No words/sayings, must be clean and match. No tacky bikinis, must be a tankini or rash guard. Usually ds picks out his shirt and I find the matching shorts for him. Jammie's are his time for self expression, and as long as they are seasonally appropriate, anything goes. Dd is too young to notice still, so I can still be a total control freak with her.
Sorry if I haven't gotten back with anyone via PM. Still learning the iPhone app and not very "techy".