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MarmotMommy 09-25-2011 12:02 PM

Ok, I just have to get this off my chest. DH has a 17yo daughter from a prior relationship (doesn't live with us), and we have a 7mo. DD1 is jealous of DD2. As in, she didn't want to come meet her new sister, she doesn't want to hold her, she says things like, "Ew. You're wet and icky" if DD2 has spit on her hands (um, she's a BABY, for cripes sake). Seriously? I'd expect this from a 5yo, but not an almost-adult.

Ok, sorry, just needed to vent in a safe place.

Beaners_Mom 09-26-2011 07:35 AM

Some people don't like babies. I would hold them but I freaked out if one spit up on my or got poop on me. I remember crying one time when my nephew got boogers all over me. I was older than 17. Lol.

She's been the "baby" for 17 years & now there's someone new around. She'll either come around or she won't.

jcalumna 09-26-2011 07:38 AM

What kind of relationship did DD2 have with her father & your BEFORE the baby?

DD2's reactions are probably not stemming from jealousy of DD1, but other issues.

creative*genius 10-03-2011 05:03 PM

:hugs: I'm sorry that you are upset. But - a 17 year old is STILL a child. They do not think rationally and their world is STILL all about themselves. So, try not to take it too personally. And actually, if she is jealous, that would tell me she really misses her dad, which is understandable (no matter how long it's been since the divorce... some kids always dream that their parents will still get back together). ... Also - I have a bit of experience being in your DD2's shoes. I have a half sister that cut off relations with us for a while - same reason. She is 11 years older than me and my parents did everything they could to make her a part of the family when she was growing up even though she didn't live with us. ... They live in TX (we are in MD), so we aren't "close", but we text, FB, etc. So, things are better. I call her my "sister", but we will never have the kind of relationship I wish I'd have with a sister. ... Good thing I have a brother, too! ;D ... Hope she comes around eventually.

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