worrying...last appt I went through the whole "Why aren't you having the quad-screen", and I finally told him to write "psychological torture". He laughed, backed off and wrote it down. Every time I've agreed to extra testing, it has resulted in false alarms and much too much concern.
While most of the appointments drive me nuts (except for hearing the heartbeat part), I am also very thankful for western medicine, because I don't know how I would have stayed hydrated enough to be alive, much less sustain this pregnancy or my son's, without medication.
*okay, stop reading now if you don't want a less than popular Christian perspective*
As a Christian, so much of my frustration comes from docs who generally don't recognize God's position as creator and sustainer of life and midwives / natural types who don't recognize sin's effects on creation.
Okay, rant over. This thread is interesting. :giggle2:
chloecat
05-13-2008, 03:51 PM
thanks for posting mamas!! it's nice to meet some of you. How are you all feeling and such. Any early december due date mamas feeling the baby move yet? I can't wait. that is the best part in my opinion--having that little one reasurring me they are there, happy, and well!!
MelissaCoffey
05-13-2008, 04:09 PM
First four babies....hospital births with every intervention.
Fifth planned homebirth and I knew before anyone else that something was wrong. I was seeing a midwife. My urine was great, my BP was great and his heartbeat was great. Those little "check-ups" did not catch the fact that my son had Thanatophoric Dysplasia and would die as soon as he was born. I knew something was wrong, my belly was measuring a wee bit big but I went in on my own for an ultrasound and that's when we found everything out.
So with that experience under my belt we went totally unassisted with #5. We did rent a Doppler and I did have an ultrasound. But all the rest just weren't necessary. When the poop hit the fan and something really WAS wrong (not all this what if stuff....serious stuff was happening with my body) I knew it. I kept telling everyone that something was WRONG. My body told me what I needed to know and now I have full confidence in the process :)
chloecat
05-14-2008, 09:37 AM
amen!!! believe in your body mama!!
LCM's Mom
05-22-2008, 01:13 PM
"I would love a homebirth but can't afford it and, I admit, I do like the postpartum days at the hospital when I get to rest away from the older kids. "
LOL!! I'm looking into a homebirth because I can't afford the hospital birth cost. Our insurance from old job ended in feb, I got preg in march, and the new insurance won't cover it as it is a preexisting condition. :-)
I might be able to get coverage through the state, but I'm still waiting to hear back on that. So who knows how/where I'll be giving birth. :-)
I am however, determined that no matter where baby is born, to have most of the labor in the tub... really nice w/ my first bb.
Sooo right now, maybe not later, I am technically in the limited care category. I just really want to hear the heartbeat soon.... :-)
krgolden
05-27-2008, 07:07 PM
I'm seeing a doc and everything, but I wanted to add that when I had my son I didn't get to the hospital until I was 9 1/2 cm dialated. It was great. I got there, got checked, they called the doc and I started pushing. No med's and I wasn't stuck in bed for hours being monitored (I hate that). I'm hoping this time goes like that. The only thing was my water didn't break and I really think that if it had I would've had him in the car. :giggle: That would've freaked out dh!!!
To answer a previous question: I'm due Dec 1st and am almost positive I've felt the baby move several times. I've been really gassy this whole pregnancy so that's why there's still a little doubt there.:blush:
ellybelliesmomma
05-28-2008, 11:15 AM
I agree to a point. Sure, women have been giving birth to babies for a long time, but A LOT of women and babies used to die during childbirth. Now that there is improved prenatal care and improved interventions during childbirth and labor, hearing of mothers and babies dying during childbirth is rare.
I agree that some interventions may be unnecessary but most of what is done in a hospital is done for a reason.
However, I reiterate that every woman needs to choose what is best for her and her baby. For me, that involves getting the best prenatal care I can to give my baby the best start possible.
To each his own.
When you check the stats., in most cases it is safer to go w/ midwives. They are many studies-- in the US and in other countries, that show when you leave the medical world out of childbirth (with the exception of high risk) you have healthier and happier moms and babies in the end.
Personally, I am seeing an OB but not by choice. Our insurance will not cover any of the midwife ($4000) and we just can't afford it. However, my OB is very hands off. He is even considering attending out birth, outside the hospital. Yes, I would MUCH RATHER have a midwife and a homebirth, and I hope in the future I have better insurance that will make it possible, but I am "OK" with this for now.
