My dd is about 18mths now and i'm having trouble cutting off the nursing. I think she's ok now. She's down to only nursing at nap time and bed time for the past month. I rocked her to sleep both at her afternoon nap and bedtime and she was fine :cry: I haven't nursed her at all today. It makes me sad, like i'm letting go of my baby or something :cry: :cry: Anyone else feel like this? I just feel like we're going to lose our special bond or something.
aecryan
05-14-2009, 09:54 PM
:hugs: I cried when ydd weaned herself at 13 months. DS is still nursing a few times a day, but I know that it is coming. :cry: You are not alone mama.
mommyz
05-14-2009, 09:56 PM
:hugs: Been there mama. Your bond will never be affecting. Hang in there.
mommyz
05-14-2009, 09:58 PM
My LO still pats my breasts and when I'm changing or coming out of the shower, he'll pat them then and smile... to me, it's like he's thinking those were my pals, they took care of me. :giggle2:
*~Mindy~*
05-14-2009, 10:02 PM
i dont think i understand why the weaning then. im good at missing things though lol
kitty1163
05-14-2009, 10:03 PM
Cheryl my first lo weaned herself at 13 months ... on Valentines Day. And I cried for a week. I still tear up thinking about it. :cry:
ckck
05-14-2009, 11:12 PM
My LO still pats my breasts and when I'm changing or coming out of the shower, he'll pat them then and smile... to me, it's like he's thinking those were my pals, they took care of me. :giggle2:
lol. That's hilarious :roflmbo:
i dont think i understand why the weaning then. im good at missing things though lol
I think i'm holding on for me, not her :goodvibes: She doesn't need me anymore so i know in my heart it's time to let go. O wants to be a big girl now :cry:
Cheryl my first lo weaned herself at 13 months ... on Valentines Day. And I cried for a week. I still tear up thinking about it. :cry:
:hugs:
ckck
05-14-2009, 11:13 PM
:hugs: I cried when ydd weaned herself at 13 months. DS is still nursing a few times a day, but I know that it is coming. :cry: You are not alone mama.
:hugs: Thanks!
GEM Cloth
05-14-2009, 11:15 PM
Is she self-weaning? Or is it even time to wean if you are not ready?
ktmelody
05-14-2009, 11:15 PM
I know the feeling :hugs: . My DD weaned right after her second birthday and we found out we were expecting again. It was soo bittersweet. She still cuddles with them though. :giggle:
sweetpeaboutique
05-14-2009, 11:17 PM
no advice but :bighug:
JAMmama
05-14-2009, 11:21 PM
It was so hard when Sara didn't nurse anymore... I was 5.5 months preggo with Olivia and she refused to nurse anymore, she just wanted to hold my breast.. it got a little awkward. But it mad me soo sad... it was harder to soothe her and it was a bond that broke, she is more a daddy's girl now :cry: I am hoping to keep Olivia nursing until 2 :pray: I love how she calms down and I calm down when she nurses!!
:hugs: it is hard Cheryl!!
Rebeldream
05-14-2009, 11:44 PM
Hugs!! I can imagine how it hurts!
I dreaded my DD weaning, scared that it would happen before I was ready. However, I started to dry up when she was around 2.5 and at that point I was comfortable with the nursing relationship coming to an end. I told her one day that the Mama Milk was all gone and that was that. She never nursed again. So she was ready, too. It wasn't bittersweet at all. I was thrilled at how easy it was.
I'm feeling all nervous about my DS weaning now. He's 22 months and I definitely don't want to stop yet. (Neither does he. LOL!) I'm hoping that it will be as easy as it was with his sister. But I can imagine how you're feeling. If he were to wean now I wouldn't be ready and would be so incredibly sad.
Congratulations on getting her to this point where she is confident enough to not need to nurse. That's what our jobs are all about! Good job, Mama!!
MammaBx3!
05-15-2009, 01:57 AM
Why are you weaning? Let her nurse as long and as often as she wants mama!
NATTYBATSMOM
05-15-2009, 07:20 AM
Yeah, totally second the above, I'm just NOW really starting to wean and DD is almost three and a half. The main reason though is because I was starting to really resent it. I've cut down and I'm putting a lot of boundaries on it and that's been helping me a lot.
Nursing to the age of two has a TON of great benefits and if you're not ready, looking into holding off a little bit. DH wanted me to go until DD was AT LEAST two so that was what we did and then I wasn't ready when she was two and around a year ago, I decided to let DH bring us to South Korea so I didn't want to wean her before that when she obviously wasn't ready and I was okay with it so it wasn't a big deal but now we're here and things haven't really changed with our living situation in the last six months and I'm thinking it's time to start the process. Really, she's great as far as not nursing when we're out and stuff so it's just at home that's the problem.
wanting3more
05-15-2009, 09:24 AM
i dont think i understand why the weaning then.
Why are you weaning? Let her nurse as long and as often as she wants mama!
:yeahthat:
Most children will not self wean before 2 years. Is she refusing you, or are you trying to cut back the nursing because you think it is what you are supposed to do?
bubbalooX4
05-15-2009, 09:26 AM
:hugs: I'm sorry, Cheryl!
As you know, Noah has completely stopped nursing and he's only 5 months :cry: That was really really hard for me.
Maybe it's just a stage she's going through? Keep offering it to her and maybe she'll change her mind.
velcromom
05-15-2009, 09:30 AM
I think that's your instinct talking. Your baby is really too young to be stopping, and it's not only ok but a good thing for you to encourage her to hang on to those last couple of nursing sessions. Self weaning is rare before 18-24 months so if you are feeling like it's not time yet, you are not wrong or trying to keep her a baby or anything like that.
this link has some helpful info about what self-weaning is and why it sometimes appears that babies start to lose interest before it's really time to truly wean
As you know, Noah has completely stopped nursing and he's only 5 months :cry: That was really really hard for me.
Maybe it's just a stage she's going through? Keep offering it to her and maybe she'll change her mind.
:cry: I cannot imagine
harmoni247
05-15-2009, 09:34 AM
I made DS1 wean at 9 months :cry: I was totally done with the biting and was only planning on going for a year anyway
what a mistake! I was fine at first, but then I really missed it :( and DS went through a phase after he got an ear infection and I put BM in his ear (this was after DS2 was born and I had BM again)....everytime I laid him down, he'd point at my boob and at his ear because he wanted me to put some in his ear....I felt like that meant he wasn't ready to be without and he still wanted to BF....but I knew he would bite and not remember how to suck, otherwise, I would've considered starting him again....I mean, he's fine now, but i definitely felt like a bond was broken :cry: don't feel like you have to wean yet!
slvoss
05-15-2009, 11:52 PM
She may want to nurse still? You don't have to let it go? Even having a special time to nurse once or twice a day is great. It gives you two special time away. My DD is 19 months and I hope we go until she is 30 months. It truly is special and she only nurses about 3 times a day...
It doesn't have to be all or nothing. It should feel right for both of you. :)
