My story....(sad)

[averysmom]

I'm finally ready to share my story... (please be considerate of your comments my heart still aches.)



Let me start from the begining. Ok, back in May we were approached by our children's pastors wife, we had a young girl at church that was pregnant (she planned on giving the baby up for adoption) and she asked us if we were at all interested. So Michael and I talked and prayed about it and we really felt like it was something we should presue.

So we met with the birth mom, she told us that she wanted an open adoption. We talked about our expectations etc. She then called and said she wanted to meet my whole family, my parents included. So one Sunday we all went out for lunch. Things went amazingly well. Then she told me that she was due at the end of June. So things are moving pretty fast, she said she had decided that we would be perfect parents for her baby.

Things at this point are going really well, we met with an attorney. Hired the attorney. He started getting all the paperwork together. Then we find out the baby is a little girl and our excitment grew. Mind you, i was still keeping my heart guarded because nothing was set in stone.

On June 1st. We got a call at 4:15am and she's in labor. I go to the hospital and Michael came up later. I was in the room almost the whole time. At 5:15pm the baby was born. They came and got me and I got me so I could get the matching braclett (you know the security bracelett) and then I got to go to the nursey with her. By now I'm completely attached.. Michael and I pretty much got to spend from the time she was born until Thursday with her. When we arrived at the hospital to bring her home. We had to wait for some discharge paper work and in the mean time the birth mom changed her mind and decided to parent. The TX law says that no adoption paper work can be signed until 48hrs after the birh. So no papers were signed. We came home with no baby.

It's been hard..It was hard to explain to my other kids that no baby was coming home. I know I didn't give birth to that baby but in my heart she was my baby.

I'm doing much better now. I'm finally starting to find some closure to the whole situation. It's been a hard road, but I know God is in control and he has his eyes on me.

[Jenney17]

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[Mommi3130]

:hugs: I am so sorry momma:hugs:

[MatildasMum]

Oh mama. I can't imagine. I'm so sorry. :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[I Smile Because Of Them]

I'm so sorry for your loss mama. :hugs:

[Heather8183]

Momma, I am so sorry! I know that nothing is going to make you feel better but time and prayer, but just remember that God doesn't make mistakes...and He doesn't give us anything we can't handle! :hugs:

[whiterabbit]

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[beanongsmom]

i am very sorry. my heart goes out to you.

[greenMImama]

Oh honey, I am so sorry. You are completely validated in feeling like she was yours. We bond very quickly with babies. Take your time and grieve. It truly is a loss.

[kristinc]

that is heartbreaking:cry: i am so sorry that your baby was taken away from you. I hope you give yourself time to grieve the loss:grouphug:

[Edensmomma]

:hugs: I am so sorry mama.

[averysmom]

Oh honey, I am so sorry. You are completely validated in feeling like she was yours. We bond very quickly with babies. Take your time and grieve. It truly is a loss.

Thank you mama!!

Momma, I am so sorry! I know that nothing is going to make you feel better but time and prayer, but just remember that God doesn't make mistakes...and He doesn't give us anything we can't handle! :hugs:

Thank you mama. I know I just keep reminding myself that He is in control and that He must have something better for me in the future. Even though I don't understand everthing now, that He knows all and He will be glorified no matter what. What was meant for evil, God will use for good.

[christinewith4]

:hugs: I am so sorry you had to go through all of that...
I wonder if she was being pressured into adoption at all by family or church? Especially when they were looking for someone for her like that?
I know I conceived a child via rape just after my 14th bday and was under extreme pressure by others- I was disowned by literally EVERYONE I knew (family, friends etc even my Dr's office) when I refused to get an abortion or give him up for adoption... I know it doesn't help how you are feeling now...its just a thought...:hugs:

[MCR]

Awww that is devastating, I'm so sorry. :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[meganne79]

:hugs: I'm so sorry to hear your story! How heartbreaking. My BIL and his wife went through a similar situation about a year ago. Their counsler said they needed to be sure to treat it like the true loss of a child and allow yourselves to grieve. Please take care!

