So I just got back from my "Meeting" with the Midwives.
They are AMAZING!!! Both have so much experience, delivered 100 VBAC/VBA2+C, delivered over 1,000 babies. Worked in Hospitals and Homes. Both trained and went to school in Texas. Have not had to transfer, no losses, etc.
It was very hard talking about my previous C-Sections (I was bawling :cry:) and they were so understanding and one actually worked in the surgery room MANY times and was saying how she saw women having to be tied down for a C/S and they were crying not wanting it, etc. So she understands what it is like being forced and finally getting a voice to say NO NOT AGAIN!
They said all looks good and I am perfect for a Homebirth. Now I just have to email them and let them know I do want them and then we have to do ALL the paperwork and figure out payment.
Around here the average for a Homebirth is $5,500 but they said that is a crazy number and they set their max at $4,500 and GLADLY work with families to figure out what they can and cannot afford. They said they will do all Lab work stuff there but some has to be paid for out of pocket so if I really want a certain test done I may want to go to the DR, get it done then be done with it. Since I am doubtful Tricare will reimburse us I MAY just use my OB on the side for tests and ultrasound then stop at the end.
I had a HUGE list of questions and everything they answered was just what I wanted!
:lostit: I am SO happy right now and TIRED from all the crying I did, lol!
Babybug
06-18-2008, 04:55 PM
Wow....I'm so happy for you. What a great start to your pregnancy !!
corey0902
06-18-2008, 06:26 PM
Thats great news. You must be so relieved. I didn't have a c/s but my first delivery was not at all what I had in mind, so we too are planning a homebirth. Our interview with the midwife is on Monday. I hope it goes as well as yours.
APmommy712
06-19-2008, 06:26 AM
That is awesome news! What a great start to your pregnancy. :goodvibes:
I'm so torn myself right now. There is an unbelievable homebirth midwife about 1/2 hour from where we live only our insurance won't pay for any of her services. And I don't think we can afford to pay ourselves. I keep wondering if I will be able to have a *natural* birth in a *medical* hospital? It seems so much harder...
asteiner18
06-19-2008, 08:42 AM
congrats!! and i hear tricare will cover but it is a pain in the butt... we were going to try but i think i am high risk :(
Fither
06-19-2008, 08:52 AM
congrats diana, i'm so happy for you!
calideedle
06-19-2008, 10:02 AM
Thanks! I didnt realize how much built up anger and sadness I had over both C/S until they asked me to talk about it and I just started crying :( It was good though.
I have heard sometimes Tricare will cover it, I have to ask around, that would be awesome!!
beckstar
06-20-2008, 10:46 PM
Thanks! I didnt realize how much built up anger and sadness I had over both C/S until they asked me to talk about it and I just started crying :( It was good though.
I have heard sometimes Tricare will cover it, I have to ask around, that would be awesome!!
its amazing how much we store from a traumatic experience...or when our power is taken from us...especially during the birth of our babies...
ocean was born hbac...and it was honestly the most amazing thing ive done in my life...ever.
and tremendously healing. i learned that i had some responsibility in the events that led up to my emergency c section...and that birth itself IS a responsibility...and you have to be present and aware and know what you want and be willing to do whatever you can to get there safely.
my best to you on this journey...my best advice is.. WALK...READ...BELIEVE.
JollyHolly
06-21-2008, 10:50 PM
i learned that i had some responsibility in the events that led up to my emergency c section...and that birth itself IS a responsibility....
Not to be nosey, but what exactly do you mean by this statement? I'm really curious now! :blush:
calideedle
06-21-2008, 11:00 PM
Not to be nosey, but what exactly do you mean by this statement? I'm really curious now! :blush:
I know for me I did not stand up for myself & did not educate myself on delivery and what can happen and what is normal & what is not normal.
I never should have let the OB come in at 6am while I was still sleeping and break my water, shouldnt have let her force pitocin on me and defiantly should not have believed her (not that I did) when she said I could never birth a 9lb baby.
marymom
06-21-2008, 11:04 PM
oh that is wonderful Diana!!! :bliss: i am so happy for you!!! :hugs:
starsandlollipops
06-21-2008, 11:05 PM
Diana, I am sending lots of good vbac vibes your way~ what a wonderful thing to know you'll have these 'super' women there to coach you thru this next birth! :goodvibes:
calideedle
06-21-2008, 11:10 PM
Thanks!!!! I am so excited and have been reading so much!
WooHoo!
JollyHolly
06-21-2008, 11:17 PM
I know for me I did not stand up for myself & did not educate myself on delivery and what can happen and what is normal & what is not normal.
I never should have let the OB come in at 6am while I was still sleeping and break my water, shouldnt have let her force pitocin on me and defiantly should not have believed her (not that I did) when she said I could never birth a 9lb baby.
I see, I see. Well, I didnt have a C/S, but I did have an awful birthing experience with a bullying OB. And I even knew better during the whole thing. I had bought a natural birthing book written by Dr. Sears and read it in my last trimester. He was just a control freak and I was insecure since I didnt know exactly what was going on since I was 22 and my first baby. Not this time!!! :) I'm so happy for you that youre going to finally get the birthing experience you long for!! Did you watch The Business of Being Born Documentary by chance?
beckstar
06-22-2008, 12:35 AM
Not to be nosey, but what exactly do you mean by this statement? I'm really curious now! :blush:
well, since you asked...
i think it was my responsibility to educate myself about labor and birth and to be prepared for what was going to happen w/ my body. there were some emotional aspects of pregnancy and my marriage that i was not addressing and i think not being honest with my midwives or myself really impacted my birth experience.
on top of that, i was really out of shape. i gained a lot of weight during my pregnancy and did not exercise. i think that also had a lot to do with why, when it came time to push after a long labor...i was too pooped and gave up.
there is a lot of mental and emotional preparation, as well as being in shape physically that is necessary to birth safely and healthfully. i was afraid of being a mother, and i think that fear had a lot to do with why i just kind of kept baby inside of me...not to mention my physical shape keeping me from having enough endurance to birth...
i dunno. i am sure there are women in the world who have had the same circumstances and had a vaginal birth...and perhaps, even if i did stay open about my feelings during my pregnancy, and keep myself in great shape, i could have still ended up with a c section...we'll never know.
what i do know is that from that experience i learned what i would never do again and how i wanted my birth of my son to be like...and i came to that birth with all of the necessary components: a confident mind, body and spirit...and the belief that i COULD give birth and i WOULD give birth and that it was up to me, ultimately, to give my son the best birth possible.
i also knew that if the time came to make the decision to transfer and have a c section that there would be no 'what ifs' or 'could have beens' because i did everything i needed to do to prepare...
JollyHolly
06-22-2008, 08:20 PM
well, since you asked...
I see.. Well thanks for the insight. It is definately something to be mentally prepared and educated about. Especially in this technology day and age.
