Anyone Else Have This "Problem"?

[OneFabMama]

DH, myself and the baby went to IHOP this AM for breakfast. Riley was in a HOT PINK shirt, jeans, and hot pink shoes with flowers on them - and I swear THREE people called her a "he" or "look at how cute HE is" or "Look at him"
I was STEAMING MAD! SHES IN PIIIIIIIIIINK! :mad:
I get that A LOT!!!! Like every day when we're out. And, when I say "SHE" people look at me weird - like Im lying or something. She doesnt have much hair, and her face I suppose could look boyish if she was dressed in BLUE. But C'mon it's pain steakling obvious she is a girl when she is dressed. :confused:
Just had to vent!

[Bare Bottom Gear]

I TOTALLY had the same prob with my dd. I would have her in a pink outfit and all I would hear was "HE IS SO CUTE".

She did look exactly like her dad. You cannot tell their baby pics apart! Like TWINS! And, no hair....

But, yes, C'MON! PINK????? DUH!!!!! LOOK for the clues people!

I feel you mama!

[jedibunni]

I am so with you on that!!!! My youngest has short hair too and she wears pink all the time! She'll be in her stroller with her pink blanky, pink DRESS and I will still get, "He is a cutie!". I think people just don't pay attention to anything!

:D

[lovemyboys]

We got that all the time with our oldest ds. It didn't matter what he was wearing! That stopped around the time he was 2 or so, but a few people have called him a "she" in the past few weeks. :confused:

[lovemygirls]

People have called Morgan and Madalyn both boys from time to time and they've been wearing pink and HAVE THEIR EARS PIERCED!! It just makes me so :mad: what more can I do to make them look more girly!! lol!

[chunkymonkey'smomma]

My son has been called a girl so many times it isn't funny...it doesn't matter what he's in, people just think he looks girly :confused:

[danibu98]

yes, since my twins are fraternal people always think one of them is a girl. And it changes, (ie they each take turns being the girl) and it doesnt matter what color I have them in!

Danielle

[hfitz5051]

Yes! Yes! Yes! Every single one of my baby girls(3 of them) have been called boys. I am just used to it now lol. Even in pink DRESSES.

[4boys4me]

I defentaly had that problem with my 2nd ds.. everyone called him a her and he ALWAYS got called pretty.. I even had a blanket that we put on his carrier that said "It's a boy" gee, how obvious could ya get,lol.. oh well, they do grow up and soon it will be noticible,lol

[Proverbs169]

I feel your pain! All three of my very feminine girls have been mistaken for boys more than once. Drives me nuts! My oldest was even wearing a dress with flowers on it when a man commented on how very handsome our son was. Grrr.

[FitMommyOf2]

I got that with DD too when she was little.. I don't get it!..

[Carrie]

yes, since my twins are fraternal people always think one of them is a girl. And it changes, (ie they each take turns being the girl) and it doesnt matter what color I have them in!

Danielle

My twins are identical and people still want them to be a boy and a girl. We were at the MS walk (it was crowded) a few weeks ago and DH was carrying Ethan. He felt someone behind him and turned around--it was a lady tickling his feet! She said she was just tickling the girls feet. I was like, HE IS A BOY AND WHY ARE YOU TOUCHING HIM ANYWAY?! Of course, I didn't actually say anything, lol!

[Samantha]

To the OP I think its the name TO A POINT.

I will have harper dressed in all pink and someone will say "whats her name" I say "Harper" and then they say "OHH HES SO CUTE!"

They think Harper is a boy's name so it doesnt matter WHAT color shes wearing.

I just kindly say "yeah I think SHES beautiful too" or something like that.

[Radish4ever]

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!


DD ONLY gets called a Boy when she's in pink from head to toe! WTH!

[eightcowwife]

Btdt All the time!! Grrrr

[MamaStace]

LOL I'd be mad, too!! My dd had no hair and once wore a DRESS to church and some old lady kept referring to her as "he." I finally introduced her, saying this is GRACE, and this lady looked at me like I was nuts! Like, why would you name a boy Grace? She still didn't get it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My friend pierced her dd's ears and that solved the problem, but we opted out of that.

[vick]

Sorry mamas, that totally sucks! I've screwed up boys and girls, but only when they're wearing gender neutral clothing. A baby in pink or in a dress is a girl, for Pete's sake!!

Can you believe that with one or two exceptions when she was much smaller, no-one ever screws Isabel's sex up? I can have her in a white t-shirt and jeans and everyone says "what a cute girl" - it's gotta be all her hair!

[mommato4]

Happens to me and dd a lot. Most of the time she is in her wrap being worn so people can't see all the pink she is in. Her hair sticks up like my boys (although they use hair products:) )so I guess everyone thinks she looks like them:rolleyes:

[mommy2zander]

People can be so weird!! I find it very important to be sensitive about boy/girl babies, not asking woman if they are pregnant, etc... but some people just don't get it!! They talk first and think second!! Sorry you and your darling daughter are having to deal with this...

