Just wondering. I just bought the book how to raise a spirited child and have only read the first page and it totaly describes my son. I was thinking maybe we could do a weekly thread/check in, b/c I know how hard it can be to raise a spirited child.
mistylaureena
10-23-2006, 11:08 AM
Whats a spirited child??:headscratch:
MamaMel
10-23-2006, 11:13 AM
from the actual book
Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, Energetic
really emphisizing on more b/c all children have these quailities
Jaz_Trio
10-23-2006, 11:17 AM
I do - he cant sit still for 5 minutes, reacts to the smallest of things, freaks out in public all the time, is very VERY attached to mommy - yep he's spirited alright - but I would not trade him for anything! :)
travelinmom
10-23-2006, 11:20 AM
Oh yeah, off the wall. He is into everything. Although I started to read that book I never finished. I don't remember why now. Probably lost it, I'm alwas losing books.
MamaMel
10-23-2006, 11:20 AM
I do - he cant sit still for 5 minutes, reacts to the smallest of things, freaks out in public all the time, is very VERY attached to mommy - yep he's spirited alright - but I would not trade him for anything! :)
:hugs: I would not trade mine either. I love him to pieces!! Just some days its really hard KWIM? Like today we were at joannes fabric and he wouldnt stay still. Touched everything and we ended the shopping trip w/ him riding on the bottom dragging his feet. I know it sounds like typical boy behavior but its time 10. I just need a place to vent b/c no one but other mothers of spirited children understand how wearing it can be somedays
urchin_grey
10-23-2006, 11:35 AM
from the actual book
Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, Energetic
really emphisizing on more b/c all children have these quailities
Hmm, I'm not really sure is Bram falls into this catagory or not. He's definitely very, very sensitive. I can barely say "no" without him looking at me like I just did the worse thing in the world to him. But he's not all that energetic, mostly because he can't walk and all that I guess. But I think *because* of that is why he's more perceptive and intense. When he's playing "with" other kids, he's the only one not running around throwing blocks and getting into everything. He's the one that will sit and explore a toy for a much longer time. But then again, when he's ready to go see what the other kids are up to and he can't reach what they're playing with he can get super upset. I guess that's where the sensitive comes back in. :P
wigglewormsmom
10-23-2006, 11:52 AM
According to the Baby Whisperer Book, I have a spirited dd. It is very hard to go anywhere with her. I can't just go and enjoy myself kwim?? She has to touch and grab everything and be on the move AT ALL TIMES lol.
DiapeyMom
10-23-2006, 12:13 PM
Whats a spirited child??:headscratch:
Ha, ha, ha, ha...if you have to ask, you don't have one. (no offense meant)
My dd is definitely a spirited child. I would LOVE to have a weekly check-in about it. I have to agree with wigglewormsmom about not being able to go anywhere with her. I have resorted to going grocery shopping while she is in preschool or on the weekend when papa can stay home with her a while and I get an hour to myself. Whoever would think the grocery store could be so relaxing?
MamaMel
10-23-2006, 12:16 PM
Whoever would think the grocery store could be so relaxing?
i know!!! funny story. my DS fell asleep in the car and stayed asleep in the cart while we were shopp ing. My DD was asleep in the mei tai. i honestly didnt know what to do
geckoed
10-23-2006, 12:30 PM
I love that book. There is/was a high-needs check in that would be similar I think
myajdw
10-23-2006, 12:52 PM
here here.....1 for sure, possibly 2 lol.
aj has always been highly sensitive and emphathetic from about 5 months old. he's just hard to handle sometimes b/c the smallest things will set him off...a broken crayon, a broken sandwhich lol...anything. he's more prone to melt downs. but so sweet and sensitive on the other side of it as well, more feelings towards other people and what upsets them b/c he can empathize with them kwim?
then there's my dustin, he's a brute but too much of anything and he'll "hold his breath" until he passes out. aj used to do this, then decided to organize things instead lol. he's super super energetic and beastly. very sensitive as well though.
