MommaTooters
12-16-2008, 08:56 PM
Okay mamas! I need some SERIOUS help here. I totally feel like a failure when it comes to my oldest ds who will be two in March. I feel like I've become one of those moms I said I would never be. My child does things I said I would do my best to keep at bay...it's awful.
Let me explain. His listening skills are way off. Of course if you ask him to throw something away he will, if you ask him to get his cup...he will. That's not the problem. It's the listening when he is throwing toys or being mean that I can't control.
He has this thing where when he gets upset anything in his way has to be moved. And by moved I mean thrown. If it's on his table it gets swiped off. If it's in his hands it gets thrown down. If something is in his way he will pick it up and throw it. He has even come close to turning over his little table.
He loves to hit. Even when just playing. But either way, it's not nice. And with having a little brother who is just short of two months old I'm afraid he may hurt him.
The way he is when he gets mad reminds me of the behavior of an autistic child. My old neighbors son is autistic so I have seen many of his moods and behaviors on a daily basis.
Riley doesn't do well with ANY form of punishment. We have tried time outs, going to his room, and yes...even spankings.
I am at my wits end. I know mine and my dh's parenting styles will have to change as well in order to get our son to behave better but I just don't know what to do.
I am going to try changing his diet to only natural sugars like in fruits. But the hard thing is...he doesn't eat. He will literally throw himself on the floor if you offer him anything or even set it on his table/tray. He does the trowing himself down thing when he is just throwing a random fit as well.
Any ideas, suggestions, experience? How about ways to get him to eat and what foods to try, what ones to avoid?
ETA...I forgot to mention that he is always hitting himself on the head. With his hands usually but sometimes with other things. And headbutts everything. I'm not sure why. He does this mostly when he is in a good mood so I'm totally clueless!
Let me explain. His listening skills are way off. Of course if you ask him to throw something away he will, if you ask him to get his cup...he will. That's not the problem. It's the listening when he is throwing toys or being mean that I can't control.
He has this thing where when he gets upset anything in his way has to be moved. And by moved I mean thrown. If it's on his table it gets swiped off. If it's in his hands it gets thrown down. If something is in his way he will pick it up and throw it. He has even come close to turning over his little table.
He loves to hit. Even when just playing. But either way, it's not nice. And with having a little brother who is just short of two months old I'm afraid he may hurt him.
The way he is when he gets mad reminds me of the behavior of an autistic child. My old neighbors son is autistic so I have seen many of his moods and behaviors on a daily basis.
Riley doesn't do well with ANY form of punishment. We have tried time outs, going to his room, and yes...even spankings.
I am at my wits end. I know mine and my dh's parenting styles will have to change as well in order to get our son to behave better but I just don't know what to do.
I am going to try changing his diet to only natural sugars like in fruits. But the hard thing is...he doesn't eat. He will literally throw himself on the floor if you offer him anything or even set it on his table/tray. He does the trowing himself down thing when he is just throwing a random fit as well.
Any ideas, suggestions, experience? How about ways to get him to eat and what foods to try, what ones to avoid?
ETA...I forgot to mention that he is always hitting himself on the head. With his hands usually but sometimes with other things. And headbutts everything. I'm not sure why. He does this mostly when he is in a good mood so I'm totally clueless!
