Re: preemie blankets
I don't have any blanket suggestions as we were allowed to hold our son all the time but used the nicu blankets. Each baby was given a hand knit or crocheted blanket while there.
What I can suggest is that you give it her so she can sleep with it for a few nights so it carries her scent. Our nicu nurse suggested that and I like to believe it helped our son know we were with him even when we couldn't be there at night.