motherhubbard
10-23-2006, 01:00 PM
My second child is “spirited”. It was a real challenge and still is sometimes. Because of her I am a better mother. She really pushed me to grow. She is seven now and has learned to handle herself most of the time. She knows she is different as far as how she has to think to deal with certain situations like public restroom toilet paper and the school cafeteria noise. I would love a thread about spirited or high need children. I know it’s hard when they are really young, but it gets some easier. Last week she was the only child I didn’t have to get on to! That’s really something.
momx2
10-23-2006, 01:44 PM
Ooh...I second this idea! My first dd can drive me nutso! om gosh, there are days where I'm just like...silence .. blessed silence, please. and then she gives me this look like I just broke her heart into pieces b/c I asked her to be quiet. This little girl can yak and yak and yak away ... she doens't care if you talk to her or not ... punishment for her is asking her not to talk!
Kimmomy2dom
10-23-2006, 01:47 PM
I think my son is. :) I need that book, LOL
Irishmommy
10-23-2006, 08:09 PM
Oh, yeah, spirited here all the way. I love that book. Haven't finished it yet, but am slowly working my way through the book. My dh and I even joked after going to a friend's house, whose sons are obedient in every sense of the word, "what fun is that (in having a child that just does what they are told), I mean really, how easy can that be?".
Proverbs169
10-23-2006, 08:16 PM
My second daughter is like this. I think it's pretty common for second children. I have never read the book but if it's really good maybe I should :)
jrk
10-23-2006, 08:20 PM
Paige is very spirited! But I wouldn't have her any other way. It's a little overwhelming sometimes, but she's just like me. Like my mil says, 'Paige is the smartest 2 year old I've ever met, but she's very difficult and always on the verge of a meltdown!'
KnottyLDSMama
10-23-2006, 08:29 PM
OH yes. DS is a total high needs/spirited child. I'm kinda glad he's my first. Hopefully the rest will be easy compared to him! lol
MamaMegan
10-23-2006, 08:35 PM
I'll say heck yeah. I've got that book, sitting in a stack of others about highly sensitive children..... but the spirited, that's a better description.
asandwick
10-23-2006, 08:36 PM
Yes! I need that book! What is the name of it??
rds989
10-23-2006, 09:01 PM
'Paige is the smartest 2 year old I've ever met, but she's very difficult and always on the verge of a meltdown!'
That perfectly describes my dd! She's our ray of sunshine, incredibly smart, totally adorable, very creative, and apt to fall apart at a moment's notice! High needs since BEFORE she was born!!
mama2iliana
10-23-2006, 09:03 PM
oh yes, my dd since birth she is 2 now
DEmomof2
10-23-2006, 09:36 PM
I just started reading that book and it's helped me so much! I used to wonder if I was a bad mom because of how my son acted....he has a meltdown at the drop of a hat - the tiniest things will set him off. He is like an energizer bunny from the minute he wakes up until bedtime and he is very much an introvert. He doesn't do very well around other kids (usually, but he does have his moments).
It's nice to know I'm not alone!!
AngelMommy
10-23-2006, 09:38 PM
That is my son to a tee. I need that book! I'm struggling with him right now at 10:40 at night! We are off schedule because we are both sick, and I'm at my wit's end! A check-in would be WONDERFUL! Could you please PM me with the book name and author?
Mommy2JJ
10-23-2006, 10:30 PM
Yep my ds is for sure SPIRITED.....I like that word much more then high needs. He has been since birth and isn't looking at changing anytime soon. I am really interested in the name of the book though. I think a check in/thread would be awesome too. Ds nickname has been "energizer baby" since he was way small. He always been active, busy, strong willed, attached to me, and now I am really seeing ths sensitive side. Like today he cried like he was being beat for 30 minutes because I took the car keys away from him since he set off the alarm.
