Re: anyone else with a failed VBAC?
My mom had 3 c sections. I was her first and I was taken a month early by emergency c section because she and I almost died. Then she had a planned c section with #2 and tried for a vba2c with #3. She went 3 WEEKS overdue with my youngest sister and never even had any signs of starting labor so she had a c section. Her body just didn't seem to know what to do I guess. Maybe because her other 2 had come by c section before any dilating or effacing and her body just thought that was normal? I have no clue but if you dwell on it then it does no good for anybody. You got your babies into the world safely so you did your job.
The only time you should look in your neighbor's bowl is to make sure that they have enough. You don't look in your neighbor's bowl to see if you have as much as them.