We talked about it, I didn't bring up any of the other stuff as that's how I feel personally and has nothing to do with her deciding she deserves to be called mommy.
I just said that I was upset that they were teaching her to keep secrets, lie to me and they were upsetting her by saying I would be angry with her. There were a few times we would be outside and she's pick me flowers and say "mommy this is so you won't be angry at me anymore" and it just made me so sad that she thinks I would be.
He denies all of it, which is his usual take on things. I'm not sure if he started having her call his GF mommy, if the GF started it or if my DD did...but she came home the other afternoon and said she called her by her real name & not mommy anymore.