Re: Birthing things
LOL, I should have added there was no way the OB could have told I would have torn that badly. He was following my wishes and didn't give me an episiotomy but my son came out kinda wonky (that sounds nice, LOL) and just kinda tore through everything.
I think it depends on the baby and the situation, etc. and sometimes it's so hard to tell what will or would have happened had it gone the other way. I can tell you my friend who had her second baby - her two daughters are about 18 or less months apart. So even though she tore really badly, it seemed to hold up OK - although yours will be even closer in age!