Well, I started heavy bleeding, passed **LARGE** Clots, and it got heavier each day! This started on the 27th after my cofirmed incomplete m/c on the 23rd.
I ended up going to my m/w's office.
She sent me to the hospital where thier backup on-call doctor was. I sat in the ER for 6 hours.
I was told I needed a D&C. I went hysterical. I hate IV's, and I didn't know that I would have to do the procedure alone! I called my aunt for support and cried my eyes out.
I ended up getting the doc my m/w said I would have, but then the same awesome doc from the other time in the ER showed up and I was SO happy to see her.
They did another u/s (still nothing there [:(])
Blood work (after 3hrs of refusing it b/c I refused a IV).
They gave me the option of the pill I take (provera) for 10 days, then stop and after that I should have a period.
If that fails, then I'll go back for a D&C, but I don't have to go through the ER, just called that doc and make an appt for it.
My HcG on 7/23 was 5816 and lastnight (10dys later) was still 5300. my body isn't letting this pregnancy go. They can't see any retained tissue on u/s, and hope that the provera will help.
I pissed EVERYONE off. I was so upset, crying very hard, and refused everything and just out right pissed EVERYONE off. I cussed out the doc there (he was an a$$hole anyways) and didn't start complying with anything until I saw that the cool doc was there that I've met before!
So, I'm still pregnant, still not viable! Still hurting, still bleeding, still pissed off!
I just want this to be OVER!!!
My mom and Armando sat with me the whole night. Didn't get home until 1am!
beckstar
08-02-2008, 11:33 AM
yikes, darlin...that sounds just awful. hopefully the provera will help. ive also heard using the cohoshes (black and blue) can help expel a lost pregnancy.
McMamma38
08-02-2008, 12:30 PM
:hugs: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug:
Unfortunatley it can take awhile to fully m/c naturally.I'm so sorry you're going throught this sweetie.Praying the provera helps--it should.
Hang in there.Your making the right decision at the moment.
I dont blame you for refusing a D&C--it can possibly cause scarring IF the Dr is too agressive performing it,wich can effect your fertility.
I'm sure your midwife has advised you on the herbs Beckstar mentioned--I've heard this as well.
Just try to take it easy,pamper yourself and watch for any possible indication of infection(ie fever,etc)I think you're fine,and your body will do as it needs to -it just takes awhile.
That's the harrowing part.:hugs:
b'smom
08-03-2008, 02:06 PM
:hugs:
kristinc
08-03-2008, 02:13 PM
acupuncture could help expel everything more speedily also if you are open to that.
hugs to you...what a horrible thing to go through. my thoughts will be with you in the difficult time:hugs:
trying4more
08-04-2008, 10:39 AM
I'm on day 3 of provera and still bleeding. I'm not sure if I'm supposed to keep bleeding, but if this doesn't work I'm going to more natural options as long as my uterus doesn't get an infection! I ****REALLY**** don't want a D&C!
Thanks for the suggestions! I will DEF. try them out!
honeybunmom
08-04-2008, 12:57 PM
acupuncture could help expel everything more speedily also if you are open to that.
hugs to you...what a horrible thing to go through. my thoughts will be with you in the difficult time:hugs:
Ditto on the acupuncture. I was in, oh, week 4 of my missed miscarriage, day 27, I believe, when I had my acupuncture procedure. The miscarriage really started the next day (really labor with my cervix opening), approximately 24 hours later and completed not quite 2 full days later. I'd had about 10 days of brown bleeding leading up to it with no heavy bleeding. It was complete and I did not have to go to the hospital at all. I was very greatful for that.
:hugs:
trying4more
08-05-2008, 05:28 PM
How do I find a place that does that?
What do I say?
honeybunmom
08-06-2008, 08:32 AM
How do I find a place that does that?
What do I say?
Fortunately for me, my midwives share office space with the acupuncturists who specialize in women's needs.
I would call any midwives you know of or look up in your area and ask for a reference. If that proves futile, I'd look up acupuncturists and just simply state that you are experiencing a miscarriage that has not yet expelled and would like a session(s) to facilitate the process.
I think you're in the Bay Area - I know there is a birth center/classes/holistic health place in the area. My brother and SIL are in Scotts Valley. If I can't find it on line and post it here, I'll give my SIL a jingle today to find out the name of the place. I bet they would have a reference.