Does anyone feel like everyone else thinks you are bad parents?? Like my mom thinks I don't discipline him enough so he is "spoiled" and dh thinks we let him have his way too much. Really though tonight grocery shopping he would NOT sit in the cart, I mean you can't really force him, kwim. So he was either being held kicking and screaming or was "pushing" the cart or trying to run away from us. My dh gets so upset and worked up, but I know it's just him. DH insists he just always gets his way, but sometimes you can't force him.
Anyway great idea :thumbsup: , glad to know I am not alone. Also, definitely post the name of the book.
myajdw
10-23-2006, 11:04 PM
ita you just can't really force a kid to NOT have a meltdown lol. you may wish that you can...but reality is you can't. it just breaks my heart everytime he has a meltdown b/c his food didn't stay together...like a cracker broke when he bit into it or something. it's horrible. and people always tell me, you know you're going to have to take care of that before he starts school. yeah well...that's him, and when he does go to school sometimes teachers need to bend a little too kwim? when you have a room of 10 or more kids you can't possibly expect for them all to be the same. i as well get the looks like he's a big pansy boy or something, like i spoiled him and "broke" him. it's ridiculous. there's nothing "wrong" with my kids...they are who they are, and they are super sweet and adorable, and perfect for me :goodvibes:
even though sometimes i would just like a day with NO MELTDOWNS i must admit LOL!!!!
MamaMel
10-24-2006, 05:25 AM
I feel good knowing that my Son is not the only one. Its kind of ironic but he was a really good baby up until one. Then all of a sudden he started to become really needed and very spirited. I never knew how to deal w/ it. Everyone told me he needs a good spanking or he needs a good punishment but what they dont understand is that with spirited children this does not work at all and often makes things worse.
I was discussing this w/ my mother last night and am wondering that if I was to put him more on a schedule so he knew what to expect if that would help. I think the randomness (is that a word) of the day is what gets him into trouble. If he knew what to expect then maybe the day wouldn't seem so overwhelming. What do you all think?
Anyway my DD is also very highneeds but is starting to grow out of it.
The name of the book is "Raising Your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka.
Another book im going to get (and I might have the name wrong) is how to talk to your children so they will listen, and how to listen to your children so they will talk. It basically gives you ways to speak w/ you children in "their" words so they understand KWIM?
Blackbirdlane
10-24-2006, 06:40 AM
my ds is. I read most of that book a year or two ago when he was just out of control. he is better now, but has his moments and I think he will always be difficult and demanding in these areas.
Blackbirdlane
10-24-2006, 06:43 AM
I feel good knowing that my Son is not the only one. Its kind of ironic but he was a really good baby up until one. Then all of a sudden he started to become really needed and very spirited. I never knew how to deal w/ it. Everyone told me he needs a good spanking or he needs a good punishment but what they dont understand is that with spirited children this does not work at all and often makes things worse.
I was discussing this w/ my mother last night and am wondering that if I was to put him more on a schedule so he knew what to expect if that would help. I think the randomness (is that a word) of the day is what gets him into trouble. If he knew what to expect then maybe the day wouldn't seem so overwhelming. What do you all think?
Anyway my DD is also very highneeds but is starting to grow out of it.
The name of the book is "Raising Your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka.
Another book im going to get (and I might have the name wrong) is how to talk to your children so they will listen, and how to listen to your children so they will talk. It basically gives you ways to speak w/ you children in "their" words so they understand KWIM?
my ds has always had a schedule but what I noticed with him is that I have to keep him busy. like get up, get dressed, eat breakfast, brush teeth, watch tv, play play doh or color or go outside, read books, play toys, eat lunch.
it always has to be something, his concentration isn't that good. I do have to teach him to have alone time and play alone though, he doesn't do this well because he is such a social person.
he is difficult, but very smart. :mrgreen:
njschultz7
10-24-2006, 07:21 AM
Oh yay. I have 2. My oldest and then #4. Both have the same personality and everything. #4 is only 2 and he is already more of a handful than numbers 2 and 3 combined. I can handle the 2 "spirited" children better than hubby but man it takes patients. LOL.
