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I made it very clear that I was first to hold both DS (after DH) no matter how long it took. My mom was very patient. I also only had my mom and DH come to both births. With DS1 I had him brought to recovery shortly after, I think that is a very reasonable request. I even tried to nurse in recovery.

DS2 went to the NICU so noone got to hold him on day 1, but my mom was not allowed to go see him until I got to. She had to wait hours bc I got sick and fell asleep, but she waited.

I would put down rules and make them known. If someone cant respect your wishes they do not need to be there. It is about you and your new LO.

I agree with PP have DH advocate for you.

ETA- IME the 2nd C section was easier than the first.

Also OT- but with DS2 I got apple juice/apple sauce with every meal after delivering and it made things move along much better in the umm bowel dept.