I work and pump and my baby is refusing the bottle :cry: My poor dh gets the brunt of it, but I just feel horrible. The kicker, is we know it's completely out of protest she's taken the bottle sooo many times before!! It's like she knows I'm gone for the day.
So yesterday, she nurses and nurses and nurses when I get home and wasn't satisfied, and took a bottle from dh!
I know she'll eventually take it, but it's just so sad. Any stories or encouragement are appreciated. My heart literally hurts for her.
heather_lynn68
06-11-2008, 06:50 PM
My DD never took a bottle. I would have to come home from work every 2 hours, at least I worked close by! I tired EVERY SINGLE bottle/nipple/method under the sun. Some babies know exactly what they want and there is no negotiating. She is stubborn to this day! Good luck :)
mnmama
06-11-2008, 06:55 PM
My DD never took a bottle. I would have to come home from work every 2 hours, at least I worked close by! I tired EVERY SINGLE bottle/nipple/method under the sun. Some babies know exactly what they want and there is no negotiating. She is stubborn to this day! Good luck :)
Ok, now I feel super bad. :cry: That's definitely not what I need to hear.
aboutachild
06-11-2008, 07:24 PM
My DD won't take one either and we just tried a sippy cup of water with success. So I am going to pump and try BM tomorrow. We bought the BPA free Advent 6 month style sippy and she seems to like it so far.
dragondance
06-12-2008, 12:15 AM
Mine would only take stage 2 nipples (I think because I have super-strong letdown). She refused any stage one nipple flat-out, just got frustrated and screamed. Luckily we figured that out, since I work so much. She also likes drinking directly out of cups like we do, so that might be something to try that isn't imitating a boob.
medea
06-12-2008, 02:01 AM
Mine never would either, even though he took one for the firs month when we were supplementing.
I didn't have the option of going home though, so they gave him water and bm out of a regular cup, and then we just had marathon nursing sessions when I did get home.
I stressed and stressed about it, and I bet I spent $250 on bottles and shipping to Japan. I wish I hadn't stressed. Babies won't starve. I swear, even though it's hard to hear right now. You'll work it out somehow mama!
mnmama
06-12-2008, 03:25 AM
Mine would only take stage 2 nipples
I've always heard only use stage 1, but hey I'll try anything with her. I just now went to the kitchen and switched out the nipples. She's taken the bottle many times before though, so I know she will take the 1 if she wants to. Maybe she'll be more willing if we make it easier for her?
Mine never would either, even though he took one for the firs month when we were supplementing.
I didn't have the option of going home though, so they gave him water and bm out of a regular cup, and then we just had marathon nursing sessions when I did get home.
I stressed and stressed about it, and I bet I spent $250 on bottles and shipping to Japan. I wish I hadn't stressed. Babies won't starve. I swear, even though it's hard to hear right now. You'll work it out somehow mama!
Yeah, I don't have that option either. My dh doesn't want to have to do that all summer, and then we'd also get stuck in the fall with the dcp. I've been hearing from others that it just takes time, but to keep persisting.
I'm not going to switch bottles either, because she has taken the ones we have many times before. She's just choosing not to. Stinker.
Lisa_m
06-12-2008, 06:01 AM
Mine would only take stage 2 nipples (I think because I have super-strong letdown). She refused any stage one nipple flat-out, just got frustrated and screamed. Luckily we figured that out, since I work so much. She also likes drinking directly out of cups like we do, so that might be something to try that isn't imitating a boob.
Hmm, I'll have to try the stage 2 for my lo. we're having some problems too. She just plays with the nipple in her mouth, like she thinks it's a toy. Right now she is using Gerber Gentle Flow bottles because they are BPA free, but she is not eating well with them.
dragondance
06-12-2008, 12:21 PM
I've always heard only use stage 1, but hey I'll try anything with her. I just now went to the kitchen and switched out the nipples. She's taken the bottle many times before though, so I know she will take the 1 if she wants to. Maybe she'll be more willing if we make it easier for her?
Dd1 only used a stage 1 for the first nine months, but this one.... To dd2, stage one nipples are about as good as pacifiers for getting milk, and she doesn't want anything to do with either of them (well, she'll kind of chew on the pacis for a minute if she's full and bored, but not actually suck on it). If it doesn't spit milk, she's not interested :giggle:
mnmama
06-12-2008, 01:27 PM
Dd1 only used a stage 1 for the first nine months, but this one.... To dd2, stage one nipples are about as good as pacifiers for getting milk, and she doesn't want anything to do with either of them (well, she'll kind of chew on the pacis for a minute if she's full and bored, but not actually suck on it). If it doesn't spit milk, she's not interested :giggle:
Sounds like Grace. Well she took 1.5 ounces today so far which is a celebration, considering 0 ounces the other days. Dh says the faster nipple helped. I also had a little talk with her this morning when I was leaving, stressing that she needs to take the bottle from daddy because mommy needs to work this summer. My oldest chimed in yeah, Gracie and told me she thinks Gracie just wants to eat with me :giggle2: So cute.