[jennybeth]

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[mhr1406]

:cry: how heartbreaking! I just can't imagine how hard it is for you right now to have that precious little girl in your arms and then be told I changed my mind :thud:

I am so very sorry for your loss :hugs:

[mom23girls]

I am so sorry that this happened - it's devastating. :(
Please know that I am thinking of you. If you need any help in discussing this with children, let me know, I've had to do that myself (and it's very very hard). :(

[bugaboo]

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[naturalbirthmama]

Oh, Delana. I am so sorry you had to endure this pain. I pray the Lord showers your family with blessings and comfort.

[cravnp99]

:cry: :hugs:

This is almost exactly what we went thru with our first attempt at adoption... only we brought her home on the second day and had her for 6 more days at home. It almost ripped our marriage apart... but we went to some counseling and then God showed us his infinate wisdom when we were matched with Alli's birthfamily..... she's been an incrediable blessing that would wouldn't have if we had hung onto the first baby.

I don't know what God has planned for you, but just hang on tight - tell God how you feel (He can take it!:goodvibes: ) and just pray for whatever doors are to be opened next....

I'm praying for you! :hugs:

[averysmom]

:cry: :hugs:

This is almost exactly what we went thru with our first attempt at adoption... only we brought her home on the second day and had her for 6 more days at home. It almost ripped our marriage apart... but we went to some counseling and then God showed us his infinate wisdom when we were matched with Alli's birthfamily..... she's been an incrediable blessing that would wouldn't have if we had hung onto the first baby.

I don't know what God has planned for you, but just hang on tight - tell God how you feel (He can take it!:goodvibes: ) and just pray for whatever doors are to be opened next....

I'm praying for you! :hugs:


Thank you so much....I really appreciate your support.

[emmarleigh]

I am so sorry for your loss mama. God has a plan for your little girl.

For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
Romans 8:18
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[addiesmommy]

I don't know what God has planned for you, but just hang on tight - tell God how you feel (He can take it!:goodvibes: ) and just pray for whatever doors are to be opened next....

I'm praying for you! :hugs:

This is such great advice. Sometimes people are scared to be honest with God about their disappointment. The truth is, He already knows anyway. This may have caught you off guard but it did not catch God off guard. Even though sometimes it seems like he's totally failed us His plans really are higher than ours. Trust Him, mama. Praying that your heart heals so that you can walk into the destiny that He has for your family. Do you guys think you want to pursue another baby?

[Lovemy4guys]

I am so sorry for your pain. I can't even imagine. I pray that God will make that mother the mom that baby needs, and that He will bring you the child that needs a mom and dad just like you and your husband. God bless. :hugs:

[fallon]

I'm so sorry mama

[jesshb]

:( :hugs:

[MommyScott]

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[mhaddon]

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[sabrina_the_mommies]

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[kaoh]

I'm so sorry! Grieve, but trust that there is a baby coming to you.

[happysahm]

I'm still praying for you, Delana. I love you and I'm here for you.

[PalmyraMom]

:hugs: Just know I'm thinking of you...

[my4blessings]

:hugs: I am so sorry for your loss mama :hugs:

[5tinytreasures]

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[celestialdreamer]

I can't even imagine. I am so sorry :hugs:

[saongiri]

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[heythereheather]

I'm so sorry. :hugs:

[sunshinek]

Oh sweetie!!! Many Many Many Many hugs to you. I'm so sorry that happened.

[Kririee]

I am so sorry for your loss, many hugs being sent your way!

[galesville1980]

OH my I am so sorry for you and your family :sadno:

[ajk]

:hugs: I can't even imagine how heartbreaking this must be for you. :hugs:

[AlexandZoesmom]

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[togg_mama]

I'm so sorry Mama. Praying!

[sourpatch_babe]

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[MNmom]

I am so very sorry.
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[Indigo~mama]

huge hugs, I am so sorry.:hugs:

[PurlyQ]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

I'm so sorry for your loss, mama.

[Manna00]

:hugs: momma.

[Robin]

:hugs: I'm so sorry :hugs:

[isabel249]

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[monicajoy1979]

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[AugustHope]

I am so sorry... We went through a VERY similar situation in January. It took us a long time to grieve. It is what we needed though. Take time to think and cry. Know that their is a baby out there waiting to finds its way into your loving home! I will keep you in my thoughts!