I just needed advice from those families that co-sleep. :-) My son is 20-months old, and we've been co-sleeping since he was 6 months old. We enjoy the time together at night.
My 2nd child is due in a few weeks, and I am not sure how to handle the sleeping situation. I am not sure if/how I want to co-sleep with the 2nd. Since I've been pregnant and tired, I also take a nap with my son in the afternoon. When the baby comes, I'm unsure how to handle my son's sleeping...will the baby waking and breastfeeding disrupt his sleep and nap during the day? Should I feed the baby in the room next door?
Any feedback is appreciated!
Sara
jollygoodANDgreen
07-30-2008, 09:24 PM
I remember having those same questions and concerns. Mainly will the new baby crying wake the other one. It'll all work itself out once the new baby arrives, every family is different but if you must know . . . to this day I still have DD1 who is 4, DD2 who is 2 1/2 & DS who is 4 mo. in my bed. Good luck mama!!
ChunkiBunz Diaperz
07-30-2008, 09:24 PM
well we sorta do lol... my oldest is 7 now and he couldnt sleep a wink unless he was in bed with me until he was 3. he finally got a big enough bed he could sleep on his own lol... now my 2 yr old doesnt ever sleep with us accept last night because hes sick:( and my 8 mo old sleeps with us half the night every night. he will sleep till 4ish and then want to eat the rest of the night. he ends up right next to me. it was a little hard for me in the beg because he had/has a heart monitor and having him in bed he would move and make the monitor go off. soooo he hasnt had any spells in 2 months now so he isnt on it anymore! i am still sorta freaking out a little but... im ok... hes doing good! its just easier to pull him in bed and nurse him.. he pushes himself back and on his side when hes done eating so i guess its ok.
i honestly was sooo sick and tired of getting kicked everynight with our oldest he had to go into his bed! i couldnt handle it anymore. my 2nd one we wanted our own bed and now evan has to be with me. i def didnt want anyone sleeping with me while i was preggo so i give you props for lasting this long! maybe try a co sleeper??? maybe put your 2 yr old in a bed for him?
just trying to throw out some ideas for ya:)
1blessedmama
07-30-2008, 09:28 PM
I was surprised that my older DD never really wakes or even stirs when the baby cries or fusses at naps or nighttime (we al sleep together for both). She's even a light sleeper!
beanongsmom
07-30-2008, 09:43 PM
i wish you luck! it was a bit challenging for me at first, but i think that was just due to the adjustment period. we have always coslept with my son. he was 18 months old when we brought home his baby sister. we started out with the newborn in her bassinet beside me & the boy between me & my husband. in the beginning, getting everyone to sleep was a bit difficult and my 18 month old son would wake up every time she cried & cry himself (wanting me to hold him too). but, within a few weeks, he adjusted & everything started to fall into place. looking back, i am amazed at how well he adjusted to everything. she started cosleepng on the other side of me around 3 months. many nights, i sleep on my back holding each one. (right now big brother is asleep with daddy & i am holding the little one in the bobby).
CrunchyMama0607
07-30-2008, 09:46 PM
I remember having those same questions and concerns. Mainly will the new baby crying wake the other one. It'll all work itself out once the new baby arrives, every family is different but if you must know . . . to this day I still have DD1 who is 4, DD2 who is 2 1/2 & DS who is 4 mo. in my bed. Good luck mama!!
yup :thumbsup: my 2yo dd sleeps w/us still stimes along w/dh and our 7mth old ds :goodvibes: just keep your newborn on the side opposite your toddler.
TieNappyQueen
07-30-2008, 09:51 PM
Yep keep the toddler to your back, babe to the breast. E is a light sleeper but can sleep through some crazy J Man screams! Things surprisingly slipped into a wonderful routine.
calideedle
07-30-2008, 09:53 PM
My 4yr-old and 2.5yr-old have both slept with us since birth. My DD never woke my DS up at night (before she was even awake she would be nursing ... no crying) We love it, they love it. It is so easy!
Our new one due will sleep with all of us too!!
OneFabMama
07-30-2008, 09:56 PM
We don't co sleep all night these days - usually she makes her way into our bed in the wee morning hours. So, I'm not real worried about the baby waking her, we do have a pack n play set up side car style but I doubt he'll sleep in it much and when he starts to stir I'll just whip out the boob so hopefully the crying in the middle of the night will be minimal. I guess that is something we'll have to deal with when the time comes.
bluemerle
07-30-2008, 10:13 PM
Thanks mamas...it makes me feel better to know that things have worked out for you all, co-sleeping with more than one. :)
Sara
dollbabysmom
07-30-2008, 10:16 PM
Hi. I have 4 LOs and co-slept with them all. When #2 came along, #1 was almost 3 and still in bed with me. I ended up moving him to his own bed after about 3 days b/c the baby was waking him up all night. I guess it depends on the child. When #3 came along, I moved number 2 out ahead of the birth so that she wouldn't associate the move with the arrival of the baby. I did the same between number 3 and 4. It is possible to move them out if you need to do so. Do what works best for your family.
slaferriere@berklee.net
07-30-2008, 10:23 PM
We co sleep but we only have one lo right now, I've thought about this myself and how it'd work out when we have another if dd is still in our bed (which she probably will be or in the general vicinity :) ) Sounds like you are obviously not wanting to transition her into her own room, maybe you could do a sidecar so you can get a little more room? Start trying that now so that you can get used to it. I want to do the sidecar arrangement for us too. Just have been lazy and haven't done it yet!! Anyway, it will all work itself out over time, just wanted to give some support. Goodluck!
chataine
07-31-2008, 12:03 AM
i just skimmed all the pp posts..
when my ds was born my dd was just two.. i find when you co sleep babies really never get to full on crying before you can meet their needs.. so ds would stir a little.. but he has never woke up my dd! i used to have a little petzl head lamp so i could watch his latch while laying down nursing him..
anyway now my dd is 2.5 and my son is 7 mos old...and we still all co-sleep.. usually my dd, dh, ds, and then me..or ds, me, dd and dh.. we have a king size bed too :) lol there is no way we would all fit!
as far as naps..my dd stopped napping on a regular basis when i was pg and my milk dryed up.. she still passes out in the car every once in awhile..
bluemerle
08-04-2008, 10:00 PM
Thanks ladies, so helpful :-)
teleana22
08-04-2008, 11:55 PM
my 5 yo dd (and sometimes her daddy) has a pallet on the floor at the foot of my bed. She was starting out in her own bed, and joining us around 2-4 am before the baby was born. hes 8 mo now, but i am still scared to have her in bed w/ him, this girl kicks, twists turns, is all over..... about 3 months ago they were taking a nap together w/ daddy on my bed ( one baby on either side of him, and hes NOT little) , i was right there in the room folding laundry (thank god) and i here this grunting/gasping.... she is totally on top of the baby, and he couldn't move or breathe, scared the crap outa me! i feel bad about having her on the floor, and so does her daddy, which is why if he wakes up when she comes in he will lay down there w/ her, but she seems ok w/ it. on the other hand my 2 older boys are 3.5 years apart and co slept together fine for about a yr. gl
