Re: Should I stay home?
So if you quit one of your jobs, you'd still be able to pay the bills and you'd just be putting less towards your debt snowball? Have you done out the math on how long it will take to get rid of the debt under the current plan and then again if you cut your work hours down? I feel like you need to see what the difference would be and then decide if it's worth the stress to you to continue on the current path or if a change can/should be made.
84 hours a week is insane. The only way I could see doing that would be in a short term situation (say an accountant during the last 6 weeks of tax season) or as a medical resident or something like that (and even residents are now supposed to be limited in their work hours). It's just not a tenable situation IMO, especially if your spouse doesn't SAH.