i agree with you all who say to wait. i dont want my kids to get confused or hurt. ive seen many of my friends bring man after man into their kids lives and confuse the crap out of them by having them call the man daddy. i know a little girl who is 3.5 and has called 9 or 10 different men daddy. by no means do i want that for my kids.
i figure over time, they will know who loves them and cares for them, and they will come to the conclusion who is "dad" and who their "father" is. E is the best thing that has ever happened to us. and i really hope it stays that way! thank you all for your advice!