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Old 05-19-2012, 06:47 PM   #4
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Being a little flexible with each other. Yes, get things in writing, but then being willing to accommodate each other went a long ways. Letting him have something he wanted also made it easier for me to ask and get things I wanted that were "off text"

Also, at first we were splitting all kinds of expenses - dc, camp, co-pays. Now we do it - your place is yours and mine is mine. SO much better, but then my ex is a super invasive creature, so maybe that is specific to this case...

Anyway, doing everything I could to keep it civil - including editing out all the angry words from my emails. It's energy consuming but I get what I want more often and it's better for DD when things are polite and civil on the surface, no matter how I feel inside
Jamie, anthropologist mom to O (12-18-99), E (12-30-04) and R (4-22-10) Married to my best friend .
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