of that says you can only be post partum depressed if your baby is more than 3 wks old? According to a receptionist at a doctors office that I just chose thru my insurance there must be one. :headscratch: So I tried to make an appt. and after she told me that that specific Dr.s availability was way out and if I needed something sooner than I might as well choose someone else altogether OR I can choose from the other two dr.'s at that specific practice I told her fine I'd just choose another at that same practice and then she proceeds to ask what would I need to be seen for and I told her and she says ,"don't you think it's too soon already to be feeling normal I mean you did JUST have your baby." So I guess either I didn't get what she was saying or I took it the wrong way but either way who the heck is she too tell me how I should be feeling? KWIM It's taking alot out of me to have even gotten this far as far as wanting to get help becuz I'm embarrassed that I can't just get my sh*t together and do whats expected of me and then to hear her just really pushed me over the edge. So after she puts me on hold for a while I just hung up. So now I have to wait till tomorrow to go thru the same procedure becuz my insurance place had closed. :banghead:
meghann8
10-02-2008, 04:00 PM
:hugs:
Not sure who that receptionist thinks she is. Unless she's a receptionist with a medical degree. Call back tomorrow and demand to be seen.
*Katherine*
10-02-2008, 04:01 PM
Wow, that was RUDE! As a mama who suffered/suffers from PPD, I got it as soon as Mia was born. broke down in tears (and not the happy kind) once I was wheeled into my room. Call back, get an appointment and let the drs. know. She needs to have a lesson in sensitivity
mom2jirms
10-02-2008, 04:08 PM
Not sure if I want to even bother becuz I forgot to add that before she put me on hold she proceeded to tell me that the other Dr. could see me Nov. 10 And to me that's still not soon enough. I know there's someone out there that has something sooner available.
jazter
10-03-2008, 04:10 PM
Is there any chance you can see the practice that provided your OB care? I would think that's up their alley.
patricianaps
10-06-2008, 02:08 PM
That's like saying you can't be bipolar or schizophrenic before age 30. I work in mental health, so that's my analogy.
It makes it more difficult to definitively diagnose, but obvious moms with pp depression 5 weeks pp have likely had it all along. BUT not always. Docs are more hesitant to label now.
titania
10-06-2008, 06:55 PM
:hugs: as if it wasn't hard enough to just pick up the freaking phone. some people have no brains. :banghead:
i don't know if you know this or not, but there is a ppd forum (http://www.mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?f=28) at mdc (http://www.mothering.com/discussions/index.php). might have something that could help you out. support if nothing else. :hugs:
i hope you are able to get what you need.
WeeEssentials
10-06-2008, 09:33 PM
Wow - I would have been tempted to ask her if she was a receptionist or a doctor... it certainly was NOT her place to even question - she is there to make the appointment and that's it. I suppose they do have to try and figure out if it's an emergency or not, and schedule accordingly, but she's not to diagnose you over the phone!
Call tomorrow. I know it's hard - but remember, YOU know your body. You know when something is up. She doesn't. And she doesn't have any business or right to question you. I was diagnosed with cyclothymic disorder, which is a very mild form of bipolar, so I've been there. I knew when something was wrong even when every doctor told me it was "normal." Finally my OB/GYN got me to go to a counselor and I was diagnosed. I was the opposite - after my son, I was in a hypomanic state for several weeks - I barely slept, was very active, etc. But more often I've been depressed, and you know it just doesn't feel right. So anyway, if you need to talk, you can message me anytime.
But call that doctor again, and if the receptionist isn't helping, call back and ask to speak to a nurse - tell the nosy receptionist it's a "private matter" if she starts questioning. :)
MamaToBe84
10-08-2008, 07:59 PM
She is not qualified to tell you that on the phone, and if something happened to you because of PPD, I believe she could get into trouble. That was NOT her place.
I'd call back... but you might get better results from your OB practice... or is that who you called?
kellidarling
10-08-2008, 08:26 PM
Aw, mama - I hate that she made what is already a tough time for you even tougher.
I went through a rough time when V was born - I just was not myself and couldn't seem to pull it together. You have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about - you are doing the right thing by trying to get help.
My advice is to call your OB - if it's not possible to see her then I would check into http://postpartum.net/ - they have a lot of resources to help you, including a hotline (1.800.944.4PPD) where someone can help you find assistance in your area.
I'll be thinking about you, mama - I remember how upside-down I felt...I really hope you can find the support you need.
:bighug:
YogiMom
10-09-2008, 11:54 AM
I would call and ask to speak to the office manager or a nurse. If either one of them put you off, I would switch doctors. Depression isn't something to mess with and any office, especially an OB office should have their staff educated. I had anxiety and depression while I was pregnant. It's not a fun place to be, much less have someone telling you how you should or shouldn't feel.
nicoleb
10-31-2008, 09:03 PM
This woman needs to update her basic abnormal psychology. The DSM-IV-TR states that Major Depressive Disorder with Postpartum onset will have an onset within the first 4 weeks after birth.
You know best what you need, call either your primary care physician or your OB (who will take care of your postpartum issues). If you can't get an appointment with them ask for a referral to a Mental Health professional over the phone. You deserve to feel better. If you can't get an appointment go to a immediate care facility.
I work with individuals who have Severe and Persistant mental illnesses and it really angers me when people (especially care providers) are dismissive of mental illnesses. Would they be so dismissive if you had a fever and were throwing up? Then why are they dimissive of your emotional symptoms.
Sorry for the rant.
GEMINI06179
11-04-2008, 02:43 PM
I agree keep trying. When you do speak w/ a nurse or doctor please mention how you were treated by the receptionist. They need to know how insensitive she was to you. Good luck to you and way to go for getting help for your ppd.
kaylabelle05
11-04-2008, 02:57 PM
I would try the OB that delivered you too.
I had it with DD when she was less than a week old. I remember crying on the floor with her because she wouldn't stop crying or nurse (she had low muscle tone). I got put on meds 10 days later.
mycdsqueaker
11-05-2008, 01:56 PM
if you are within 6 weeks of delivery you should be able to talk to your OB/GYN (of you used one) about it.....at least that is what they told me
yarngoddess
11-05-2008, 03:11 PM
So Sorry momma! Just wondering how you are doing, and if you were able to talk to someone? HUGS!
sheenashine
11-05-2008, 09:55 PM
Is it possible she meant that to be helpful? Maybe that was her way of telling you that you need to give yourself time recoup... NOT that I think it was okay for her to play doctor at ALL. BUT I like to give think people generally mean well. :goodvibes:
Also, sometimes I have better luck getting seen if I call my doctors nurse. They can talk to the doctor and sometimes find a time to squeeze you in. I also agree with the other posters about calling your OB...much better qualified for this, IMO.
Good luck mama! I really hope you get the help you need and start feeling better soon!!! <3
