Re: HOW does one decide?!
It IS a hard decision to make...in our case it is even harder because there is no "obvious" choice. My parents are too elderly and I would never allow my dad to raise my kids....my step mom would be fantastic but as long as my dad is alive then no way. My DH's parents are divorced and neither is a good candidate. I am estranged from one sister and not close to my other brother. Neither of DH's siblings are a possibility SO that leaves.....my eldest sister. She would be an amazing mom to my kids although my brother-in-law has panic attacks and does not do well with small children. Despite this, my sister has agreed to keep the kids together and raise them if the worst should happen. She would provide a good life for them.........poor brother in law (I love him like a brother but he would just have to make it work).