I am all for a home birth but hubby is so NOT, and although I am the one delivering and going through this whole pregnany within my body, and I am the one pushing a watermelon out the size of a lemon, he has made some really reasonable suggestions, and it is a give and take. I am not comfortable if he is not. KWIM? We have opted for a natural hospital birth since I am moderate risk. Its not worth something hapening at home that could have been easily taken care of with the right scientific methods or procedures if something was to happen, god forbid. my husband said "I embrace science and technology". and really, i do to, if I have to.
Well basically... both of my children were natural hospital births with midwifes, but since i am moderate risk we opted to have an OBGYN that is very highly acredited and he has done a surgery on my girly stuff before, so I feel like we already know eachother very well, and he is someone that puts my hubby at ease, and that is nearly impossible to do. So somethign must be right there.
Anyway... How do I ensure MY BIRTH PLAN with an OBGYN. I dont want it to be what he feels is convient, and I really dont think it would be, but I want it to be how we would like. I dont want medication. I want skin to skin contact immediately, not taken away to be weighed ect. I want to nurse right away. ya know all that stuff.
HOW!?!? What do i say?
Have any of you had this situation? :headscratch:
MCmom3
05-27-2008, 10:03 PM
Hmmm... I'm interested to find out what others say. I am having an OB as well but want to try the natural route. I'm also planning on having a doula, so I'm hoping maybe she can help me speak my desires as needed. Looking forward to seeing answers from experienced mamas.
katienmike
05-27-2008, 10:08 PM
My birth with my son was at a hospital with a midwife. We moved but still have military insurance and get seen at a navy hospital so I am not sure if they have midwives or I would see one. The thing that sucks about military hospitals is you never know for sure who is going to deliver you.
I have found myself thinking like you though. Like how will I make sure that I get the things I want out of my birth if I have to see an OB/GYN. I decided its my birth and I will have things my way no matter what. The only thing I would suggest is talking to your OB and making sure he understands what you want and is supportive of it. And when you are in labor stand your ground, its your body .
When I was having my son they did keep telling me it was hospital policy that I had to be hooked up to monitors for 10 minutes every hour but I basically just told them I was'nt doing it and to get over it and leave me alone. I have no problem with them making sure my baby is ok but I can not sit still for 10 min every hour. When I was in labor I had to always be moving so the midwife just used a doppler on me every hour.
angelami4
05-27-2008, 11:00 PM
Talk to your OB...let him know that you have certain things you want to happen and that changes from it need to be discussed with you or say...DH first unless it is an absolute emergency. Also, put it in writing...there's several places online and at least 1 book out there (I forget the name of it but I used it when planning mine). Put the basics into writing and have it placed in your hospital file, keep a copy with you and give a copy to your doctor. Also, be flexible with it...it's a plan yes but as we all know, babies don't always follow plans. My plan involved natural delivery with freedom to move about and shower and such during labor rather than being confined to bed. Unfortunately, I developed pre-ecclampsia. My OBGYN discussed my plan and my situation with me in detail...I also had a great nurse that helped a lot with it too. I ended up having to give up my natural birth due to the reality of needing to be induced...and the associated extra pain that I found I couldn't deal with without drugs...hence the picture of me looking possessed as I literally sat up and bed and shouted for drugs ^_~ which brought along an epidural. Anytime I got out of bed simply for bathroom, my blood pressure would sky rocket so all during the 4 days I was there until DD was born, I wasn't allowed up except to bathroom and ride the wheelchair around to an actual L&D room...well except for the tornado warning time both before and after DD was born...but anyway, I'm writing a book again. Do some online searches for information on writing a birthing plan, talk to your OB honestly, explain your views, and make sure he understands you. Write your birth plan, submit it to him for review, have him sign it, put it in the records with him, the hospital and just in case carry one with you to the hospital the day of and make sure it's in your chart. If the nurses argue, stand your ground...it's your birth...own it. Just be flexible enough to know which battles need to be fought and which need to be put on hold for this birth. Be kind and honest but firm with the nurses and your doctor and you'll have a lot of favor with them and be more likely to get what you want. HTH! Good luck with your birthing day!
xxMommato2xx
05-28-2008, 05:39 AM
Talk to your OB...let him know that you have certain things you want to happen and that changes from it need to be discussed with you or say...DH first unless it is an absolute emergency. Also, put it in writing...there's several places online and at least 1 book out there (I forget the name of it but I used it when planning mine). Put the basics into writing and have it placed in your hospital file, keep a copy with you and give a copy to your doctor. Also, be flexible with it...it's a plan yes but as we all know, babies don't always follow plans. My plan involved natural delivery with freedom to move about and shower and such during labor rather than being confined to bed. Unfortunately, I developed pre-ecclampsia. My OBGYN discussed my plan and my situation with me in detail...I also had a great nurse that helped a lot with it too. I ended up having to give up my natural birth due to the reality of needing to be induced...and the associated extra pain that I found I couldn't deal with without drugs...hence the picture of me looking possessed as I literally sat up and bed and shouted for drugs ^_~ which brought along an epidural. Anytime I got out of bed simply for bathroom, my blood pressure would sky rocket so all during the 4 days I was there until DD was born, I wasn't allowed up except to bathroom and ride the wheelchair around to an actual L&D room...well except for the tornado warning time both before and after DD was born...but anyway, I'm writing a book again. Do some online searches for information on writing a birthing plan, talk to your OB honestly, explain your views, and make sure he understands you. Write your birth plan, submit it to him for review, have him sign it, put it in the records with him, the hospital and just in case carry one with you to the hospital the day of and make sure it's in your chart. If the nurses argue, stand your ground...it's your birth...own it. Just be flexible enough to know which battles need to be fought and which need to be put on hold for this birth. Be kind and honest but firm with the nurses and your doctor and you'll have a lot of favor with them and be more likely to get what you want. HTH! Good luck with your birthing day!
