Re: How specific are you with wish lists for the kids??
It usually depends who is asking.
I know a lot of people dislike giving gift cards (my MIL would never give a gift card, she likes to shop). Generally if someone does ask though I would have no problem saying "we are in need of size 6 clothes, generally we stick to brands like X, Y, Z because the fit for DS is better and the quality last longer since my DS is rough on his clothes".
I think most people would understand that. Clothing all fits differently so it would help eliminate returns. Also if you get someone who doesn't like to go to gymboree, crazy 8, etc; they will most likely at least include a gift receipt.
I also do a lot of consumables, books, workbooks, crayons, stickers, crafts, etc.
-Kathy, a WOHM mom to Victoria (11/11/07) and Lukas James (11/6/2012)!