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Old 06-01-2012, 03:39 PM   #17
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Re: Homebirth mama's check in?

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Originally Posted by nicolenoel View Post
How many births have you had? 2 c-sections. My son was born via a scheduled cesarean February 2008 due to his large size. Naive me assumed the dr had our best interest at heart and if he was highly recommending a c-section there must have been a valid reason for it. Oh if I knew then what I know now. DS was 9 lbs 10 oz at birth but consenting to the section is something I beat myself up over on a regular basis because I know I would have birthed him naturally. I went my entire pregnancy with my daughter planning on a hospital vbac. Dr's were fine with it up until 39 weeks when a specialist told DH and I at an appointment that everyday that the baby was in utero greatly increased the chance of her being born still because I had gestational diabetes (that was well controlled.) He told us it was in my file that he highly recommended scheduling a repeat section and if we choose not to do so, we were going against his medical advice. Scare tactics worked and DD was born 3 days later via a repeat section (although I tried castor oil in the mean time to try to kick start things). I really feel like I cheated myself out of a part of motherhood and I suppose that unless you have felt that being taken away from you, it is probably hard to understand.
Not at all. I saw it as a social worker in a hospital, and as a friend watching my friends be pressured into the same choices (some of whom decided to have only one child after the experience). I am happy to have had so much guidance in my first pregnancy, and wish I could guide other women to avoid the same situations.

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Originally Posted by li'l skeeter View Post
[COLOR=#462947]How many births have you had? Zero! This is my first!
So excited that you're going "against the grain" as it were. Good for you and please don't let their discomfort bug you. My last DS was born at home, unassisted, and my MIL thinks I'm completely insane (though she would never admit it). It's hard and i tell most people just "he was born at home" and avoid the looks of disgust I get.
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