LadonnaKen
10-24-2006, 07:21 AM
Melissa, we need to chat, it seems we have a lot in common :mrgreen:
Samuel is very spirited--always has been (he was a high-needs baby, also). Now Gabriel is the opposite--very layed back--its funny how they are all so different, huh?
rosiemama
10-24-2006, 07:35 AM
2 spirited kids here!!!!! my oldest (12) and my 5 yo. I swear , that along with being spirited they are Old souls...(if you know what I mean) ....they are both everything to the 100th degree! Its frustrating.....intense....life definitely isn't boring.....I think I may have been a spirited child as well....even now....I'm very intense...probably why ds dd and I clash so much...feel each other so much ...and frustrate each other sooooo much.
being mama to a spirited one isn't easy....
rosiemama
10-24-2006, 07:35 AM
sorry !! having a wicked problem with double posting today!
MamaMel
10-24-2006, 08:02 AM
2 spirited kids here!!!!! my oldest (12) and my 5 yo. I swear , that along with being spirited they are Old souls...(if you know what I mean) ....they are both everything to the 100th degree! Its frustrating.....intense....life definitely isn't boring.....I think I may have been a spirited child as well....even now....I'm very intense...probably why ds dd and I clash so much...feel each other so much ...and frustrate each other sooooo much.
being mama to a spirited one isn't easy....
I think I was too a spirited child. Even now maybe a spirited adult. I agree that might be why my son and I clash. how does everyone stay patient? Some days I just want to SCREAM!
homesick742
10-24-2006, 08:08 AM
My ds3 is a spirited child. He is always on the go and always getting into something! Most days I am worn out from him!
MyLil'Mountaineers
10-24-2006, 08:32 AM
I am so glad this was posted!!!! I have a high-spirited 4yo (just posted about this yesterday) and I was a high-spirited child (still am :giggle: ). My mom has often said that it was pay back.....jokingly of course!
I would LOVE to get a weekly check in or a sticky so that we can share ideas. The older he gets, the more I'm running out of ideas to keep him entertained and busy. Life definitely isn't boring but I wouldn't trade him for anything!!!!!
AngelMommy
10-24-2006, 08:51 AM
Does anyone feel like everyone else thinks you are bad parents?? Like my mom thinks I don't discipline him enough so he is "spoiled" and dh thinks we let him have his way too much. Really though tonight grocery shopping he would NOT sit in the cart, I mean you can't really force him, kwim. So he was either being held kicking and screaming or was "pushing" the cart or trying to run away from us.
Wow, this is us to a T every time we go to the store! I tried using a Mei Tai and that worked for a few months, but then he started pulling my hair/hitting me on the head when he wanted out so that he could be in the "middle" of the cart. then he would start jumping in the cart so that he could get out and walk and help "push" the cart. I'm glad we're not the only ones! I, too, feel like a horrible parent, but like you said, there's only so much you can do if you want to get anything done that you need to get done!
MamaMel
10-24-2006, 08:55 AM
Wow, this is us to a T every time we go to the store! I tried using a Mei Tai and that worked for a few months, but then he started pulling my hair/hitting me on the head when he wanted out so that he could be in the "middle" of the cart. then he would start jumping in the cart so that he could get out and walk and help "push" the cart. I'm glad we're not the only ones! I, too, feel like a horrible parent, but like you said, there's only so much you can do if you want to get anything done that you need to get done!
That is EXACTLY what Lukas does! Everyone stares at me like "take control of your child"
Gavin&Brent'sMommy
10-24-2006, 09:30 AM
wow I need this book! :)
YumaDoula
10-24-2006, 11:37 AM
My twins are VERY "spirited." Nice word. :laugh:
I'll have to look into the book.
DEmomof2
10-24-2006, 02:18 PM
MamaMel - That's what happened with my son. He was such an easy baby....he was always content and slept through the night very early on. Then it happened....he turned One and his personality completely changed! He turned into a completely spirited child!
