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DragonBoy 10-21-2012 02:50 PM

Night Time Challenges and YOUR SOLUTIONS, PLEASE!????!!
 
Well, we started EC 3 months,ago....daytime is,success..about all day no misses, then when daddy,arrives home..it is miss after miss until bedtime....Daddy is,supportive and will gladly take DS to pee, but still needs reminding that DS has small bladder, I.e I STRONGLY ENCOURAGE daddy to "Pottytunity"

O.k situation is: It works best I cosleep, I have woobies and am SAHM, I DONT need to get up at 6am and be professional, so it is,best DH gets rest. I am the onewho started EC, still haven't purchased Andrea's book yet...but I am currently sooo confused AND FRUSTRATED AND ZOMBIFIED!!!

DS, 8mo- will nurse to sleep, 20 later, squirmy indicates need to be, I slide,to side of bed, cradle position/knees up/frogger position and DS knows thats pee time. Usually he keeps eyes shut..and I can lay him down again...then it is another 30 min before more squirminess, and I respond. Sometimes I need,to nurse him back to sleep, and sometimes its back to "squirmy every 20-30min= pee"...

50% of the,time DS whimpers as his,signal...50% is squirmyness

Ugh.....i know this is called Elimination COMMUNICATION...but waking 8-9x/night has finally taken its toll on me/DH and DS.
DS slept afternoon nap almost 5hrs (usually its 2+half)
DH had to listen to my,frustration of "round the clock" work/potty person
..AND I AM,conxerned DS looks,exhausted..vein near DS,eyes,looks,dark and dark circles ariund eyes, am I causing DS To lose,sleep/engrergy bc I am so determined???

I blew my top, I told DH I want him to also read about EC, and try to find a,resolution, I want him to REALIZE just HOW MUCH ENERGY/TIME/PATIENCE that I am putting into EC.

He calls it PottyTraining..i always correct him and say I am not coercing DS, I am just simply responding to DS.
DH continues to remind me that DS is 8months and agrees it is,a,whole new,challenge for both if us. DH continues to remind me "just have FUN raising our son"....Of which I say...yes, I am enjoying this little guy, but I AM TAXED OUT RIGHT NOW!!!

I also related it to housebreaking a,puppy....I said it is,ALL worth it (sooo much easier/less time than cleaning up after poopy diaper!)...but .....I SAID IT IS,STILL WORK!!! However you slice it!!

DH suggested a) work on my stress management skills b) put trainer/pull up on DS at night

Hmmm but I am CONFUSED.....DS IS GREAT B/C he squirms /whulimpers prior to a pee...if I put him in a,pull up (i have once) he still squirms/whimpers..and then I wake anyways....and then what?!?...Ignore DS's communication???

Uggh...i need help, I dont get it!!!

I am trying to be consistent...as everything in life..IF CONSISTENT..is easier for all...

I am open to All suggestions/Feedback/Comments

strongwoman 10-21-2012 05:50 PM

Re: Night Time Challenges and YOUR SOLUTIONS, PLEASE!????!!
 
I thought I had posted earlier but I must have hit the wrong button as my DS peed- missed a catch! Anyway, I'm definitely not an expert at EC since I just started with my newborn six weeks ago but, I can identify with some of your frustrations. I think it's great that you are responding to his signals but at night, you really need your rest. In Andrea's book she explains that sleeping and eating both trump pottying at night. In other words, pottying is not nearly as important as sleep for you and your little one. I tend to want to be consistent with everything all the time too but the truth is, life is never going to be consistent all the time, especially with a little one- and I have THREE little ones under 5 yo. I think Your DS will be able to adjust to the changes that happen when you can't potty him at night. EC-ing part time is totally ok, too. I get frustrated with my DH too, when he doesn't understand how i am trying to help us save money on washing diapers by doing EC. When i talked to him about it, he said its not that he doesnt care, hes just so busy trying to take care of everything else (paying bills, etc.) that EC takes the back seat. Andrea also has a section in her book that is nicely laid out for dads to understand how to EC. Anywho, get the rest you need so you can be the best wife to your DH and mama to your DS. Because if the mama's not happy, nobody's happy!

DragonBoy 10-21-2012 08:12 PM

Re: Night Time Challenges and YOUR SOLUTIONS, PLEASE!????!!
 
Dang !!! Thnk YOU STRO NG WOMAN....now u totally know just how to explicitly tekll me and interpret rhe book...i must say it is really challenging to be a wife a momma and just try to be ME.. I never never thought an infant could strain our realationship sooo much!!! It,is the hardest job...and I raced Ironman triathlon!...thnx...i did read diaoper free and another EC book...i like what u say.foood/sleep trumpEC... Hmmm u also say happy momma .= everybody happy...
I gtta learn to b better wife, but truly...i am doi ng g the darn besf job I can without commiting suicide or insane asylum or, turn to food/alcohol..
DH sys if he eseesus happy then its all good .wow!

CaptainUnderpants'Mom 11-06-2012 12:22 PM

Re: Night Time Challenges and YOUR SOLUTIONS, PLEASE!????!!
 
For night time DS (11 mos) is in pull up/snap off trainers with a wool or fleece pull up soaker or longies. Potty stay by the bed and in case of leaks we have a mattress protector or small sheet saver mat on top of sheets under his bottom. Cosleeping makes a lot easier. Night time can be some of the best time for EC, as some babies wake consistently when they have to go. I find this is the case with my son.

Pandabutt 12-02-2012 01:39 PM

Re: Night Time Challenges and YOUR SOLUTIONS, PLEASE!????!!
 
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Originally Posted by CaptainUnderpants'Mom (Post 15903285)
For night time DS (11 mos) is in pull up/snap off trainers with a wool or fleece pull up soaker or longies. Potty stay by the bed and in case of leaks we have a mattress protector or small sheet saver mat on top of sheets under his bottom. Cosleeping makes a lot easier. Night time can be some of the best time for EC, as some babies wake consistently when they have to go. I find this is the case with my son.

I agree too. I have the bowl from the baby bjorn potty seat next to me in bed and whenever the LO wakes up, I put her straight on the toilet that's in my lap. She pees, wipe, and back to sleeping next to me.

It'll get better!!!! Just hang in there, momma!


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