please help! i have 4 under 4 (including a newborn) and my older boys wont stop fighting. now amount of time out is working. taking toys away etc doesnt seem to help with the 3 year old. how do i keep them from biting, scratching, kicking, etc. they share a room and since i am nursing i can't be everywhere at once, i need some suggestions please. i don't want to turn into a screaming manaic.i hate yelling as i am soft vspoken anyways..help!!:banghead:
02-16-2009, 11:03 AM
Ugh... I could have written your post. I read your post sitting here listening to my 3 year old twins screaming at each other and then smacking. I wish I had some advice what ever i am doing obviously isn't working :giggle:
Just wanted to give you a :hugs:
02-16-2009, 10:54 PM
My kids usually only resort to violence when there is a disagreement. I have spent considerable amounts of time training my children how to handle disagreements. When I am not nursing I take them aside and we play role-playing games so that they can have practice using their words when someone takes their toy, or knocks over there castle, etc. Once they know how to communicate with words they can work out disagreements.
I don't know if this helps you but I wish you the best in this situation. Remember that they are kids and they don't know how to work things out unless we teach them and they can practice it outside of the situation. Kind of like practicing saying no to drugs!
02-17-2009, 08:22 AM
Don't let them be alone. Take ALL toys out of their room and put them in a common area where they can be supervised. This is a matter of habit. If you can break the habit by being right there and stopping it when it starts they will start a new habit of NOT hitting. It is completely stoppable. I have had 6 in 7.5 years. You don't have to put up with the hitting mama! I hope this is encouraging!
02-17-2009, 02:27 PM
ugh! i'm right there with you. i like the advice these mama's gave, i think i will try the roll playing/practice. i knowyou can't be everywhere at once and they can't always follow you.
02-23-2009, 12:53 PM
I have found that sometimes you can prevent the fighting by changing activities before they might be done. If they are playing for ten minutes depending on age. Also have them play seperately for some time too. When my boys started fighting I would make them do physical activities like running, jumping jacks or push ups. Doesn't matter just get them doing something physical boys need to move a lot. This along with training works great for my family. I have 4 boys 3 are older teens they still get into it at times when bored or have pent up energy.
Good luck finding what works for your family.