My ex left over 5 years ago when the boys were 1 and 2. The whole process of a divorce was much harder on me at times than him actually leaving. It took us a year and a half to get divorced. I was in graduate school at the time so it was easy to keep myself busy, I think that helped a ton. A church in town had a support group too. I hadn't been to church since I got married, it was really wonderful. I can't remember what it was called but there are classes all over.
Somedays are still hard. My ex and his new wife have a HUGE beautiful house while I have a regular house. My oldest is always asking why nobody wants to marry me...so it still hurts at times but that really horrible feeling does go away.
Suzi, working mama to my ODS(2004),
and married to the love of my life