Re: I don't want to be a Mommy Martyr anymore
That's a really good point, sometimes I think I let my kids be a security blanket as well.
Originally Posted by shouldbedoinglaundry
I think that having a baby on your hip can be like a security blanket. My husband will often be playing with one baby and I want to hold the other for no reason. He is not crying or anything; I just want to hold him!
It's a really great idea to start taking consistent time out for yourself w/o the kids. I think maybe using that as a baby step will help you eventually feel less guilty when you buy yourself something fun with extra money. As another poster stated, you need to make sure you're getting some time to yourself and that you're being filled up, or else you'll eventually snap!