Oh, and accept that he will do things differently than you and let it go. You can't parent at his house and you don't want him parenting at yours. He will have different rules, and may do things you HATE. Too bad. Unless he is seriously endangering them, or he asks your opinion, keep your mouth shut.
anthropologist mom to O
(12-30-04) and R
(4-22-10) Married to my best friend