I'm 13 weeks, I have been for one visit, to confirm pregnancy, and I will go again around 16 weeks. I'm not planning to have any ultrasounds because there is nothing I can do to change anything they would tell me. I will not terminate a pregnancy and I feel totally capable of handling any health issues after the baby is born. Like another mama said, why worry for 9 months. Also their are significant risks with ultrasounds and I just do see subjecting my baby to that.
chloecat
05-28-2008, 07:53 PM
When you check the stats., in most cases it is safer to go w/ midwives. They are many studies-- in the US and in other countries, that show when you leave the medical world out of childbirth (with the exception of high risk) you have healthier and happier moms and babies in the end.
Personally, I am seeing an OB but not by choice. Our insurance will not cover any of the midwife ($4000) and we just can't afford it. However, my OB is very hands off. He is even considering attending out birth, outside the hospital. Yes, I would MUCH RATHER have a midwife and a homebirth, and I hope in the future I have better insurance that will make it possible, but I am "OK" with this for now.
I'm 13 weeks, I have been for one visit, to confirm pregnancy, and I will go again around 16 weeks. I'm not planning to have any ultrasounds because there is nothing I can do to change anything they would tell me. I will not terminate a pregnancy and I feel totally capable of handling any health issues after the baby is born. Like another mama said, why worry for 9 months. Also their are significant risks with ultrasounds and I just do see subjecting my baby to that.
thank you so much for posting this. COngrats on your new pregnacy mama!! and i hope you get the hands off approach you are looking for.
to anyone else who is on the fence and wants some great information on why you should leave your pregnacy as low risk as possible (for those without prior or existing complications) check out the book "PUSHED" Written by Jennifer Block It is amazing and has tons of details and excellent studies of doctors and many "common" interventions that are used and today!!
peacefulj
06-04-2008, 03:58 PM
Sounds like me, #3 at home, not seen anyone yet either, and probably won't for a while. Glad not to be going to the doctor, but fun to see other's ultrasound pics to remind me! :)
sbadger
06-05-2008, 12:32 PM
I agree to a point. Sure, women have been giving birth to babies for a long time, but A LOT of women and babies used to die during childbirth. Now that there is improved prenatal care and improved interventions during childbirth and labor, hearing of mothers and babies dying during childbirth is rare.
I agree that some interventions may be unnecessary but most of what is done in a hospital is done for a reason.
However, I reiterate that every woman needs to choose what is best for her and her baby. For me, that involves getting the best prenatal care I can to give my baby the best start possible.
To each his own.
They still do and more die in the hospital then out! And more are dieing now because of the treatment instead of germs as before! You are right each woman need her own choice but to put fear on another woman because of her choice is not fair! You have the right to use the docs and hossy but to tell me that I'm putting myself at more risk for not doing that is so not FACT! I'm glad the docs are there but I don't want to know them! And hope I never need them!
That said ..OP I myself feel a little out of the loop in the Due Date clubs as I'm UP/Ucing for the second time! I am a Midwife so I catch a lot of flack about it as well! (professional not personally) We are not doing a US this time either as there are not private pay places here, so we are going all on our own! I'm excited to birth and find out he gender of this LO! I'm 15 weeks and things are good! I may look for a heartbeat next week if I'm so inclined but I feel flutters every now and then so I may not!
sbadger
06-05-2008, 12:36 PM
First four babies....hospital births with every intervention.
Fifth planned homebirth and I knew before anyone else that something was wrong. I was seeing a midwife. My urine was great, my BP was great and his heartbeat was great. Those little "check-ups" did not catch the fact that my son had Thanatophoric Dysplasia and would die as soon as he was born. I knew something was wrong, my belly was measuring a wee bit big but I went in on my own for an ultrasound and that's when we found everything out.
So with that experience under my belt we went totally unassisted with #5. We did rent a Doppler and I did have an ultrasound. But all the rest just weren't necessary. When the poop hit the fan and something really WAS wrong (not all this what if stuff....serious stuff was happening with my body) I knew it. I kept telling everyone that something was WRONG. My body told me what I needed to know and now I have full confidence in the process :)
If you really know there is nothing stopping that!! Amen for your abilitu to hear yourself and your baby!
kateri25
06-05-2008, 12:49 PM
honestly I know many women who did nothing until giving birth and they have healthy children, I don't see why a low intervention (Unless you are known to be high risk or have had problems in the past). For me the closest I would go is a BC because there were complications with the birth of DD. Hubby is uncomfortable, with not knowing on the ultrasound, but we do decline all tests for any indication. Personally I have this strange feeling of twins I just want to get out of the way. Honestly after I got the yes or no on that I would be fine until giving birth.
chloecat
06-06-2008, 04:33 PM
i'm glad there are others out there like me. And i am glad you mama's are comfortable with your bodies and can trust them to grow and birth a baby. We should start our own little tread once a month to check in. I think i'll call it "up/uc/low intervention check in thread" only for people who want to chat and check in--no naysayers or evil wishers welcome~!!
