Re: how to make the choice to have another, when you know you can't SAHM?
I know how you feel. I had 2 beautiful children, ages 5 and 7, and was working full time, and still felt like something was missing in my life. We decided to leave it up to God, and lo and behold, we got pregnant right away. I was stressing out about nursing, childcare, etc, the ENTIRE pregnancy. It's a really good thing we left everything in God's hands because 4 days after ds was born I was laid off. Well, we lost our home and have had to completely rearrange our lives and finances, but it was the BEST thing that has ever happened to me! I'm a firm believer that if you have faith and trust in God's plan for you, things will work out one way or another, even if it's not what you had in mind.
Children are such a gift, that even if you have to work and can't breastfeed, they will still enrich your life beyond compare. So, I say go for it!