Re: M/C?? Food poisoning (children mentioned)
All DH's are different, of course, but mine mostly just wanted hugs and to have people acknowledge that it was his loss, too. Too many people think it's just a mom thing and forget that there are other people who loved the baby, too - partner, siblings, grandparents, etc. He said the hardest part for him was that I had all sorts of boards I could go on to chat about it with other women, but there was really nothing equivalent for men.
A lot of guys are very action-oriented, though - they need to DO something to make themselves feel better. Maybe if you went together to pick out a tree in the baby's honor, and have him plant it?
Grateful mama to earth-baby DD2 (9/2011)
missing spirit-baby DD1 (9/2009, 3rd trimester) and the little ones who only stayed a few weeks
hoping DD1 returns when we TTC again in Dec 2014 - counting the days!
"Death can't stop True Love - it can only delay it for a while." - The Princess Bride