So I was looking at another thread, and it got me thinking. There's nothing wrong with boys playing with dolls, right? I would love to get them a couple of Cabbage Patch dolls, mostly for them, partially for nostalgic reasons.:giggle: Do you think it would be "okay" for my almost 6 y.o. and my 3 y.o. to play with them? I wouldn't have a problem with it, of course, but how to convince DH? :headscratch:
meghann8
11-19-2008, 07:12 PM
It's totally fine. Even my "macho" Dh agrees. He said something about how girls shouldn't be the only ones who learn to be good parents.
Sweet_Fantasy_Fox
11-19-2008, 07:15 PM
my almost 6 year old has a cabbage patch nb, so does dd and my 14 mon old ds2 is now carrying the dolly around, its supercute!
at first dh was wierded out by it for dh1, but after seeing the kids love them, he got over it.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v18/Daniels_Mommy/DSC04860.jpg?t=1227147183
Lovemy4guys
11-19-2008, 07:18 PM
It's totally fine. Even my "macho" Dh agrees. He said something about how girls shouldn't be the only ones who learn to be good parents.
So true!
my almost 6 year old has a cabbage patch nb, so does dd and my 14 mon old ds2 is now carrying the dolly around, its supercute!
at first dh was wierded out by it for dh1, but after seeing the kids love them, he got over it.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v18/Daniels_Mommy/DSC04860.jpg?t=1227147183
He is so CUTE!
iris0110
11-19-2008, 07:27 PM
My dh didn't really care. Kearnan has had a Cabage patch teenie tiny preemie (like from back when I was a kid) since he was a little over a year old. He used to have to have "baby" to sleep. Then Christmas before last he got a CPK baby that cried and he loved her so much. Dh was a little bit more weirded out by Baby Wendy because she was sooooo girly. Baby was pretty gender neutral, we always assumed he was a boy. But Wendy is all girl, and Kearnan would ask to buy clothes for her, always in pink or purple. He carried her around in a little child's pouch I made for him. I wound up buying one for Tharen on clearance after Christmas cause he was so jealous of Kearnan's. But he didn't play with Jasmine much. He also has one of the CPK nb, but he doesn't play with him either. They both have CPK's the big kids, boys, that they ignore. Last year I bought them both Waldorf heavy babies. They are the size of nb's and weigh 3lbs. THey have been hugely popular. I bought them some nb clothes at diffrent kids consignment sales cheap, and some nb cloth diapers and they love their babies. Tharen named his Gim (he calls my brother Graham "Gim", can't say his name right) and Kearnan named his "Windy" after his CPK Wendy. They are both boys according to my boys, but Kearnan's Windy has to wear purple as much as possible. Kearnan loves purple.
So far dh still isn't bothered by it. He doesn't mind when the boys pretend to nurse their babies, carry them in slings, sleep with them, change their diapers and dress them up ect. He thinks it's sweet. But he is a very hands on Daddy. He does all of those things with our boys (minus the nursing :giggle: ) so it is natural for them. Also dh and I collect dolls, not baby dolls, but Aisan Ball Jointed Dolls. So he can't say much when he has his own "dollies". Tharen is very interested in our dolls, but he can't really play with them. As a result he is now really into the tiny Kelley dolls. He has several now. Dh was a bit weird about those at first, but he got over it. Kearnan has recently been pointing out that some toys are "girl toys." I think the other boys say it at school since Kearnan isn't really that socialy knowledgable on his own. But he doesn't seem to think his babies are girls toys yet so I guess we are ok.
http://i160.photobucket.com/albums/t168/iris0110/100_4578.jpg
Tharen with his Kelley doll in his pocket. Pardon his messy face/hair and lack of pants.
http://i160.photobucket.com/albums/t168/iris0110/100_3318.jpg
Kearnan and Windy
http://i160.photobucket.com/albums/t168/iris0110/100_3319.jpg
Tharen and Gim
titania
11-19-2008, 08:51 PM
i can't really come up with a good reason why boys shouldn't be "allowed" to play with dolls. do you think your dh could?
my boys love their babies. they are only dollar store babies, and jonas' baby's head is nearly coming off. my mom is making them some waldorf babies for christmas. hopefully they'll hold up better than the current one! :lostit:
cheygirl
11-20-2008, 08:32 AM
Check out the current issue of Mothering magazine. There is an article in there about boys playing with dolls and why it shouldn't be discouraged. I think it's written from a dad's perspective.
mamoo3
11-20-2008, 09:25 AM
My ds loves his babies even more than the girls do. Personally, I think it's great that he is learning to be so nice and gentle, when normally he's so rough and tough...he's going to be such a good daddy someday!
poohnbuki
11-20-2008, 09:35 AM
My ds plays dolls with my dd all the time, and vice versa-she plays army guys and cars with him. He enjoys the roll playing, and it's really good for boys to have their nurturing side encouraged, enriched, and strengthen. Boys will naturally be into fighting, cars, rough housing, etc., but that softer side has to be encouraged and developed (in my opinion, at least!)
JonsMommy
11-20-2008, 09:50 AM
My 32 year old brother had a Cabbage Patch doll when he was little, and I don't think it hurt him at all. :goodvibes:
tiffanyamanda
11-20-2008, 10:02 AM
My DS has little dolls that fit in his hands but nothing big. If he expressed interest in a bigger one, I'd get him one for sure. I think it's definitely okay for boys to have dolls. Just the other day I saw a little boy pushing a little pink stroller with his dolly in it at the grocery store.
guysmama
11-20-2008, 10:11 AM
DS has a doll that he LOVES. We called him "Kapok Doll" when we got him because he is stuffed with Kapok. The name stuck and DS calls him "Kapok" and carries him around and sleeps with him in our shared bed. :giggle:
My two older brothers both had CPKs and loved them. Martin and Jacob were there names and they were well loved and well cared for.
DS "nurses" Kapok and "feeds" him food as well. He is also anatomically (sorry if I spelled it wrong, brain taking vacay) correct so DS has Kapok use the potty now and then as well-complete with sound effects. :giggle2:
DH had NO problem with it that I know of.
Sam25!
11-20-2008, 12:56 PM
I thnk that it is perfectly fine for boys to play with dolls. I got my son one when he was almost three. and he loved it.
vintagegyrl
11-20-2008, 12:59 PM
I think it is awesome! Let's them pretend to father a kiddo. So much fun. Get them a boy doll if DH likes that better.
They can act out the Mommy/Daddy roles. The'll probably say things DH says. It will be fun to watch!
