Re: pumping question..
I have a Lansinoh double electric pump and I found that it hurt much less than the Medela did. The cups are softer and have a slightly larger attachment tube, which pinched less during pumping. It did hurt for me in the beginning.
Each time I pumped, I would start it low and when it stopped being uncomfortable I'd up it a notch or two. Eventually, I got to the point that I could pump 8 oz from each side at a time (major success!!!). I suggest that you try it for a week or so with a tube of lanolin close by (use liberally!) and if you don't feel better about it, discuss it with DH and let him down slowly.
Sorry, mama. Good luck!
Babywearing, breastfeeding, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, gaging, dready momma to two gorgeous babes - Simon 4/12/13 and Jayden 1/26/11