[Kele]

I get this all the time! It is so frustrating! I have 2 boys and they were not called girls (rarely), but my girl is called a he 90% of the time! Dressed in pink! Yeah, she has no hair, but people are just blind!
I say the 'yes, we think SHE"S cute, too' type stuff and most of the time they catch it, but it just annoys me to no end.
If I can't tell the gender of a baby, I make a neutral comment. like 'what a cutie' or something and the parent will then usually say something gender specific. I also NEVER ask if someone is preg, unless it is painfully obvious. (I jsut got asked at the grocery store the other week - it was devastating to my already low self-esteem!). I think we should get a free punch or something for being wrongfully accused! HAHA!

[camperjen]

I guess I wonder why this is so important? It's not like the baby's GRANDMA is calling him/her by the wrong gender...

I understand that PINK should be obvious - but people are looking at THE BABY, not the clothes.

This happened just yesterday at church - my son is a year old and was in very typically boyish clothes. *shrug* Didn't bother me.

[OneFabMama]

I guess I wonder why this is so important? It's not like the baby's GRANDMA is calling him/her by the wrong gender...

I understand that PINK should be obvious - but people are looking at THE BABY, not the clothes.

This happened just yesterday at church - my son is a year old and was in very typically boyish clothes. *shrug* Didn't bother me.

Trust me, I'm not losing any sleep over it or anything. To me, it's just annoying! I tend to be a litte more noticing to a childs clothing or whatever if I'm going to comment on the cuteness of someone elses child. I think it's just common sense - pink shirt = girl flowers = girl. *shrug* It's not the end of my world or anything...

[camperjen]

Trust me, I'm not losing any sleep over it or anything. *shrug* It's not the end of my world or anything...

Oh good! :D :D :p

(those other smilies sure make a difference in how things can be taken, don't they?)

[OneFabMama]

:D Yes, smilies are good!

[mamas120]

aww...I don't see how they can mistake her for a little boy. I have actually never had that problem because both dd's were born w/ heads full of hair so i could already put little barrets in them.

[Severine]

We get that ALL THE TIME! I was once feeding DD in my car, she was in all pink, she was drinking from a pink bottle, and a little old lady walking by commented on what a handsome little boy I had. GRRRR!!!! Usually, I say "thank you, SHE is." When I was shopping at April Cornell on Sunday, i had a woman go on and on about my "little boy" (who was misbehaving on my back, incidentally, and I was antsy to get through the check-out and out of there). I just smiled, then talked to DD using her name... the woman actually proceeded to ask "Oh, is he a girl? Or a boy?" DUH!

Although I will admit to sometimes intentionally dressing her in a gender neutral manner when I'm feeling snarky and looking to make someone feel embarassed. Evil, I know!

[mom_of_3g_1b]

It happens to me all the time. When we take the girls out we dress them in their nicer cloths and they are always girly. The second question after "Are they Triplets" seems to be "Are they all boys?" I had one lady say "Oh too bad" when I told her they were girls.

DS used to have really light, fine, curly hair that was past his shoulders. I finally gave in a cut it because no matter what we had him dressed in everyone always said what a cute little girl. GRRR

[mommy22peanuts]

Sorry mamas, that totally sucks! I've screwed up boys and girls, but only when they're wearing gender neutral clothing. A baby in pink or in a dress is a girl, for Pete's sake!!

Can you believe that with one or two exceptions when she was much smaller, no-one ever screws Isabel's sex up? I can have her in a white t-shirt and jeans and everyone says "what a cute girl" - it's gotta be all her hair!


People haven't mistaken my DD either, and I also think it's because of all her hair!!! Oh and the bright pink stroller does help!

[hfitz5051]

Hazel was called a boy again today! She was in an all denim MT though, and wearing a orange and green tie dye shirt(thanks Jena!). So she looked a bit unisex.

[twinsmomkatie]

My identical twin girls would wear pink dresses to the mall, and people would constantly rush up and ask me, "Are they twins?" "Which one is the boy and which one is hte girl?" Believe me, if I had a dollar every time I got asked those 2 questions, I would be retired and financially independent right now. (Actually, I would probalby be BROKE! from buying adorable CLOTH DIAPERS!)

My dh invented so many stupid answers . . . we got a lot of fun out of people. One time he gasps, looks down at the stroller, and says, "There are TWO of them? Honey, where did we get TWO of them? Oh, great!" This poor little old lady was so confused . . . He also used to tell everyone that one was 3 years older. (They are IDENTICAL in size and appearance!) Very funny.

If you can't change 'em, laugh at 'em! That's what I always say . . .
:)
Katie

[ProudSpark]

When My DD was a little younger people at the grocery store and such have called her a HE but she was wearing a blue dress or something yellow. Its usually old ladies that cant get the gender right... you ever notice that?

[ltelly00]

yep! BTDT!! Doesn't matter if it's pink, dresses, flowers or what. The only way it stopped for us is when I put DD's hair up in a ponytail. Until you get to that point, good lucK! I'd suggest clothing that says she's a girl, but I'm sure that wouldn't help either!