I'm glad that I'm not the only one who feels like everyone thinks I'm a bad parent. I've struggled with a lot of self-esteem issues stemming from feeling like others think I'm a bad parent and also dealing with how aggressive my son is.
rosiemama
10-24-2006, 02:39 PM
I am so glad for this thread....I am definitely a "spirited " adult.....and my 12 yo and my 5 yo and i clash so bad......I feel like such an awful parent for getting into such a frustrated way with them......I suppose maybe I should look into management techiques....its really hard on the other kids...too.
ChurchPunkMom
10-24-2006, 03:24 PM
My oldest is/was. He's calmed down A LOT in the last year. The 'meltdowns' started around 10mo and then it was just go, go, go until he hit about 4-4.5yrs. So often I just felt like I was going to lose it! He's always been the one to hide outside when we go visit people, can't handle having things 'done' to him (hair cuts are the WORST, also drs and dentists). He also had a very slight speech delay as a toddler/preschooler and that really compounded things. He's so much more pleasant now that he can communicate better. ;)
MamaMel
10-24-2006, 03:27 PM
Melissa, we need to chat, it seems we have a lot in common :mrgreen:
Samuel is very spirited--always has been (he was a high-needs baby, also). Now Gabriel is the opposite--very layed back--its funny how they are all so different, huh?
PM me if you need to talk. Also Im on AIM too!! Im finding this thread very releaving. just to know I can come and post what my son has done today and people will understand
MamaMel
10-24-2006, 07:14 PM
Just wanted to see how everyones day was. Ours was okay. Well not really. He was his usual self. He is smart enough to know that when I am nursing Lily he can do what he wants. Im really running out of t hings to do w/ him. Playdough was a hit and it kept him occupied for 30 mintues! :whoa: He wouldn't take a nap so of course the evening was full of highs and lows. I do have to say I love the good days. B/c he is always so loving does what needs to be done and its charming. I have yet to read the book. Actually take that back im on page 3 :blush:
But in the book she quotes the definition of "spirited"
"lively, creative, keen, eager, full of energy and courage, and having a strong assertive personaility."
That is my son word for word
minuet
10-24-2006, 10:54 PM
Hi There
What a great topic. When I had my first little boy I figured I could write the book on infant care and childrearing. Then my second came along and I've learned to eat my words at every step. Sleeping, discipline, eating, daily routines all became adventures and changed frequently. Even at his birth he was challenging (his shoulders got stuck) And I don't know if this is true for all parents of 'spirited' children, but mine is exceptionally strong. So that means that restraining him from doing something is very difficult. At the same time though, he is very endearing and the moments when he acually pauses for a cuddle are golden. A big high five to all mommas with spirited children and thank goodness for coffee!!
heamae
10-25-2006, 09:49 AM
I know Mel wont believe this but Madison is very high needs. Most of the time when your around she is really good. probably b/c she is so busy wastching Lukas get into everything. But she is soo smart and so lively. The more I read about other spirted kids the more I am glad she is still nursing b/c I am sure things would be soo much worse. We dont go out to eat with her any more. Order in. Took her to Sams yesterday and I am so gald Morgan was asleep b/c I was running after Madison. I saved meijers for after Papa picked her up. My mom wants us to come to her work for lunch today but we have a doctors opp. tomorrow so I need a day to rest at home.
:hugs: to all!!
jls~Kain~Drake
10-26-2006, 04:05 PM
My 2nd has been HN or high spirited from day 1. Now, #1 though...he was a very, very easy baby and so I don't know if it's just the age/stage, but he has definitely become very...VERY...spirited. So much in the sensitivity area, but intense and active! I have the Dr Sears book for HN, but I'd like the "Raising Your Spirited Child" or whatever the title is.....
It's true that no one can understand, except another mom of a 'spirited' child..
AngelMommy
10-26-2006, 05:54 PM
Does anyone else find that your "spirited" child seems to behave so much better for other people, and then the minute he or she is back with you he or she is back to the whirlwind of activity/craziness/demands that he or she was before? My son seems to be like this. I have been subbing for a friend's preschool class 3 mornings a week, and friends have been watching him at her house in the morning. They comment on how incredibly smart, well-spoken he is, and how well he listens and follows directions. The minute I'm there, he is a wild-child again. I don't get it! :( Is he just more comfortable with me?
