I am still not in real labor. I am a loose 4.5 centimeters and can easily be stretched to 5.5. Still 80% effaced and cervix is soft and squishy like someone in active labor. I have BH contractions when I walk around, but they let up as I change position. I am so frustrated. I'm also worried about continuing to dilate because I'm scared I'm going to have an unplanned homebith when labor does finally start. I see my MW tomorrow morning, and she wants to try to get things started by vigorously stripping my membranes. I wanted things to start on their own, but I trust her. What the heck is this child waiting for?
I am so frustrated!
Still no baby and nothing really to make me think he's coming any time soon. The BH continue, but they aren't that painful, they aren't regular, and they change when I move around.
It's not like I'm overdue or anything. In fact, I probably wouldn't be expecting anything at this point if my body wasn't so close. I am almost halfway dilated at over 4 cm and 80% effaced. And my cervix has the characterisitics of someone in active labor. My widwife said it's very soft and stretchy, which usually doesn't happen until you're really in labor, but I'm not. My mucous plug is gone (didn't notice it come out, but it's gone). Basically, I'm so close that at some point, the BH alone are going to "put me over the edge" she said, but they aren't. I'm so dilated that even these irregular ones should at some point be putting me past the point of no return so to speak and then things should pick up quickly.
The waiting is killing me. At this point, real labor seems so elusive that I can't quite imagine anything turning into anything. This is my 2nd child. I never had this guessing game with her. When it started, it started.
I hope I'm wrong.
Thanks for letting me vent! :goodvibes:
05-30-2008, 12:43 PM
:hugs: I have no clue, except maybe your little one isn't ready just yet :)
05-30-2008, 01:17 PM
Well, I am sure when it does REALLY happen it'll be way fast and that is awesome. It sounds like your body could be in early labor and you not even really know it with being dilated to 4cm. So, when you REALLY get going I bet it will just happen way fast!!! Good luck!
05-30-2008, 01:25 PM
:hugs: awww, i was 6cm and FRUSTRATED at my last appointment before dd3 came. it's been almost a year, but i still totally remember wandering around thinking how can i not be in labor?!? thinking of you and i hope it happens for you soon.
edited to add: it was a "dream" labor when she did finally come. i couldn't have scripted it any better except for the very end where she came out with her arms crossed and i ended up tearing.
05-30-2008, 01:26 PM
I am having the EXACT same experience! :hugs: MW said on Tuesday that I would probably have a May baby instead of a June one, dd was early by 6 days, I've lost my plug, having lots of contractions (some BH some painful), was 3 cm dilated and 80% effaced on Tues, and yet, no signs of labor. Hugs, mama, soon and very soon. Our babes know when it's time.
05-30-2008, 01:28 PM
you want my contractions...i'll share them. :banghead:
and a pp was right...you are going to go fast! its going to be a quick, easy labor! concentrate on that!
05-30-2008, 03:31 PM
I'm almost in the same boat...Tuesday I was 3 cm and 70% effaced. No painful contractions at all. I'm "due" so I'm frustrated. If we go by:
date of last period EDD=5/19
date of baby making sex=5/26-5/27
I feel like I'm over because I know the weekend baby was concieved, but giving him the benefit of the doubt of taking a while to implant, tomorrow may be a little more accurate, but I'm still frustrated. Especially sense DS1 came one day early, that would be today if DS2 came same time as his brother.
Sorry if this post doesn't make sense...I'm a little out of it today.
05-30-2008, 04:42 PM
Thanks mamas. I'll try to concentrate on the fact that it'll go fast when it does finally start. Maybe I'll go take a walk and see if it does anything.
05-30-2008, 05:38 PM
i was 4 and 1/2 cm and 95% effaced for a week and a half b4 lette came 3 weeks early :hugs:
05-30-2008, 09:14 PM
I guess this is an example of when not knowing would be better!! :giggle: My mw doesn't do cervical checks (unless requested), so I had no idea how close I was this time, so no suffering either way (either the "closed up tight, I'll never have this baby" or the "OMG, I'm dilated to x cm, how can I NOT be in labor??"). She didn't even check me until I felt pushy during labor, and sure enough I was ready to go. :) With my second baby, I was in your situation (4cm, 75% effaced, but not in labor - and 2 days overdue). I ended up going into labor later that day and had a quick 5 hour labor. GL!
05-31-2008, 07:01 AM
I am right there with you and wondering the same thing. I never knew before how difficult this waiting is (this is my first)!
05-31-2008, 07:58 AM
I am 35w4d...physically totally ready. Contractions up the wazoo (literally!:roflmbo: ) that are quite painful, trackable, then pidder out. I know that this baby needs more time to cook, believe me, I am so not ready for her to be here yet. I have about 18 days until I feel it would even be safe to think about her coming out! BUT, in the same breath, I am fried. My midwife won't check me, which I am actually glad about...I was 1/2 cm at 31 weeks. The baby is sitting so low that I am afraid to squat because I think my water might break and she will just fly out! Plus, she is sitting on my cervix, and every time she moves I have sharp stabbing pains and pee on myself. I am so uncomfortable!
Pregnancy is wonderful, until you make it to the end. It is a hard road, but so worth it to make it to the end and have a nice healthy baby. I have had 2 NICU babies, and will do everything in my power to make sure this one is good and cooked, so she will be healthy and I can leave the hospital holding her instead of the NICU nurses carrying her down. The baby will come! Next time you are checked, ask for a "rough" exam...have lots of sex...try accupressure or go get some accupuncture.
05-31-2008, 08:48 AM
with my first, I had regular, strong contractions for two weeks prior to giving birth. My doctor was sure I was going to go on July 27th (when I made a trip up to the hospital), I didnt end up having him until 8-10. I was 4 cm forever, had contractions forever, and never went passed that area until they gave me pitocin. God I hate pitocin. However, we were at hour 18 and they only wanted me to go until 24 hrs since my water broke. It was either pitocin or a c-section. I took the pitocin. Eventually, he did come out though, remember, you dont see people pregnant two years later. nature makes them come out!!