Acupuncture can be used to help a natural process to progress. It is also used to bring on birth when the pregnancy is full term. So, you're not asking for something that no one has heard of.
trying4more
08-07-2008, 05:35 PM
UPDATE 8/7
On Tuesday 7/5 I collapsed at work (in the bathroom) from horrible pain. I was throwing up and sweating, I yelled for my coworker to bring me the phone. I couldn't remember the pager number.
I ran bent over to my office, told my coworker to bring me to the ER. We called my supr. she told my coworker to get me to the ER now. When I walked outside I start puking again.
I finally made it to the ER. After hours of being there, the jerk doc told me to suck it up, take the vicodin, and rest. I puked up the vicodin in the parking lot. Armando ran back into the ER, they gave him the coldest shoulder. He ended up wheeling me back in and the nurse told me to just go back home.
I got home at midnight. I was in complete horrible, painful labor.
I paged my m/w all throughout the night. She told me to take 800mg of motrin and if that didn't help within an hour, to go back to the ER, but to page her first.
4am I'm still in HORRIBLE pain. I've been vomitting all night and bruised my ribs and ab muscles.
I went back to the hospital after my m/w demanded that I went.
I ended up being rushed to emergency surgery where my normal 8wk fetus had blown out my left ovary. I had a blood clot the size of a baseball and where the baby was I was loosing tons of blood.
I lost my left tube and of course the baby. I ended up with a blood transfusion. If I didn't get the operation that night I would have ended up bleeding to death within a few days.
I'm So grateful for that doc who used his gut instincts!
I'm resting now. and we are TTA for a 6mths to a year!
anabellee
08-07-2008, 05:44 PM
omg. prayers for sure. :bighug:
Airyl
08-07-2008, 05:56 PM
:( Oh my, I'm so sorry. :hugs:
mhr1406
08-07-2008, 06:09 PM
Oh sweetie I am so very sorry!!! :bighug: I am sorry that you lost your tube and your baby
I am glad the dr was able to save you :hugs:
praying for you with the hopes you will begin to heal both physically and emotionally from this devastating roller coaster :hugs:
Momma_Rock
08-07-2008, 06:36 PM
:bighug:
Momdeprovence
08-07-2008, 06:50 PM
I can't imagine how hard that was to go through. I'll be praying for a fast recovery. I'm so so sorry.:hugs: :hugs:
mum2James&Julia
08-07-2008, 06:56 PM
OH MY GOODNESS! You poor thing! :cry: I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you. I'm so glad that you're alright, and I'm so sorry about your little one :(
TwinKristi
08-07-2008, 07:02 PM
:hugs: Oh wow, I'm so sorry mama!! This happened to my BFF also but at almost 10wks and it was really hard on her body. I'm so sorry that your hospital didn't listen to you. I hope you have another alternative for a birthing experience when you TTC in the future. Good luck and you're in my prayers.
McMamma38
08-07-2008, 07:25 PM
:jawdrop: :whoa: :crying: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug: OMG--I'm so sorry you had to go through that and lose not only your baby but your tube and ovary.
Prayers for a speedy physical recovery.Oh mama--:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
averysmom
08-07-2008, 08:33 PM
Sending you lots of prayers and hugs. :hugs: :hugs: Hang in there mama. (I know easier said than done). I'm so glad you are ok.
mevans
08-07-2008, 08:57 PM
oh wow. i am so so sorry you've had to go through all this. sorry for your losses. *big hugs* and prayers for you
ty&jessie
08-08-2008, 07:42 AM
:hugs: Tons of hugs and prayers sent to you sweetie. I am so sorry, what an ordeal to indure. :hugs:
honeybunmom
08-09-2008, 10:52 PM
Oh, mama! I'm so sorry no one seemed to listen to you! I am terribly sorry for your loss. I'm praying for your emotional and physical recovery.
trying4more
08-11-2008, 03:43 PM
Thanks again for all that sent love and hugs!
I hope I can update in 6mths will good news and healthy babies!
mevans
08-11-2008, 05:23 PM
hugs mama
~mypreciousbabies~
10-27-2008, 03:52 PM
:hugs: mama, I hope you are feeling better now
~Roses~
10-28-2008, 11:51 AM
I am so, so sorry. {{{hugs}}} Hoping for good news in 6 months!! Thinking of you.
~Rose
