Cloth Diapers & Parenting Community - DiaperSwappers.com

Cloth Diapers & Parenting Community - DiaperSwappers.com (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/index.php)
-   Parenting Talk (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=12)
-   -   Serious Problems with my 7yr old (http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/showthread.php?t=169271)

GrahamBaby4 06-19-2007 03:18 PM

Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
Okay, First let me give you a bit of information on him.
he is rather Large (almost 5ft tall and 83lbs) He will be 8 the end of July. He just finished the 2nd grade where I had him tested for special ed because he would refuse to do any sort of writing or anything else he didn't feel like doing and would cry instead of getting things done. So, they tested him at the school with a psychologist/psychatrist from the district... he told me I was in BIG trouble, the child, even though he refused to do the portion of the test that requires him to pick up a darned writing utinsel he scored near genius and above on all the tests. He says, "he's just stubborn and thinks he isn't as smart as the rest of the class because he doesn't think the way they do" So, we get through the year. He is of course reading on 4th-5th grade level and failing miserably in writing, which is something that no matter what the punishment or reward is, its not getting done, because it isn't important to him.

So fast forward to today. He almost kills his 3 yr old brother over a lego smaller than 1cm, and shows no remorse, thinks its okay that he was going to hurt him this badly over this specific toy. :headscratch: and then... about 5 minutes later his other brother 5 yrs old is crying and screaming at him, so I call them both up from the toy room and send older ds to his room, because he shows no signs of having a clue what he has done, and I ask the younger one, why were you screaming? and he says... D says when he grows up he's going to kill everyone:banghead: So I call DH freaking out because first this is the 7th time this summer that I have had to cancel any kind of fun activity we were going to do because of this child's behavior and the fact that he SAID that and shows every sign of being serious and doesn't seem to have the social knowledge that he is WAY OFF!!! So, I am trying to figure out what is wrong with this child, He doesn't have any social skills, his IQ is incredibly high and emotionally he knows how to maniplate everyone around him. I am at a total loss with him. I can't even go to the grocery store with the 3 of them because of this one!!! its not the fact there are 3 of them, last year I took 6 to the store with no problems. He cannot behave for longer than 20 seconds, and that is MAX of twenty seconds!! His teacher was pulling her hair out and I'd go in and cry with her because we couldn't figure him out. I am an intelligent person, but I am at a total loss with this child. My DH says we might have to send him to a mental hospital to have them evaluate him because we can only do so much!!


ADDING this info.... He also takes NO responsibility for his own actions, it is always someone elses fault, never his.

jls~Kain~Drake 06-19-2007 03:21 PM

Re: Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
I don't have any idea, but :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

ferrferr 06-19-2007 03:23 PM

Re: Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
Woah. :hugs: mama....

I'd get him in to see a therapist ASAP. Aggression like that is NOT okay at any age, and the fact that he verbalized killing people when he gets older would be like getting hit by a big red truck. There is WAY more going on in his head that needs to be straighted out.

haynmama 06-19-2007 03:38 PM

Re: Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by ferrferr (Post 1309833)
Woah. :hugs: mama....

I'd get him in to see a therapist ASAP. Aggression like that is NOT okay at any age, and the fact that he verbalized killing people when he gets older would be like getting hit by a big red truck. There is WAY more going on in his head that needs to be straighted out.

I agree, and have no advice but a lot of: :grouphug: My cousin recently adpoted her DH's grandkids and one of them is very aggressive and takes pride and joy in hurting others. She takes him to a therapist once a week and says it's helped tremendously. He was diagnosed w/ADHD, but she is trying to not go the med-route. :hugs:

travelinmom 06-19-2007 03:44 PM

Re: Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
I agree he needs to see a professional, it's not normal behavior for any age. Take him in

GrahamBaby4 06-19-2007 05:06 PM

Re: Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
small step update. I did call a friend of mine (a mother to one of the girls in his class) who does mostly drug rehab therapy and family therapy and we discussed the whole incident and how he doesn't take any responsibility for his actions, she gave me a few names of individuals to contact who do play therapy since he doesn't take responsibility and therefore can show no remorse for his actions, but because she knows him and has enjoyed talking to him over the last few years and he trust her and will tell her anything whereas most adults he can "fool" into thinking he isn't as smart as he is and he really doesn't know. So she said if these three names don't come through call her back and we will figure out something. She really doesn't want to do therapy on a child she knows for multiple reasons, and I totally understand, and I told her that because she knows him and he loves talking to her it was just the first person that popped into my mind for him to talk to about what he is going through. She completely agrees but would like him to see someone else.
So I will be doing lots of phone calls and seeing if medicaid will pay for any of it.

Infinity 06-19-2007 05:17 PM

Re: Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
I agree. Get him mentally evaluated by a professional outside of the educational/school system. They don’t like to pay for helping kids so they error on the side of everythings ok. Your DS sounds so much like my little brother it’s creepy!! He’s bipolar and on high doses of two kinds of antipsychotics, sees a phyc 2 times a week and has a behavioral specialists that comes in the home or to activities (ie school, gymnastics) once a week. My mom has had to learn how to discipline him differently and teach him wrong from right.

GL getting him and you some help!!

shana0923 06-19-2007 05:43 PM

Re: Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
Sounds like my nephew who has Asperger's and now they are thinking possible bipolar or possible schizophrenic. He has recently started stealing everything and the thing he takes the most is knives and he just started the whole I am going to cut you or kill you thing too. It is very scary and I don't know what they are going to do about it. I am praying for you and your son.

crystalkicks 06-19-2007 05:50 PM

Re: Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
Im praying for you too!! Im so happy that you are smart enough to realize that this is a serious issue and your family is at risk!! Please keep us posted!!

mommypatton521 06-19-2007 05:57 PM

Re: Serious Problems with my 7yr old
 
very scary and unfortunate. I'd definately try and get him into therapy and hopefully you can get some reasons....:hugs:


All times are GMT -6. The time now is 09:58 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
vB.Sponsors