Anyhoo, that's my update. I can only hope it gets better from here. Thanks ladies!
dragondance
06-12-2008, 01:51 PM
Sounds like Grace. Well she took 1.5 ounces today so far which is a celebration, considering 0 ounces the other days. Dh says the faster nipple helped. I also had a little talk with her this morning when I was leaving, stressing that she needs to take the bottle from daddy because mommy needs to work this summer. My oldest chimed in yeah, Gracie and told me she thinks Gracie just wants to eat with me :giggle2: So cute.
Anyhoo, that's my update. I can only hope it gets better from here. Thanks ladies!
Yay!
charitycase20
06-13-2008, 05:42 AM
:hugs: Mama-Your not alone!
My little man goes on bottle strikes often, we're on one now. Needless to say I have a wonderful freezer stash cause he's just not keeping up with what I'm pumping at work. Like a PP said, babies won't starve themselves. She'll just make up for what she didn't eat during the day when your at home. I think they call it reverse cycling or something like that. Just know that you come here and vent anytime, we're here and most of us has been or is going through the exact same thing. :giggle:
whiterabbit
06-13-2008, 06:08 AM
Oh! Sounds like my ds. For a whole month he refused to drink from a bottle. He waited for me to get there and then he would nurse like a fiend. Drove me and MIL nuts. But eventually he would drink a little and then one day he decided to drink 4 oz in one sitting. I cried from relief that day. Stubborn little bug. After that he would drink the bare minimum and then nursed the rest of the day/night.
Good luck, I know it's stressful but eventually she'll drink. And we tried everything! Bottles, spoons, droppers, fingers. He was/is a stubborn guy.
ktcz
06-13-2008, 06:09 AM
We had to use the stage 2 nipples as well. My husband tried to replicate what my boobs were doing at the time-- when I would begin nursing, I would literally stream out, so my husband would push on the bottle to make it stream out as well. My daughter initially just let it pool in her mouth and then spit it out, but after a couple of times, she would swallow!! This is how she drank her bottles for a long time, and then just one day, she started taking it w/o my husband needing to squirt it. Just keep trying anything-- eventually you will find something that works.
We also tried spooning- yes spooning- it into her mouth (she was over 6 mos though) and she would take it this way as well,
good Luck!
Uengsh
06-13-2008, 09:29 PM
My boy was a stubborn one too and refused to take any bottle the first 3 months. We eventually cup-fed him with this cupfeeding device from medela. I guess it was so drastically different from a nipple that he eventually accepted it. It was quite messy feeding though with BM spilling out all over the front but at least he did take in some! He had that from 3-6 months then switched successfully to an avent sippy cup.
MatildasMum
06-13-2008, 09:30 PM
:hugs:
Dolphin_Medic
06-13-2008, 09:39 PM
DD went through a phase like that, and I was the same way. Here's what we did:
For DD: she HAS to have the bottle warm, not luke warm, not cold, warm. No negotiation there. She'll only eat enough to stave off starvation, otherwise, she'll wait for me. It took us nearly a month to get to the point where she'd tolerate the bottle.
For me, I flat out refused and ended up using sippy cups only.
One thing I'd suggest, Nubby makes a sippy that has a silicone top that may help you. DD LOVES this sippy, when she chomps down on the spout, it opens it up and the water/bm flows out into her mouth, truely no effort. What I love about it, it's BPA free (the 10 oz one), and when she tips it upside down it doesn't dribble everywhere.
I wish you the best of luck, I understand the feeling.
Keropisunshine23
06-16-2008, 03:59 PM
Our DS took them great and then started refusing one day. We switched to adiri bottles and gradually he has started taking other bottles again. The adiris worked great, but daycare thinks they are awkward to fill. However, my little man loved playing with it.... I have heard a lot of people have success with sippys, but we didn't try that. Good luck, mama!:goodvibes:
tfjjmc
06-17-2008, 11:56 AM
I use gerber fashion tints bottles. They are BPA free, and the nipples have 3 smaller holes in them instead of 1. They are super cheap as well 3.99 for 3 at diapers.com. Out of all the pricey bottles we tried this is the one DD likes. I tried going with the wide nipples thinking they were closer to the breast but DD hated them. This bottle is cheap enough it might be worth a try. Worked for us.
alisha_roseleip
06-18-2008, 07:13 PM
First, DD did this too and she got over it after weeks of switching bottles and trying everything under the sun while she was at Daycare.
Second, if all else fails you can feed her with a dropper. That is what we had to do with dd for a few days last summer when she quit eating all together for three days.
Forest77
06-20-2008, 12:34 PM
We had the same problem but it worked itself out after about 2 weeks. We tried different bottles/nipples but I think what eventually worked was just time. I hope things are already going better for you, I know how hard it is!!