LadonnaKen
10-26-2006, 06:04 PM
The minute I'm there, he is a wild-child again. I don't get it! :( Is he just more comfortable with me?
Yes, exactly! I studied child development in college, and that's exactly why--children will totally let loose with mommy and daddy like no one else :banghead: My MIL lost major points with me when she said, once, "He acts perfectly fine when he's with me." GGRRRRrrrrr!!! LOL!
ce&E
10-26-2006, 08:07 PM
I too, have a spirited child, who has been that way since birth! He's only 11 months so we haven't had much in the way of temper tantrums yet but he is such an intense and sensitive child! Whenever I see a baby calmly sitting in a carseat or lap of an adult, I'm like "wow, do real babies act that way?" He never would stand for a carseat or bouncy chair or the like! He has made his needs known from the very begining but is so darn adorable and loveable too!
He's also has a terrible time sleeping and one book that I would highly, highly recommend is Sleepless in America, I don't know the author but she talks all about spirited, sensitive and intense kids and ways to help them sleep better. I loved her advice and really use it to back up our decision not to let him cry it out at night, no matter how tempting it is sometimes.
LadonnaKen
10-26-2006, 08:51 PM
PM me if you need to talk. Also Im on AIM too!! Im finding this thread very releaving. just to know I can come and post what my son has done today and people will understand
Thanks, and the same goes to you!
And on the subject of feeling like a bad mother...oh I can so relate to this! I really believe God blessed me with Gabriel so I would know that Samuel's intense personality is just that--his personality. Even now he's very quick to overload on sensory experiences--he loves to give hugs---very tight hugs--but he's not big on cuddling. He gets upset if clothes are too tight (he won't wear any longies, for example), etc etc... And don't even get me started on overstimulation and trigger foods.
But he's so amazing and smart and wonderful with his baby brother--I wouldn't want him any other way. :goodvibes: Still, though, I get exhausted sometimes, and you guys know what I mean.
mommy2zander
10-26-2006, 09:32 PM
It's great to hear that other mamas know what raising a "busy" (is the word I've started to adopt) child is like...
Zander has recently gotten over pushing, etc in the last few weeks... I gave up caffeine, so I don't know if it was that or just a mile stone of being almost 2 1/2 or a combination of both!
But now we are dealing with a new struggle, the "mine" word & verbal & facial aggression... just today, we were having a great day & then after nap he had a meltdown hour... and then, it was like something clicked & all was well again...
I think one of the things I have the hardest time with is other mamas or other people putting labels on Zander... the other day as we were walking out of gymnastics & Zander wanted to go back in, I bent down to pick him up & said, "You are being challenging." Another mama heard me & laughed & said, "that's an interesting name for it!" It's so sad that people call children the names they do, like "brat," for example... urg!
But anyway, thanks again for the thread! :D
DiapeyMom
10-28-2006, 02:02 AM
My spirited child also needs something to do constantly. We do art/craft projects everyday. She really enjoys it. Check out the Toddler Craft Project Swap!
orteggleston
10-28-2006, 02:37 AM
Love my spirited toddler! He has taught me so much...
motherhubbard
10-28-2006, 08:32 AM
Hi There
What a great topic. When I had my first little boy I figured I could write the book on infant care and childrearing. Then my second came along and I've learned to eat my words at every step. Sleeping, discipline, eating, daily routines all became adventures and changed frequently. Even at his birth he was challenging (his shoulders got stuck) And I don't know if this is true for all parents of 'spirited' children, but mine is exceptionally strong. So that means that restraining him from doing something is very difficult. At the same time though, he is very endearing and the moments when he acually pauses for a cuddle are golden. A big high five to all mommas with spirited children and thank goodness for coffee!!