[allycat]

I had my daughter in a pink snowsuit with hood on and someone said "he". That is really just stupidity on their part.

[loni1090]

Alex has long hair and a cute face. I have him in overalls and blues or greens, very boyish. I get the same thing. How old is she?? I say, " Oh, he's a boy. He's 11 months old."

[OneFabMama]

My identical twin girls would wear pink dresses to the mall, and people would constantly rush up and ask me, "Are they twins?" "Which one is the boy and which one is hte girl?" Believe me, if I had a dollar every time I got asked those 2 questions, I would be retired and financially independent right now. (Actually, I would probalby be BROKE! from buying adorable CLOTH DIAPERS!)

My dh invented so many stupid answers . . . we got a lot of fun out of people. One time he gasps, looks down at the stroller, and says, "There are TWO of them? Honey, where did we get TWO of them? Oh, great!" This poor little old lady was so confused . . . He also used to tell everyone that one was 3 years older. (They are IDENTICAL in size and appearance!) Very funny.

If you can't change 'em, laugh at 'em! That's what I always say . . .
:)
Katie

That is TOO funny. MIL is a twin and her Mom was asked that all the time "Are they twins?" and she would say "No, they have different fathers" LMBO!!!!

[MamaStace]

When My DD was a little younger people at the grocery store and such have called her a HE but she was wearing a blue dress or something yellow. Its usually old ladies that cant get the gender right... you ever notice that?

I read somewhere that pink and blue used to be switched pertaining to gender. I just did some research, and here's what I Found (perhaps this is why old people think the way they do??????) I thought it was interesting, anyways!! :)


http://histclo.com/gender/color.html

At one point pink was considered more of a boy's color, as a watered-down red, which is a fierce color) and blue was morefor girls. The associate of pink with bold, dramatic red clearly affected its use for boys. An American newspaper in 1914 advised mothers, "If you like the color note on the little one's garments, use pink for the boy and blue for the girl, if you are a follower of convention." [The Sunday Sentinal, March 29, 1914.] A woman's magazine in 1918 informed mothers, "There has been a great diversity of opinion on the subject, but the generally accepted rule is pink for the boy and blue for the girl. The reason is that pink being a more decided and stronger color is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is pertier for the girl." [Ladies Home Journal, June, 1918] This undoubteldy strikes modern readers as very surprising indeed. Some sources suggest it was not until the 1940s that the modern gender associations with color became universally accepted. . . .

A HBC reader tells us, "My Grandmother told me of time when Red dresses were a boys color and girls wore blue dresses girls. My whole life the boys' color was and still is blue and girls wear pink. If this change took place fast than it would be safe to say boys were wearing red dress in the 19th century. The change must have taken place sometime in the early 20th century." [Steven Smith, Smith Kinology]


:mrgreen:

[OneFabMama]

Interesting!

[cuties02q]

All the time with both kids doesn't matter what they are wearing, once a guy working at starbucks said oh he (about dd who was wearing a pink flowered dress) is so adorable and a co-worker said ummm that is a girl to which he replied well how was i supposed to know people put boys in dresses my mom did :laugh: The whole place was laughing and he looked pretty embarresed :blush:

[jls~Kain~Drake]

I'm with another poster - I'm not losing sleep over it or anything...but you sometimes wonder how people can be so dense.

It seems like people always screw it up when they couldn't be wearing clothes that are ANY MORE gender specific. At about 16 months, ds1 was confused for a girl when he was wearing blue pants, dark blue shoes, a blue shirt with trucks, trains, cars...???? I just slid a "he" into the conversation and she was very apologetic...but I just don't get it? :) Ds2 doesn't get confused for a girl nearly as much as ds1 did, but I do get that he's a "Pretty" boy...LOL...fil always says that he's the "purtiest baby" he's ever seen. Which, I totally appreciate but wish he wouldn't say in front of ds1!

[LuAnn]

I have a boy and dress him in boy clothes, and I get wow your daughters eye lashes are so long, how pretty. I say Thanks, HE gets them from HIS DAD:giggle: than I hear oh wow, with those eyes and eye lashes hes pretty enough to be a girl, well thanks but hes still a BOY, but Im mean when ppl walk away too, I look at my son and say boy is she/he an idiot, they cant tell the difference between a boy or girl, and ds laughs:)
LuAnn

[bobandjess99]

i get this..i mean, I'm not a huge fan of gender-typing..but COME ON...LOOK at my avatar....that cute little girl, in a pink dress with pink shoes and a pink jacket.......and i get "HE" ALL THE TIME!!! :headscratch:

[Knittress]

((hugs)) SHE is adorable, Jena! But I understand your frustration. Just like when people say "she" about my dc who is wearing an outfit that has a football on it and it says "Future Quarterback." (Though at this point and this weight... future linebacker may be more accurate. Heh)

[marvelous]

I have had DD dressed in pink or something otherwise floral, and sitting in a pink gingahm shopping cart cover and I still hear, "Oh what a pretty little boy!" Now if you are going to bother to call a boy "pretty" wouldn't you think to check if is a girl?