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SewGreenBaby 08-11-2012 01:50 PM

Tell me about your chart system!
I'm implementing a behavior chart today and wondering if this is a good system for my 4 yo son. He is very defiant, whines a lot and has trouble listening, especially when Dad is home!

I printed off a behavior bucks chart and paper bucks. He gets one buck everyday and if he misbehaves it gets taken away. Also he can earn one extra one by allowing me to brush his teeth without a fight, listening, not whining, eating his dinner and behaving through bed time. If I warn him that he won't get his buck because he's not following one of these rules and he still chooses to disobey then he doesn't get that extra buck. What do y'all think? Is it too lenient? If he's an angel all week then he can earn $14 and pick a toy of his choosing from the store. My concern is that even if he acts up half the time, he still ends up with $7! :giggle: Is there a better system? I know I can't expect him to behave a whole week, at least not yet. Maybe when he's older and gets used to having a reward system in place.

threelittlehoneys 08-11-2012 01:58 PM

Personally I would avoid cash rewards w a 4 yo, maybe use something that is a little more of an instant gratification until his behavior improves, then switch to an accumulative type reward.

sent from my phone, still getting used to it!

lilkidteach 08-11-2012 03:32 PM

Re: Tell me about your chart system!
We used the accountable kids program. We really liked it. It seemed to help our boys learn that if you do well you get to do things you want.

luvsviola 08-11-2012 04:25 PM

Re: Tell me about your chart system!
We have a chart system (per DS's therapist).

If he does what we ask the first time, he gets a smiley face. 10 smileys=a new hot wheels car. The chart on the fridge has 10 boxes in it, and he likes to count how many he has to go.

For DD1 who is 5, 100 smileys=trip to Monkey Joes (the bounce place).

DS's therapist's main thing is---only target 1 behavior at a time. If you are targeting several behaviors, it looses its effectiveness since the 3-4 year old set is just starting to be able to understand the connection.

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