That is really us. My first child was/is just OK with everything. I thought I had this mommy thing down! Then my second child was born and I knew from that moment I was in trouble. She is also very strong and has had to learn how to be careful. She stood up when she was two hours old, did a chin up at 11 months, walked at 8 months, rolled over at 3 weeks... when she was 12 mos and my nephew was 7 mos and crawling she picked him up by the back of his crawler to hurry him along.
Her melt downs started when she was 13 days old. I went back to work (at the time I was working 2 days a wk the kids came w/me) she was over stimulated. I think for us the stimulation problems are as great as the high need. I had to hold her every moment. We had to rock non stop very hard, I had to pat her butt with such force every second. We kept the house dim and quiet. Certain fabrics were out of the question. She couldn't have more than one outing a day and only one stop then. If we went to wal-mart we had to go when no one else was there. discipline was a challenge, and she needed more than the others, not less. I just have to be inventive. It was consistency that helped her cope with every situation.
She’s seven now, and still we have to keep a schedule. We had pj day at school last week and it was a real melt down situation. I'm proud of her, though. She is able to handle most situations. She works with herself.
Mommy2JJ
10-28-2006, 09:12 PM
Wow, this is us to a T every time we go to the store! I tried using a Mei Tai and that worked for a few months, but then he started pulling my hair/hitting me on the head when he wanted out so that he could be in the "middle" of the cart. then he would start jumping in the cart so that he could get out and walk and help "push" the cart. I'm glad we're not the only ones! I, too, feel like a horrible parent, but like you said, there's only so much you can do if you want to get anything done that you need to get done!
Wow our boys must be twins......we have an ergo and it worked a month or so too but then he would start to pull my hair and throw a fit until he could get out. Now all he wants to do is get out and run around and push the cart. He will sit in the "middle" for like 2 minutes top.
Do your high spirited kiddos like being worn?? Jackson doesn't at all anymore all he wants is to go go go.......I hope my next is a calm laid back baby so I can get use of my gear that ds hardly uses. He doesn't even like the ergo back carry.
My ds is the exact same way when people watch him or my mom takes him shopping he sits in the frickin basket the whole time she says :banghead: of course he is trying to grab everything of the shelves and throw everything out of the cart, BUT he sits for her!!
It's so nice to hear stories similar here......Does anyone know if they sell this book at Barnes and Noble?? We are going on an hour and a half road trip tomorrow and I wanted to pick it up to read.
Mommy2JJ
10-28-2006, 09:18 PM
I think one of the things I have the hardest time with is other mamas or other people putting labels on Zander... the other day as we were walking out of gymnastics & Zander wanted to go back in, I bent down to pick him up & said, "You are being challenging." Another mama heard me & laughed & said, "that's an interesting name for it!" It's so sad that people call children the names they do, like "brat," for example... urg!
But anyway, thanks again for the thread! :D
I totally agree with and you and that is what I struggle with the most. I KNOW a lot of my family thinks he is just spoiled and a "brat" and that really sometimes irks me, because I do not let him have everything he wants whenever he wants it. I do believe in gentle discipline and dh and I butt heads sometimes on that, but that IS hard with a spirited child....where to set the boundries?? What works best for them??
Anyway other moms don't understand until they have been there and unfortunately they make wrong assumptions. I think we can all relate to that.
mommy2zander
10-29-2006, 01:07 PM
Do your high spirited kiddos like being worn?? Jackson doesn't at all anymore all he wants is to go go go.......I hope my next is a calm laid back baby so I can get use of my gear that ds hardly uses. He doesn't even like the ergo back carry.
I feel so blessed that Zander will let me carry him in the slings & mei tai... expecially if he's had enough run & play time, then he's ok with riding & snuggling for a bit... :D
But I tried to carry him in the mei tai once recently at LLLI, because at the previous meetings he had been having trouble playing with/alongside the other kids gently... this didn't work at all, he just cried to get down & even after I let him down he was upset... thankfully, in the last few months (as we've gotten closer to 2 1/2, he's been able to play with/alongside other children & be more gentle! :D
