if you have weaned twins - I need your help

[esaesa]

Looking for any advice you may have. NOthing is too basic. Here are a few specific questions. . . but feel free to discuss something else.
-How long did it take from when you decided to start to no more bf?
-What did you do when you had two screaming babies who just want some milk?
-Did you ever take one in a closed room so the other couldn't see you nursing? (assuming one is happily playing and the other demanding milk)
-Did you notice any change in how your twins slept?
-Did you notice any change in how you felt about being a mama?

thank you!

[TwinsMake9]

Those are tough.

My first set of twins basically weaned themselves at 16 months old. They were on table food and drank regular milk, one of them and the other Pediasure. They made the transition very easily without any problems and I too was never engorged either. It was just a gradual thing.I was ok with them quitting by then.

Second set was a whole other story. I did not want to wean at all but they had growth issues that they just could not shake although I continued to nurse them hoping things would change. At a year old they only weighed 14 lbs and 15 lbs as they were awfully slow gainers. They did however meet all milestones just not for growth. It was tough. I had to gradually wean them both onto a specialized formula called Elecare. They hated it, and so did I. Neither baby had taken a bottle before either so we had that issue as well. They would not take a sippy though as they did have feeding issues and were not the normal 1 year old when it came to eating. Their lil stomachs just could not handle much food or milk at once. It was hard and one did better than the other and I did end up cheating a bit and nursing him when he refused everything else. It took a good 2 months to finally wean them both onto the new formula that they needed. So far its working well and they have finally gained..one is now 20 lbs and the other is 18lbs at almost 18 months old.

I hope I answered some questions but this was how it was for us . I stil feel very quilty about the whole thing but am happy that the high calorie stuff is helping. They are real poor eaters still. I wish ya tons of luck

[Jenney17]

Subbing. We will be weaning sometime this year and I am not sure how. (or if I want to :hide:)

[texanntx]

At 18 months, I had just had enough of kids (and huz) tugging on me. Felt like someone wanted ME, all day and all night) At 18 months, they were only nursing during the day, about 3 times, but it was just too much, and too long! It wasn't bad, I just quit offering, and they just quit asking. When they did ask, I hugged them, instead.

I nursed them both at the same time from about 4 weeks on, because I couldn't stand for one to wait (or cry).

[titania]

Looking for any advice you may have. NOthing is too basic. Here are a few specific questions. . . but feel free to discuss something else.
-How long did it take from when you decided to start to no more bf? i don't really know. i started really hating nursing when i was pg, but before i knew i was. they were weaned before he was born. maybe about 6 months total? but my boys were much older than your twins, so they weren't nursing as much anyway.

-What did you do when you had two screaming babies who just want some milk?i would nurse if that were the situation. you don't want weaning to be a traumatic time for them. if you can get them interested in something else that would be good. but if they are upset, nurse them. it won't prolong the weaning process all that much.

-Did you ever take one in a closed room so the other couldn't see you nursing? (assuming one is happily playing and the other demanding milk)i don't know that i needed to, and out house isn't set up that way, but i don't see anything wrong with that, as long as the other baby is safe.

-Did you notice any change in how your twins slept? i will admit, they slept better.

-Did you notice any change in how you felt about being a mama?" good question. hmm..not that i can recall. but i did feel bad that i wasn't able to let them self wean like i wanted. and i did not wean them as gently as they deserved, so i feel bad about that too.

thank you!


here's what i did. and this was even before i got pg, because i was trying to get them to shorten the length of time they (jonas in particular) nursed for. i would say we can nurse for the abc song, count to 10, or count to 10 in spanish. they eventually got to choose which one they wanted. now, your kids are probably not going to be able to participate like that, but maybe it will give you an idea. i think i read your post in weaning (wasn't able to respond at the time though). i think you are nursing before and after every sleep, right? we did that too. i think the before sleep nursing is the hardest to eliminate, but after waking you can try and get them interested in something. like have something *really* cool or new out when they wake. maybe get some clear contact paper and tape it down on the carpet sticky-side up. or have an under-the bed box full of dried pasta, or a box of scarves or something. if they need a snack first, take them right to the table and then the fun activity. or maybe right out for a walk or trip to the mall/grocery store/children's museum/etc.

have they ever gone to sleep without nursing? do they take pacis?

[Rollins4]

I cut and pasted because I am a dork:giggle:

-How long did it take from when you decided to start to no more bf? I never made the decision the boys decided about 3 wks ago they were done (they are 28 mos old)

-What did you do when you had two screaming babies who just want some milk? I used to just hike up my top and put them on, football position worked best for us, they loved to hold hands while nursing. I nursed them on demand.

-Did you ever take one in a closed room so the other couldn't see you nursing? (assuming one is happily playing and the other demanding milk) Nope, when one wanted some the other "needed" some!:giggle2:

-Did you notice any change in how your twins slept? They sleep better now that they are done with nursing (as do I), before they would still night nurse, so I always slept so light.

-Did you notice any change in how you felt about being a mama? For me, when I realized my breastfeeding days were over, I admit I was heartbroken, since the boys are our last babes. But now it is so nice not to have 2 pairs of hands grabbing and yelling "booby" all the time:lostit: HTH!