Being a little flexible with each other. Yes, get things in writing, but then being willing to accommodate each other went a long ways. Letting him have something he wanted also made it easier for me to ask and get things I wanted that were "off text"
Also, at first we were splitting all kinds of expenses - dc, camp, co-pays. Now we do it - your place is yours and mine is mine. SO much better, but then my ex is a super invasive creature, so maybe that is specific to this case...
Anyway, doing everything I could to keep it civil - including editing out all the angry words from my emails. It's energy consuming but I get what I want more often and it's better for DD when things are polite and civil on the surface, no matter how I feel inside
anthropologist mom to O
(12-30-04) and R
(4-22-10) Married to my best friend