before I kill her! :banghead: She is 10 years old, starting to go thru puberty, and I dont know if it is that or what. I feel like I cant relate to her anymore. Everything is major drama all the time. She yells at her 2 sisters constantly, even for little things or nothing at all, just anything she perceives to be wrong. If she isnt yelling or talking back or arguing, she is crying. I am at my wits end and dont know what to do. Dh is going crazy with her too. She is our oldest so we havent been thru any of this before. She has been grounded solid for 6 weeks already, but we dont know if it is making a difference. Do we just need to be consistent with it, as in keep it up until she straightens up, or is it not working? Any advice from mamas who have been here? what helps?
daizydoo
02-12-2009, 04:34 PM
No advice but :hugs: for you. Our odd is almost 9 and we are going thru the same thing and she is driving my dh and I batty. She is so up and down emotionally and there is no in between with how she is feeling. And you can't win, we will do something we think will be fun and it is boring and she is complaining about something.
WhatWasIThinking
02-12-2009, 05:43 PM
OMG. My DD is the same way!!!!!!!!!! We just send her to her room when she is being a witch!
darlazi
02-12-2009, 05:46 PM
I dont really have any advice because mine are small and my 2 year old just hit the attitude stage. but I just wanted to say goodluck and I hope you find a solution to ease your problems. Goodluck.
Nanner99
02-12-2009, 05:51 PM
I think overlooking the little stuff and a "time out" in her room when she is making everyone around her miserable is a good start. Try to make time to talk with her, even if she doesn't seem to want it. Have you given her a book on puberty?
Maybe lay down some new house rules to fit what she is going through right now (maybe "no yelling"?), and a consequence for each, just like you might do with younger kids. See if you can come up with something besides grounding. I think 6 wks is excessive unless she did something truly horrible. My parents rarely grounded us, and we all listened to them pretty well, even when I was at my witchiest during puberty :giggle: So, there are alternatives.
Good luck. Mine is only 8, and still sweet for the most part, but I am nervous about entering that next stage!
NataschaN
02-12-2009, 06:36 PM
She has been grounded for 6 weeks straight. At least you are sticking to your rules.
However, you might have to take away other priviliges from her. If I would be you her room would be stripped to the basics by now. No toys, no video games, no TV. She would have to work in order to get any of it back.
Good luck. It must be realy hard on your whole family:hugs:
WhatWasIThinking
02-12-2009, 09:02 PM
Wow, I think that's pretty harsh punishment (stripping the room to nothing and taking everything else away on top of the grounding) for a little girl just trying to come to terms with her ever changing body and mind! I would personally back off some of that grounding because what does she have to work FOR??
jewelzbird
02-12-2009, 09:07 PM
That was my worst age! I was 11 and impossible. Then I was basically an easy teen- so hang in there. She is just torn between being a child and a teen...what do they call that now...a "tween?" Tough times and they get better!
tonewinwy
02-12-2009, 09:41 PM
Puberty at 10 is the worse. I was 9 1/2 when Puberty started for me. I did the same stuff your Daughter is doing now I was never really punished but my Parents did talk to me about it later etc. Her body is changing in so many ways she's probably havin a really hard time dealing with it therefore isn't acting exactly like she should. At 9 1/2 it was really hard for me to deal with all the changes that go along with Puberty so it's probably just as hard for her. I'm not sure if grounding her is working or not esp if she's already been grounded for six weeks. I really don't have any advice on what you could try instead of grounding. Just to hang in there.
